All About Autism

[ImMeeMee]

tyeogh:

I say \"boss\" because some are quick to classify our SPED child into a life of being below average. I think not lor. They too can be successful if they want.

At times I wonder, what is 'below average', and what is 'successful'.

If the individual is performing a skilled job which is repetitive in nature, does it well, is respected and supported by colleages, has a stable income, is generally happy, but is never promoted to management position, is this 'below average'? Is this 'successful'?

I am beginning to have struggles on society's perception of 'success'. Any thoughts from anybody?

[tyeogh]

belachanbabe:

Accountants? (am one myself) throw stone hit five.


PS: is your nick pronounced “Tai Ko” as in lucky? That’s quite funny. :imcool:

LoL

My nick? Wasn't creative enough to think of anything so its just my initials. Does look like tai ko though.....lol

[tyeogh]

ImMeeMee:

At times I wonder, what is 'below average', and what is 'successful'.

If the individual is performing a skilled job which is repetitive in nature, does it well, is respected and supported by colleages, has a stable income, is generally happy, but is never promoted to management position, is this 'below average'? Is this 'successful'?

I am beginning to have struggles on society's perception of 'success'. Any thoughts from anybody?

I view that person successful. The criteria being \"he is generally happy\". Each is free to set his markers for success.

To me, being successful means being a parent to 4 beautiful kids and being involved in their upbringing. The rest like career, job, how others view me, etc are unimportant. Yes, I have to work but that does not define who I am if you know what I mean. I am first and foremost a father. Then you can call me other things along the way, boss, entrepreneur, whatever.

[helplessmum3]

tyeogh:

ImMeeMee:

At times I wonder, what is 'below average', and what is 'successful'.

If the individual is performing a skilled job which is repetitive in nature, does it well, is respected and supported by colleages, has a stable income, is generally happy, but is never promoted to management position, is this 'below average'? Is this 'successful'?

I am beginning to have struggles on society's perception of 'success'. Any thoughts from anybody?

I view that person successful. The criteria being \"he is generally happy\". Each is free to set his markers for success.

To me, being successful means being a parent to 4 beautiful kids and being involved in their upbringing. The rest like career, job, how others view me, etc are unimportant. Yes, I have to work but that does not define who I am if you know what I mean. I am first and foremost a father. Then you can call me other things along the way, boss, entrepreneur, whatever.

inner peace & happiness that success! and foremost humanity...

freeedom!!

[ImMeeMee]

tyeogh:

I view that person successful. The criteria being \"he is generally happy\". Each is free to set his markers for success.

:goodpost: I always suspect that the definition of success is based on somewhat subjective criteria.

[Coolkidsrock2]

Nebbermind:

phtthp:

talking about keeping record about a child's autistic condition -

when a child grow up to say to 18 or 21 years old, is it possible or anyway to ask KK hospital to erase past medical history that child is autistic ?

because have a relative whose daughter is mild autistic.
but she able to talk, coping ok in Mainstream.
in fact in school, nobody know she is autistic.
She can greet people, \"Hi auntie / Teacher, how are you today ?\"

my relative don't want KK hospital to keep medical record.
because afraid that next time when she grow up apply for job, this record may become a stumbling block.

But medical reports/records are confidential. Donch think there's a need to be so paranoid

Don't think employers conduct due diligence on medical records. But it may need to be declared when signing up for insurance coverage if it is part of the benefits.

[ImMeeMee]

I am thinking of sending my doter to some Chinese enrichment next year. She will be 7 yo next year. Besides Berries like what other parents say, are there any other Chinese enrichment programs that you know of for special needs children? Do share your experience.


TIA.

[InvestSavvy]

Coolkidsrock2:

Nebbermind:

[quote=\"phtthp\"]talking about keeping record about a child's autistic condition -

when a child grow up to say to 18 or 21 years old, is it possible or anyway to ask KK hospital to erase past medical history that child is autistic ?

because have a relative whose daughter is mild autistic.
but she able to talk, coping ok in Mainstream.
in fact in school, nobody know she is autistic.
She can greet people, \"Hi auntie / Teacher, how are you today ?\"

my relative don't want KK hospital to keep medical record.
because afraid that next time when she grow up apply for job, this record may become a stumbling block.

But medical reports/records are confidential. Donch think there's a need to be so paranoid

Don't think employers conduct due diligence on medical records. But it may need to be declared when signing up for insurance coverage if it is part of the benefits.[/quote]
If you can get rid of the medical record, would be good. My son has a record and i made the wrong mistake to get him assessed before getting him covered under insurance.

I tried to apply for a few companies but was rejected straight. Only just recently, i managed to get him covered without any loading/exclusions.

[InvestSavvy]

Coolkidsrock2:

Nebbermind:

[quote=\"phtthp\"]talking about keeping record about a child's autistic condition -

when a child grow up to say to 18 or 21 years old, is it possible or anyway to ask KK hospital to erase past medical history that child is autistic ?

because have a relative whose daughter is mild autistic.
but she able to talk, coping ok in Mainstream.
in fact in school, nobody know she is autistic.
She can greet people, \"Hi auntie / Teacher, how are you today ?\"

my relative don't want KK hospital to keep medical record.
because afraid that next time when she grow up apply for job, this record may become a stumbling block.

But medical reports/records are confidential. Donch think there's a need to be so paranoid

Don't think employers conduct due diligence on medical records. But it may need to be declared when signing up for insurance coverage if it is part of the benefits.[/quote]
If you can get rid of the medical record, would be good. My son has a record and i made the wrong mistake to get him assessed before getting him covered under insurance.

I tried to apply for a few companies but was rejected straight. Only just recently, i managed to get him covered without any loading/exclusions.

[Nebbermind]

InvestSavvy:

Coolkidsrock2:

[quote=\"Nebbermind\"]
But medical reports/records are confidential. Donch think there's a need to be so paranoid

Don't think employers conduct due diligence on medical records. But it may need to be declared when signing up for insurance coverage if it is part of the benefits.

If you can get rid of the medical record, would be good. My son has a record and i made the wrong mistake to get him assessed before getting him covered under insurance.

I tried to apply for a few companies but was rejected straight. Only just recently, i managed to get him covered without any loading/exclusions.[/quote]But insurance company are not stupid...if they can find a way to link a claim to a pre existing condition, then it'll be difficult to make them pay up. It would be good to find out why you were rejected by other companies. If it's coz the risk is high, then why is this other company taking the risk?