All About Autism

[tyeogh]

slmkhoo:

If they can be sole proprietors or only work with those who get along well with them, then yes, I agree they can be bosses or business owners. I didn't think of that - I was thinking more about larger businesses and companies. I have actually told my daughter that setting up a sole propriertorship to write or proofread may be suitable for her. However, my husband disagrees as he thinks she should work in a larger organisation (as a 'worker') so that she can have more social contact or she will get even more reclusive and 'weird'. We're not so concerned about how much she can earn as long as she can pay her bills.

Aiya, everyone starts small. One customer, two customer. Sole proprietor. Then it grows. Chef, restaurant, chain of restaurants. Do not read it as success oriented. Read it as No Limits too if your child wants.

I am more with you than your hubby. If your daughter has a useful skill in writing or proof reading, position her for it. Example look out for someone who does it, what do they need, a website, a home office, how can you emulate his business. Why be another office worker? Zzzzzz.

PS: I need to edit to correct myself. Maybe there is some wisdom in working in an office to learn the ropes. Thereafter, strike it out herself as a sole prop. The journey is long with many possibilities.

[belachanbabe]

Tyeogh brought up a very valid point on the new world order. Realised that these days white collar jobs don’t pay well nor are they respected as before. Doctors, lawyers etc these days are actually struggling to make a living, don’t even mention making good $$. Accountants? (am one myself) throw stone hit five.


In a positive way, parents have differing expectations on their ASD kids in that we just want them to be happy in what they do in life, make genuine friendships, and be socially and financially independent. Good and well if they are able to integrate into the corporate world though Hubby and I have a back-up plan to set up a business for them if can’t adapt.

We ourselves need to change our traditional mindsets regarding skill based jobs. Witnessed a mother bringing her autistic son for a job interview at KFC the other day and suddenly teared up thinking about how I might have to do the same in future. Admittedly it was irrational though; I really applaud the mum for being so supportive and caring for her son and also the courage shown by the son for his efforts to be independent. A learning journey for all of us.

PS: is your nick pronounced “Tai Ko” as in lucky? That’s quite funny. :imcool:

[ImMeeMee]

tyeogh:

I say \"boss\" because some are quick to classify our SPED child into a life of being below average. I think not lor. They too can be successful if they want.

At times I wonder, what is 'below average', and what is 'successful'.

If the individual is performing a skilled job which is repetitive in nature, does it well, is respected and supported by colleages, has a stable income, is generally happy, but is never promoted to management position, is this 'below average'? Is this 'successful'?

I am beginning to have struggles on society's perception of 'success'. Any thoughts from anybody?

[tyeogh]

belachanbabe:

Accountants? (am one myself) throw stone hit five.


PS: is your nick pronounced “Tai Ko” as in lucky? That’s quite funny. :imcool:

LoL

My nick? Wasn't creative enough to think of anything so its just my initials. Does look like tai ko though.....lol

[tyeogh]

ImMeeMee:

At times I wonder, what is 'below average', and what is 'successful'.

If the individual is performing a skilled job which is repetitive in nature, does it well, is respected and supported by colleages, has a stable income, is generally happy, but is never promoted to management position, is this 'below average'? Is this 'successful'?

I am beginning to have struggles on society's perception of 'success'. Any thoughts from anybody?

I view that person successful. The criteria being \"he is generally happy\". Each is free to set his markers for success.

To me, being successful means being a parent to 4 beautiful kids and being involved in their upbringing. The rest like career, job, how others view me, etc are unimportant. Yes, I have to work but that does not define who I am if you know what I mean. I am first and foremost a father. Then you can call me other things along the way, boss, entrepreneur, whatever.

[helplessmum3]

tyeogh:

ImMeeMee:

At times I wonder, what is 'below average', and what is 'successful'.

If the individual is performing a skilled job which is repetitive in nature, does it well, is respected and supported by colleages, has a stable income, is generally happy, but is never promoted to management position, is this 'below average'? Is this 'successful'?

I am beginning to have struggles on society's perception of 'success'. Any thoughts from anybody?

I view that person successful. The criteria being \"he is generally happy\". Each is free to set his markers for success.

To me, being successful means being a parent to 4 beautiful kids and being involved in their upbringing. The rest like career, job, how others view me, etc are unimportant. Yes, I have to work but that does not define who I am if you know what I mean. I am first and foremost a father. Then you can call me other things along the way, boss, entrepreneur, whatever.

inner peace & happiness that success! and foremost humanity...

freeedom!!

[ImMeeMee]

tyeogh:

I view that person successful. The criteria being \"he is generally happy\". Each is free to set his markers for success.

:goodpost: I always suspect that the definition of success is based on somewhat subjective criteria.

[Coolkidsrock2]

Nebbermind:

phtthp:

talking about keeping record about a child's autistic condition -

when a child grow up to say to 18 or 21 years old, is it possible or anyway to ask KK hospital to erase past medical history that child is autistic ?

because have a relative whose daughter is mild autistic.
but she able to talk, coping ok in Mainstream.
in fact in school, nobody know she is autistic.
She can greet people, \"Hi auntie / Teacher, how are you today ?\"

my relative don't want KK hospital to keep medical record.
because afraid that next time when she grow up apply for job, this record may become a stumbling block.

But medical reports/records are confidential. Donch think there's a need to be so paranoid

Don't think employers conduct due diligence on medical records. But it may need to be declared when signing up for insurance coverage if it is part of the benefits.

[ImMeeMee]

I am thinking of sending my doter to some Chinese enrichment next year. She will be 7 yo next year. Besides Berries like what other parents say, are there any other Chinese enrichment programs that you know of for special needs children? Do share your experience.


TIA.

[InvestSavvy]

Coolkidsrock2:

Nebbermind:

[quote=\"phtthp\"]talking about keeping record about a child's autistic condition -

when a child grow up to say to 18 or 21 years old, is it possible or anyway to ask KK hospital to erase past medical history that child is autistic ?

because have a relative whose daughter is mild autistic.
but she able to talk, coping ok in Mainstream.
in fact in school, nobody know she is autistic.
She can greet people, \"Hi auntie / Teacher, how are you today ?\"

my relative don't want KK hospital to keep medical record.
because afraid that next time when she grow up apply for job, this record may become a stumbling block.

But medical reports/records are confidential. Donch think there's a need to be so paranoid

Don't think employers conduct due diligence on medical records. But it may need to be declared when signing up for insurance coverage if it is part of the benefits.[/quote]
If you can get rid of the medical record, would be good. My son has a record and i made the wrong mistake to get him assessed before getting him covered under insurance.

I tried to apply for a few companies but was rejected straight. Only just recently, i managed to get him covered without any loading/exclusions.