All About Autism

[Double E]

Niu2009,

My boy has speech delay, not good with fine motor skills n was a bit sensitive to texture. He also does not play with his classmates unless prompted. Another sign was that he can’t sit long, he will walk around the class.

He still has these issues now but improved a lot. If he was at level 1 last time, he has now moved up to at least level 5, based on a scale of 10. Such problems will not disappear as it is part m parcel of his autism traits. More imptly, he is now able to adapt to mainstream environment. He can function in a mainstream environment with some guidance by his teachers. And lately, he has shown interest in playing with others but on his terms, he still can’t follow rules on a social game.

Other than the above, he is fine. No problem with academics so far , can read n spell m love doing maths. He is also learning to read time now.

Your kid is born in 2009? Same as my boy but I think my boy is a few mths older than yours.

[Double E]

I would say the interventions helped him and me. Through his intervention sessions, I get to know what I should be teaching him, what should he be able to do at his age but yet he was not able to and how I should teach him. For instance, I never taught abt teaching him to turn open a bottle cap, use scissors, sorting and even playing pretend games. I only know the importance of all these after attending therapy sessions with him. Then that was when it dawned on me that there are so much to teach a child as a parent and dun take these simple chores for granted as they are mountains to climb for a special needs kid.

[Niu2009]

Hi Double E,


Thanks! My son is borned in Nov 11. So far my dd no speech delay, can communicate with adults quite well. When just send him in half day childcare, the teahcer said he cann’t sit long, but now teacher said he is fine in class and can contentrate in class. He can answer teacher’s questions and most of time can follow the instructions. The only things is he not talk to his peers. That’s why I bring him to see a private psychologist. We are waitting for the school visit.

May I know where you send him for intervention? I am thinking whether send him to some social skill class. Btw, you mention you ds can not follow social rule, what do you mean?

[Double E]

Social rules means for example, in a game with children, the kids will probably set some rules like who go first, who do what. He is not able to follow.


However, he is able to follow adults’ instructions.

My son attends ST, OT and EIPIC at different private therapy centres.

[Niu2009]

Double E:

Social rules means for example, in a game with children, the kids will probably set some rules like who go first, who do what. He is not able to follow.


However, he is able to follow adults' instructions.

My son attends ST, OT and EIPIC at different private therapy centres.

Hi Doulbe E,
Thanks for answer. I was so stressful now. Even only the social problem, he may be AS. I don't know what to do next. I saw a lot of concerns about the child study in the main stream school. They are bullied and no friends++. Heartbroken!

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Hi mummies, wanted to get your views on possible solutions for this-


My Aspie son seems to be very ok at home. He listens to the helper, does his work, and is generally well-behaved, even calls me on the hp to ask stuff and ask when I’m coming home from work etc. But the moment he goes to his grandpa’s house, all hell breaks loose. He’ll start sticking to his grandpa like glue, throws tantrums until I come home from work, starts beating his grandparents when they tell him to stop it. When I call him when he’s there he will refuse to come to the phone, and I can hear him throwing full blown tantrums. I suspect that this arose because when he was younger I was staying with my parents, and every night he slept with them. Later on I moved to my own place, and I had to pull him away from them. In the beginning I sent him to my parents daily, but his tantrums are so major I’ve started only sending him there weekly. I’ve tried asking him why, and he cant give me a reason for his tantrums. Before he goes he’ll assure me that he’ll behave, but once he’s there it’s a different story.

Wondering if any other parents go thru this? And any possible solutions for him to start behaving himself there the way he behaves at home? Thanks

[Double E]

My son is the opposite. He behaves better when he is with my mum.

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Double E:

My son is the opposite. He behaves better when he is with my mum.

Is he with your mum daily?

[nugget]

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My son is very well behave in front of my mum, but will throw tantrums in front of my MIL.

Even though they are special needs, they are just like any regular kids, they know who they can bully, and who do not take their nonsense.

I will ask him if he likes going to grandparents house or not. If he say yes, then I will tell him I can only send him there if he do this this and behave like a good boy. Set rules with him. End of the day evaluate with him. I will purposely ask in front of grandparents if DS behave or not… if grandparents say yes… then I will praise him and reward him accordingly.
If not, I will ask what things he did wrong then we go home and I will talk to him about it.

If he doesnt like to go grandparents house, then need to find out why. Cos if he dun like to go, no point sending him there… else sure will throw tantrum…

Just how 2 cents worth.

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nugget:

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My son is very well behave in front of my mum, but will throw tantrums in front of my MIL.

Even though they are special needs, they are just like any regular kids, they know who they can bully, and who do not take their nonsense.

I will ask him if he likes going to grandparents house or not. If he say yes, then I will tell him I can only send him there if he do this this and behave like a good boy. Set rules with him. End of the day evaluate with him. I will purposely ask in front of grandparents if DS behave or not.. if grandparents say yes.. then I will praise him and reward him accordingly.
If not, I will ask what things he did wrong then we go home and I will talk to him about it.

If he doesnt like to go grandparents house, then need to find out why. Cos if he dun like to go, no point sending him there.. else sure will throw tantrum..

Just how 2 cents worth.

Thanks nugget.. it's not that he doesnt like to go, he actually looks forward to going.. he's all excited when I tell him he's going. Then after tht.. haiyoh..
Anyways I will continue talking to him about it. Hope it will be effective sooner or later