Club Only Child Club

[ngl2010]

kaitlynangelica:

As the starter of the thread, I have hardly posted for a long time.

Although I have given up especially since my gal is now 10, but the issue of not being able to deliver another child still hurts.
Seeing the younger gals in office getting pregnant is okay. But seeing the older ladies around age 40 get pregnant gets me affected.
I will think ' Why not me and what did I do wrong ?'
Strangely, I have never felt any peace about going to do any assisted conception.
So I just have to content myself and accept the fact that I will only have one child and pray hard that she will grow up well.

Hi. We should be glad that we have one child. Some people can't even have one. Don't be sad.... :snuggles:

[kaitlynangelica]

Hi,


I know what you mean…so I try to keep out of the way when people potentially say something to irritate me.

For eg, one colleague with two kids will tell another one with one kid ’ Hey quickly have another one then they will play with each other ', knowing well that I had two miscarraiges and never conceived again.

These days, I try to hang around singles and childless friends who won’t irritate me with talking about family expansion.

Try to talk about other topics like travelling, partying or hobbies so that you won’t feel that life is all about kids and trying to have more kids.

[ngl2010]

kaitlynangelica:

Hi,


I know what you mean.....so I try to keep out of the way when people potentially say something to irritate me.

For eg, one colleague with two kids will tell another one with one kid ' Hey quickly have another one then they will play with each other ', knowing well that I had two miscarraiges and never conceived again.

These days, I try to hang around singles and childless friends who won't irritate me with talking about family expansion.

Try to talk about other topics like travelling, partying or hobbies so that you won't feel that life is all about kids and trying to have more kids.

Maybe they don't realize that this kind of things hurt you?

Look at the bright side. Having 1 kid is already headache enough in the current education system. 2 kids is double headache.

The 2nd kid usually is 'naughtier' than the 1st kid, so we would also have additional headache raising the 2nd kid.

And we have not talked about the financial impact of having the 2nd kid...

Anyway, just ignore them. It is our fate to have 1 child and we should treasure them :hugs:

[kaitlynangelica]

ngl2010:

kaitlynangelica:

Hi,


I know what you mean.....so I try to keep out of the way when people potentially say something to irritate me.

For eg, one colleague with two kids will tell another one with one kid ' Hey quickly have another one then they will play with each other ', knowing well that I had two miscarraiges and never conceived again.

These days, I try to hang around singles and childless friends who won't irritate me with talking about family expansion.

Try to talk about other topics like travelling, partying or hobbies so that you won't feel that life is all about kids and trying to have more kids.

Maybe they don't realize that this kind of things hurt you?

Look at the bright side. Having 1 kid is already headache enough in the current education system. 2 kids is double headache.

The 2nd kid usually is 'naughtier' than the 1st kid, so we would also have additional headache raising the 2nd kid.

And we have not talked about the financial impact of having the 2nd kid...

Anyway, just ignore them. It is our fate to have 1 child and we should treasure them :hugs:

True. I totally agree on the part of the headache and the financial impact.
But I also know that I can't stop people's mouths however unintentional. Some will still say to me ' The best present you can give your gal is a sibling'.
So I try to change the crowd and the people I hang around with.

[nightlone]

Imami:

Not sure how you folks think about this. My main reason for having at least two kids is so that there is someone for them in bad times. I have seen how some friends (with siblings) work/huddle together in time of crisis. I fear that my son does not have any support when he meets crisis.


Of cos we also hear stories of how siblings are not closer than friends. So maybe all is not lost.

But I wonder if my son, being the only child and seemingly developing/growing well, lacks the nurturing of a compassionate heart towards taking care of someone who is weaker.

it doesn't mean that u will have family support or help if you have siblings.
for eg, recently we had a huge quarrel with his parents. well, we li jia chu zou.
He has 4 sisters, out of which 3 have their own places. They are always like, family family, i love my siblings, kind of bulls**t.
But not one of them offered their roof until the thing blew over. Not one of them opened their doors. Not one of them asked how we were doing, have place to stay or not etc
As for my own family, well, i always knew with them, it was always about the money, so when things happened, i know what the answers are. More into your face, u know?
I told my husband, you always think for them, because of family and what u guys went thru last time, but u see now got trouble, did they offer u their house? No. they are absolute hypocrites. the facts are here. Only i am brave enough to state them.

Why we don't have our own place? It's because the HDB now is his father's and my husband's names. And his sisters use the baby sitting service provided by their mother in my husband's house, in a house where we are not welcomed but he is paying for.

So it doesn't mean that having siblings will provide any kind of comfort.

[plushcritters]

I also have an only child…a 10-year old girl who’s fiercely independent & is enjoying every single moment being our only child (but certainly not bratty).

[happyhappygirl]

Hi, would like to join in the club. my girl is 4 yrs old this year.

[linguastic]

I have only one girl child she is 10 months age and she is enjoying her life with her grandpa and grandma.

[faithe]

Hi I have only one son who just turns 2. :rahrah:

[jollybea]

Hi


I’m new to the club, my son is 10.