Do your kids still sleep on your bed?

[winth]

Hi Zack,


Thanks for the share and really thanks for not bombarding me.

I wonder if anyone follows 'SuperNanny' Series? It's where I've learnt all the useful stances for managing my children.

In the show, it shows children (daily behaviour), then SuperNanny intervenes, then shows children (changed behaviour). The program usually talks about how to handle children's bedtime bec it is a problem to most parents of older children.

I especially like her 'after that' method. It involves informing the child what happens 'after that'. E.g. After you have your dinner, you rest for x mins. After you rest, you go for your shower. After you shower, you will go to the bedroom to get changed. After you change, you will read book with Mummy. After you read book with Mummy, you will go to bed. Mummy will have the lights off, and after that you go to bed. It is done systematically and the parent keeps talking to the child, so that the child will know this is the routine, the key to this technique is to keep to the routine, like bedtime at 8pm so that the child will not get surprises.

In her 'bedtime technique', once mummy lights off. Usually the child will protest and come out of bedroom/cry. Parent then tell the child it's bedtime, and calmly brings child back to bed. Third, fourth time for as long as it requires. Patience and Calmness is required from parent.

It works wonders! You might want to watch the SuperNanny (now it's new season at ArtCentral) and learn some stances from there. Now, SuperNanny new season she concentrates on family games that they can play with, so I'm learning new games there too. Inexpensive and Value-adding.

Hope you find it useful.

[ZacK]

Hi Winth,


Hahaha why shd you be \"bombarded\"?? Because what you have highlighted is not baseless

Yeap I did catch SuperNanny once awhile when time avails. I do agree that:

- Kids need be told what is expected of them (which I used on my son)
- Kids need to follow a routine as operating outside of their norms will stress them. My boy is a real stickler for routines, anytime his routine is broken, he'll not be agreeable :roll:

Unfortunately for me, his routine is to have me sleeping with him. So this is something I'll have to break and re-establish a slightly different sleeping routine for him.

Thanks again for sharing

[Luanee]

My 6-yr old girl has been sleeping in the same room with us (different bed). Now she has a 1-yr old sister to sleep with but problem is the younger one still need night feeds so it be quite troublesome if we move both of them to their new room. I am hoping the elder one can sleep on her own as we moving to new place and be buying a new bed with pink bedsheets for her. Keeping fingers crossed

[ZacK]

Hmm the presence of kids does add \"spice\" to married lives but also present real issues like lack of privacy for husbands and wives in many cases.


I guess we (dads and mums) must make a more conscious effort to go for pte dates away from our beloved young ones to keep the spark alive

[PowerPuff Mum]

My DD slept with us till she’s 3 years old… The 1st 6 months was tough cos she would come to our room every night and I have to take her back to her room. Poor me… I had eyebags and permanent sleep deprivation.


But after that, it is smooth sailing and we have no problems whatesoever. I think it is important to have couple time and the children should sleep on their own. (Easier said than done, I know! But if you persevere it’ll pay off)

I have seen so many couples just co-existing and not having a "real" relationship after they have kids. Couples need to make time for one another and invest time to strengthen their relationship, this simple means you have to make time to talk, communicate and private time /intimacy which will be beneficial for the whole family anyway.

[mckenzy]

to be fair, if its a girl… i noticed that the ‘mummy’ has to handle the sleepless nights and us daddy’s just sleep blissfully away… AND vice versa…


sometimes i still pop over to my 10 year old boys room to have a sleepover… end up, the master bedroom nobody!

[ChiefKiasu]

mckenzy:

to be fair, if its a girl... i noticed that the 'mummy' has to handle the sleepless nights and us daddy's just sleep blissfully away... AND vice versa...


sometimes i still pop over to my 10 year old boys room to have a sleepover... end up, the master bedroom nobody!

Everytime I sleep on the same bed with my children, I get kicked in the face, stomach, and finally off the bed. It's worst than a football match.

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CKS wrote: [quote]Everytime I sleep on the same bed with my children, I get kicked in the face, stomach, and finally off the bed. It's worst than a football match.[/quote]
:lol:

Everytime I invite both my kids to sleep with me when my dh is away, I ended up feeling like a hamburger being sandwich between the two of them. The whole night I can't move. It's like a N-S magnet. Ended up, I have back ache in the morning.

[EstherTan]

I just saw this post…


I kinda ‘threw’ daughter out when she was 4 months old. We slept with her in between us for the first 3 months (it made feeding easier) and we not rely on the monitor to let us know when she’s awake in the mornings.

I have 2 cousins (1 boy, 17 years and a younger sister P4) who are BOTH still sleeping with my uncle and auntie. They started sleeping with them from young and have never been successful in being moved out. (Not sure how hard they try though…)

[kai]

hmmm.. interesting topic to rant on.. my ger who is 4 this yr stil slps between me and hubs but guess it started off as she was the first child den & i wanted to bond more with her before she slps as im a FTWM & she spent the whole day with e caregiver already.. now my #2 boy i started him off having him sleep in his cot alone & having the cot at the same room with the caregiver next door.. everything worked out fine & was even planning soon i can get my ger to shift out of our room too.. but lately the weather starts to get humid & we had to utilise the air con (which we usually dun as both my kids have super dry skin & adding to hubs having asthma).. when its bed time.. we had to 'chase' the lil boy out of the room n tel him its bedtime.. i started to feel bad.. of not having him around in the room too wif us.... hence lately i gave in.. lost the battle.. & now.. wat i get is.. punches & kicks & backaches coz our bed is just not enuff for 4 of us.. & yesh.. it was my own choice.. so..