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      TheAnswer
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      taz:
      Sharing same fate. Was :mad: .

      For those with problem w maid, do your dh side with u or with maid ?
      For issues on things lost, clothing, my children's book, missing food.
      DH's reasoning is that if he also told the maid off, the maid will quit.
      I just need him to support me so that maid will realize that it is an issue.
      When DH kept silent, it seem that I am at wrong, picking on maid.
      This also one of the reason why we always has maid problem and to maid, I am the evil employer since kind-hearted Sir emphasize with them.

      Don't understand man.
      So much empathy for maid welfare but expect the wife to the super woman who help to bring back bacon, children well taken care of, good results, good manners, house clean, etc.
      Wife stay up late to do everything is ok but maid must go to bed early.
      How can your hubby side the maid :slapshead:

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        TheAnswer
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        Just curious if any of you guys send your maids to stay with your extended family members (not staying in the same house) or your agent when you go overseas?

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          TheAnswer
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          Mrs Ang:
          My maid steal 3 packet of milk to drink but claimed only 2. She is with us less than a month only!

          How is her work performance?

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            straffan23
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            Grouses of getting a new maid:


            The agency… before paying deposit everything can ok ok no problem. Transfer maid only need four days. Then after signing. Late transfer, have to do medical, blah blah blah late for a few days.

            The maid… during interview everything can. Cook for more than 10 persons every weekend, all by herself. Do marketing independently. 3 days into the job… realized that she only cook for 10 persons once a week plus occasional lunches and dinners (not the family of 5 on a daily basis). And on top of that she has body ordour… and of course… also has facebook!

            Less than a week and all the signals buzzing buzzing… how how?

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              TheAnswer
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              Do you guys pay for the sim card and top up for your helper or your helper pays on her own? My agent told me to ask the helper to pay on her own. Is this the norm?

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                FHP
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                TheAnswer:
                taz:

                Sharing same fate. Was :mad: .

                For those with problem w maid, do your dh side with u or with maid ?
                For issues on things lost, clothing, my children's book, missing food.
                DH's reasoning is that if he also told the maid off, the maid will quit.
                I just need him to support me so that maid will realize that it is an issue.
                When DH kept silent, it seem that I am at wrong, picking on maid.
                This also one of the reason why we always has maid problem and to maid, I am the evil employer since kind-hearted Sir emphasize with them.

                Don't understand man.
                So much empathy for maid welfare but expect the wife to the super woman who help to bring back bacon, children well taken care of, good results, good manners, house clean, etc.
                Wife stay up late to do everything is ok but maid must go to bed early.

                How can your hubby side the maid :slapshead:


                My husband is also like that, always side the maid, keeping silent or stopping me from scolding her. After a while, I got tired arguing with him over the maid. And of course the maid must be happy the kind-hearted Sir is always protecting her. That's one of the reasons I got rid of my maid who worked for me for only 1 yr 4 mths. Now I am happy without the maid.

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                  POA Teacher
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                  TheAnswer:
                  Do you guys pay for the sim card and top up for your helper or your helper pays on her own? My agent told me to ask the helper to pay on her own. Is this the norm?

                  Why should employer pay for helper's personal expenses?

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                    TheAnswer
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                    POA Teacher:
                    TheAnswer:

                    Do you guys pay for the sim card and top up for your helper or your helper pays on her own? My agent told me to ask the helper to pay on her own. Is this the norm?


                    Why should employer pay for helper's personal expenses?

                    Point noted.

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                      taz
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                      TheAnswer:
                      taz:

                      Sharing same fate. Was :mad: .

                      For those with problem w maid, do your dh side with u or with maid ?
                      For issues on things lost, clothing, my children's book, missing food.
                      DH's reasoning is that if he also told the maid off, the maid will quit.
                      I just need him to support me so that maid will realize that it is an issue.
                      When DH kept silent, it seem that I am at wrong, picking on maid.
                      This also one of the reason why we always has maid problem and to maid, I am the evil employer since kind-hearted Sir emphasize with them.

                      Don't understand man.
                      So much empathy for maid welfare but expect the wife to the super woman who help to bring back bacon, children well taken care of, good results, good manners, house clean, etc.
                      Wife stay up late to do everything is ok but maid must go to bed early.

                      How can your hubby side the maid :slapshead:

                      Man never changed. Told him many times since 11yrs ago. :spank:
                      Never involve bet maid and me, only support my stand.

                      So once maid felt that sir empathise with her, it is gone case, matter of time b4 she get emotional, attitudes changes, slacken etc till it is bye-bye for them.
                      This maid is going to be bye-bye in Dec as I am away for 2 trips and so will \"tong\" as there is nobody else at home.
                      Just threatened me this morning to sent her back. \"Her wish is my command\" in Dec :mad:

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                        taz
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                        FHP:
                        TheAnswer:

                        [quote=\"taz\"]Sharing same fate. Was :mad: .

                        For those with problem w maid, do your dh side with u or with maid ?
                        For issues on things lost, clothing, my children's book, missing food.
                        DH's reasoning is that if he also told the maid off, the maid will quit.
                        I just need him to support me so that maid will realize that it is an issue.
                        When DH kept silent, it seem that I am at wrong, picking on maid.
                        This also one of the reason why we always has maid problem and to maid, I am the evil employer since kind-hearted Sir emphasize with them.

                        Don't understand man.
                        So much empathy for maid welfare but expect the wife to the super woman who help to bring back bacon, children well taken care of, good results, good manners, house clean, etc.
                        Wife stay up late to do everything is ok but maid must go to bed early.

                        How can your hubby side the maid :slapshead:

                        My husband is also like that, always side the maid, keeping silent or stopping me from scolding her. After a while, I got tired arguing with him over the maid. And of course the maid must be happy the kind-hearted Sir is always protecting her. That's one of the reasons I got rid of my maid who worked for me for only 1 yr 4 mths. Now I am happy without the maid.[/quote] :slapshead: :slapshead:
                        Our husband are not the only ones. Got friends also face same situation though there is some smart husband also.

                        Wife is permanent, maid is temporary.
                        Happy woman = happy wife = happy family.
                        Dunno why this logic is difficult for hubby ?

                        Oh, by the way, my smart hubby chose this PSLE period to has 4 party quarrel...him, me, PSLE dd and maid purposely ignore some routine works to challenge me... very messy...
                        Luckily PSLE dd insensitive nature saved her, she don't care or the quarrel seem not to bother her. I also pack her out to study for this few days.
                        No matter what, it is not a happy family now and bad to leave for my trip with this emotion in Thu.

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