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    All About Autism

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      Niu2009
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      Sorry, should be ds instead of dd. Btw how is his progress now?

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        Double E:
        Do you arrange play dates with him? you can also observe for yourself how he interacts with other children. At 5 years old, they should be talking to each other and playing games together already.


        When I initially had doubts about my son's condition, I read up, observe how children at his age interacts and compare if my son is doing the same. Also, I stayed back in his school after dropping him and hid in a corner to observe him. After a few times, I was convinced that he needed help and that's when all the therapies session starts.

        As my kid is also mild, his grandparents and even my friends didn't think anything was wrong with him but it takes experience and alot of reading to understand what makes a kid autistic and not. I am not implying that your son is one but since he is already 5 and the doctor in hospital has diagnosed him to be a mild case, there must be some underlying conditions that he displayed that led the doctor to make this conclusion. For all you know, he could be very mild and with high IQ.
        I want to change a doctor to have a look for second opinion next time, as I have no idea if the diagnose is 100% accurate.

        Each individual is different, so follow book or checklist of behaviors got use?

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          Double E
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          Niu2009,

          Err, are you directing your questions at me?

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            Double E
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            Www:
            Double E:

            Do you arrange play dates with him? you can also observe for yourself how he interacts with other children. At 5 years old, they should be talking to each other and playing games together already.


            When I initially had doubts about my son's condition, I read up, observe how children at his age interacts and compare if my son is doing the same. Also, I stayed back in his school after dropping him and hid in a corner to observe him. After a few times, I was convinced that he needed help and that's when all the therapies session starts.

            As my kid is also mild, his grandparents and even my friends didn't think anything was wrong with him but it takes experience and alot of reading to understand what makes a kid autistic and not. I am not implying that your son is one but since he is already 5 and the doctor in hospital has diagnosed him to be a mild case, there must be some underlying conditions that he displayed that led the doctor to make this conclusion. For all you know, he could be very mild and with high IQ.

            I want to change a doctor to have a look for second opinion next time, as I have no idea if the diagnose is 100% accurate.

            Each individual is different, so follow book or checklist of behaviors got use?

            Www
            I went through the same stage of mindset as you when my son was first suspected to have autism.

            There's no harm seeking a second opinion if it helps you make decisions on your next step. And I am not sure what diagnosis did your son went through. The most accurate is the one that requires at least 3 hours of observation of him and interviewing the parents. I can't remember what test is it called, but that diagnosis cost about $300 pls if done at KKH. If done by private psychologist, is about $1,800 to $2,000.

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              Niu2009
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              Double E:
              Niu2009,

              Err, are you directing your questions at me?
              Sorry, Double E,
              Yes, I just want to know why the KK doctor thought your son need go for the assessment. How is your son's now after all the intervention.

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                Double E
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                Niu2009,

                My boy has speech delay, not good with fine motor skills n was a bit sensitive to texture. He also does not play with his classmates unless prompted. Another sign was that he can’t sit long, he will walk around the class.

                He still has these issues now but improved a lot. If he was at level 1 last time, he has now moved up to at least level 5, based on a scale of 10. Such problems will not disappear as it is part m parcel of his autism traits. More imptly, he is now able to adapt to mainstream environment. He can function in a mainstream environment with some guidance by his teachers. And lately, he has shown interest in playing with others but on his terms, he still can’t follow rules on a social game.

                Other than the above, he is fine. No problem with academics so far , can read n spell m love doing maths. He is also learning to read time now.

                Your kid is born in 2009? Same as my boy but I think my boy is a few mths older than yours.

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                  Double E
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                  I would say the interventions helped him and me. Through his intervention sessions, I get to know what I should be teaching him, what should he be able to do at his age but yet he was not able to and how I should teach him. For instance, I never taught abt teaching him to turn open a bottle cap, use scissors, sorting and even playing pretend games. I only know the importance of all these after attending therapy sessions with him. Then that was when it dawned on me that there are so much to teach a child as a parent and dun take these simple chores for granted as they are mountains to climb for a special needs kid.

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                    Hi Double E,


                    Thanks! My son is borned in Nov 11. So far my dd no speech delay, can communicate with adults quite well. When just send him in half day childcare, the teahcer said he cann’t sit long, but now teacher said he is fine in class and can contentrate in class. He can answer teacher’s questions and most of time can follow the instructions. The only things is he not talk to his peers. That’s why I bring him to see a private psychologist. We are waitting for the school visit.

                    May I know where you send him for intervention? I am thinking whether send him to some social skill class. Btw, you mention you ds can not follow social rule, what do you mean?

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                      Double E
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                      Social rules means for example, in a game with children, the kids will probably set some rules like who go first, who do what. He is not able to follow.


                      However, he is able to follow adults’ instructions.

                      My son attends ST, OT and EIPIC at different private therapy centres.

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                        Niu2009
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                        Double E:
                        Social rules means for example, in a game with children, the kids will probably set some rules like who go first, who do what. He is not able to follow.


                        However, he is able to follow adults' instructions.

                        My son attends ST, OT and EIPIC at different private therapy centres.
                        Hi Doulbe E,
                        Thanks for answer. I was so stressful now. Even only the social problem, he may be AS. I don't know what to do next. I saw a lot of concerns about the child study in the main stream school. They are bullied and no friends++. Heartbroken!

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