Boyfriend / Girlfriend

[kiasimom]

buds hubs:

I guess this issue is kinda hard to avoid huh... I also wondering how to deal with
it when both DDs are in their teens! :?

Some people say that I need to get a shotgun & hang it in my living room to
frighten away the boys.. hard it doesn't end up that way..

I think one of the signs is probably the change in attire ie: Dressing Up &
wanting to look good...

P/S; Did this when I had a crush with buds..

Are u sure it is just buds :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[daisyt]

The not so daring signs are

1) sudden shoot up of hp / telephone usage
2) whispering on the phone
3) always on IM with a particular person
4) sudden interest in something they not interested in before
5) new things appear, you never seen before, eg. little softoy, hp deco stuffs
6) watch out for birthday present from friends, any special kind or expensive kind

The very daring signs are
1) always say go out with friends
2) sneak out in the middle of the night
3) hangout at the bus stop or void deck

Hhhmmm ... thats all I can think of

As for how to break off, it depends on which method work on your kids, hard or soft and what is the most important thing is his/her life.

[buds]

kiasimom:

Are u sure it is just buds :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

Nottt, of course!!

[VitoRelax]

CJS:

How do you parents tell if your teenage children have a boyfriend or girlfriend ? What are the signs to look out for ?

I suppose the tell tale sign would be they send & receive sms in one corner, they tend to be self concious about themselves, for girls maybe start wanting to be pretty & do make up ....

[quote]How do you handle the issue of boyfriend or girlfriend with your child ? Suppose your child refuse to break off his / her relationship, what do you do ?[/quote]Honest answer from me is I also really don't know !!

[Bear.014745w.014745me]

It seems like some problems are generic.


My DD1 also started to show annoyance if the sisters and parents wanted to touch her mobile phone.

Last night, I saw a boy’s message came in when the phone is right in front of me. When I queried about it, she just mentioned just normal friend but I put her in a girls only school!! Sigh…

Confiscate the mobilephone?
Bar her from mobilephone?
Control her travel time from school to home?
Nowadays any child that has not been given a mobilephone yet? (i fought a lost battle here)

[daisyt]

Bear.w.me:

It seems like some problems are generic.


My DD1 also started to show annoyance if the sisters and parents wanted to touch her mobile phone.

Last night, I saw a boy's message came in when the phone is right in front of me. When I queried about it, she just mentioned just normal friend but I put her in a girls only school!! Sigh...

Confiscate the mobilephone?
Bar her from mobilephone?
Control her travel time from school to home?
Nowadays any child that has not been given a mobilephone yet? (i fought a lost battle here)

Hi bear.with.me, this is a common issues amoung teens now because they learn from each other, learn from seniors. I personally feel nothing to do with in a girls school or mix school.

Depends on the character of your dd and your parenting method (some parents respect privacy of their kids), you can try the following methods.

Confiscate the mobilephone? Bar her from mobilephone? - leave this to the last resort, try all kinds of methods first. Eg. talk to her, read her sms secretly when she is sleeping, demand to read her sms face to face.

Control her travel time from school to home? - try to keep track of her time table, schedule, judge her travel timing. There are many ways of spot check, eg. ezlink card, singtel/starhub has a good value added service, once a while go fetch her. I have heard of stories of parent secretly following the child and discover some surprises. You must have seen in the newspaper not long ago, parent hire PI to follow the daughter and discover the relationship the daughter has with the male tutor.

Of course, be prepared to play hide and seek later if they are aware that you are checking on them. Really ... you think over and see whats the best method for your child.

[Bear.014745w.014745me]

Thanks again Daisyt,


I think you have gone through these few things while bringing up your child too, uh?

Once the child step into secondary school, many things need to take care:
- which CCA? Too many too little?
- Boy friend/Girl friend (I hold the view that not advisable maybe until tertiary level)
- Pure sciences, maths
- Combined humanities
- English, Literature
- Own room/own space
- More liberal use of computer?

Fortunately there is KSP and parents like yourself (also others) around to offer life experiences. :thankyou:

[sleepy]

daisyt:

There are many ways of spot check, eg. ezlink card, singtel/starhub has a good value added service,

how to check ezlink card?
what kind of value added service?

How about buying handphone with GPS?

[daisyt]

hi sleepy, for ezlink card, go to the top up machine (the purple colour one), place the card there and choose the info or a question mark (I cannot rem). Then you will see a list of transactions with timing, bus no, mrt name.



http://info.singtel.com/personal/communication/mobile/postpaid-plans/vas/locator?selecttab=4

http://www.starhub.com/mylocator

Got hp with GPS mei ?? :shock:

[mrswongtuition]

If your child can get his/her priorities straight, I think parents should be open about it.


If you find out about it, don’t flare up. It’ll shut them off further. Instead, talk to them about dating, underage sex and the consequences.

I always tell my students: they can keep the relationship from their parents, but they can’t run away from themselves. If the relationship sours, it affects more people than they think. Some are confident that nothing will happen but once they hear about real life experiences, they start to freak out.

I started dating during my sec sch days and I was in a girls’ school since P1. I started dating my hb when I was in S4. He was my pillar of support, my extra pair of hands during projects/revision. When I was stressed and frustrated, he kept me company and encouraged me. When I lost heart, he surprised me and pushed me to do well.

My hb is bf #8. BFs #1-7 were not supportive like my hb & I broke with them because I felt that they were affecting my studies.

My niece almost dropped out of school but her bf worked with her mum to push her to study hard. Her bf studied with her under her grandparent’s supervision, they stayed home for movies on DVD instead of going out dating and my niece eventually did well in her studies. He encouraged her alot when she was losing the battle to quit smoking.

Having a gf/bf can be good if your child knows his/her priorities. I knew my priority was to study and do well. But I did not want any emotional baggage that will affect that.