Do your kids still sleep on your bed?

[ZacK]

Hi Winth,


Hahaha why shd you be \"bombarded\"?? Because what you have highlighted is not baseless

Yeap I did catch SuperNanny once awhile when time avails. I do agree that:

- Kids need be told what is expected of them (which I used on my son)
- Kids need to follow a routine as operating outside of their norms will stress them. My boy is a real stickler for routines, anytime his routine is broken, he'll not be agreeable :roll:

Unfortunately for me, his routine is to have me sleeping with him. So this is something I'll have to break and re-establish a slightly different sleeping routine for him.

Thanks again for sharing

[Luanee]

My 6-yr old girl has been sleeping in the same room with us (different bed). Now she has a 1-yr old sister to sleep with but problem is the younger one still need night feeds so it be quite troublesome if we move both of them to their new room. I am hoping the elder one can sleep on her own as we moving to new place and be buying a new bed with pink bedsheets for her. Keeping fingers crossed

[ZacK]

Hmm the presence of kids does add \"spice\" to married lives but also present real issues like lack of privacy for husbands and wives in many cases.


I guess we (dads and mums) must make a more conscious effort to go for pte dates away from our beloved young ones to keep the spark alive

[PowerPuff Mum]

My DD slept with us till she’s 3 years old… The 1st 6 months was tough cos she would come to our room every night and I have to take her back to her room. Poor me… I had eyebags and permanent sleep deprivation.


But after that, it is smooth sailing and we have no problems whatesoever. I think it is important to have couple time and the children should sleep on their own. (Easier said than done, I know! But if you persevere it’ll pay off)

I have seen so many couples just co-existing and not having a "real" relationship after they have kids. Couples need to make time for one another and invest time to strengthen their relationship, this simple means you have to make time to talk, communicate and private time /intimacy which will be beneficial for the whole family anyway.

[mckenzy]

to be fair, if its a girl… i noticed that the ‘mummy’ has to handle the sleepless nights and us daddy’s just sleep blissfully away… AND vice versa…


sometimes i still pop over to my 10 year old boys room to have a sleepover… end up, the master bedroom nobody!

[ChiefKiasu]

mckenzy:

to be fair, if its a girl... i noticed that the 'mummy' has to handle the sleepless nights and us daddy's just sleep blissfully away... AND vice versa...


sometimes i still pop over to my 10 year old boys room to have a sleepover... end up, the master bedroom nobody!

Everytime I sleep on the same bed with my children, I get kicked in the face, stomach, and finally off the bed. It's worst than a football match.

[en107rn.01056yahoo.01056com.01056sg]

CKS wrote: [quote]Everytime I sleep on the same bed with my children, I get kicked in the face, stomach, and finally off the bed. It's worst than a football match.[/quote]
:lol:

Everytime I invite both my kids to sleep with me when my dh is away, I ended up feeling like a hamburger being sandwich between the two of them. The whole night I can't move. It's like a N-S magnet. Ended up, I have back ache in the morning.

[EstherTan]

I just saw this post…


I kinda ‘threw’ daughter out when she was 4 months old. We slept with her in between us for the first 3 months (it made feeding easier) and we not rely on the monitor to let us know when she’s awake in the mornings.

I have 2 cousins (1 boy, 17 years and a younger sister P4) who are BOTH still sleeping with my uncle and auntie. They started sleeping with them from young and have never been successful in being moved out. (Not sure how hard they try though…)

[kai]

hmmm.. interesting topic to rant on.. my ger who is 4 this yr stil slps between me and hubs but guess it started off as she was the first child den & i wanted to bond more with her before she slps as im a FTWM & she spent the whole day with e caregiver already.. now my #2 boy i started him off having him sleep in his cot alone & having the cot at the same room with the caregiver next door.. everything worked out fine & was even planning soon i can get my ger to shift out of our room too.. but lately the weather starts to get humid & we had to utilise the air con (which we usually dun as both my kids have super dry skin & adding to hubs having asthma).. when its bed time.. we had to 'chase' the lil boy out of the room n tel him its bedtime.. i started to feel bad.. of not having him around in the room too wif us.... hence lately i gave in.. lost the battle.. & now.. wat i get is.. punches & kicks & backaches coz our bed is just not enuff for 4 of us.. & yesh.. it was my own choice.. so..

[schellen]

Chief, I understand your pain, literally. My DD actually slept in her own bed in her own room from day one back from hospital. Somehow, can't remember actual cause now, she ended up sleeping with us most of the time. I think it was partly cos I breastfed her and we'll just fall asleep together.


Then, since she is such a giant, I started getting assaulted in my sleep and having sleepless nights. And this was when she was 2-3 yo. My DH was spared cos no matter how much space he gives her, she always rolls over to my side and steals my bolster or use me as one. If she turns the other way and has her feet next to my face, I'm doomed. Worse is when she turns perpendicular to me. :shock: I don't even know how she finds the space to do that!

Finally, at about 5 yo, my DH convinced DD to sleep on a mattress on the floor next to our bed. She would be moved over after she fell asleep cos we don't go to bed as early as her (8+ p.m.). If we don't do this, she'll wake up at night and cry, and my DH will have to go over to soothe her, a few times each night. I gave in to the \"mattress idea\" after suffering from cranky DH syndrome for a few weeks.

Luckily, I think rearranging the furniture in her room plus big new child-friendly bed and me telling her how me and my sis slept on our own from young did the trick. I also gave her the ultimatum, sleep on your own and stay in your room till morning before you start P1 or be treated like a baby by me. Soon after that, there was success, and it has stayed that way ever since. Thank goodness!

P.S. Now, if she crawls into our bed on weekend mornings, she will not stay long cos it's uncomfortable due to lack of space.