How do you not succumb to temptations?
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[quote]EN wrote:
...... I always put on my big bling on my wedding finger & will subtly show it to them. But if the person is direct (ever a man doesn't care that I am married), ......
To those looking for one-night-stand, married person means safe & no-strings attached.[/quote]Yucks!! That's a big turn off.
[quote]ks2me wrote:
Another example would be people like insider and En, do you think they can flee forever like
can i make a wild guess? is insider and En's birthday sometime in Oct/Nov?[/quote]Opppsss...wrong guess. -
[quote]For example, when one is in the middle of a high profile project where very high authorities are involved and puts one's career reputation at stake, can one just FLEE by quitting? I say no. Other than managing this issue, I think one's reputation professionally is also very important. It is challenging but it is best to face it. What cannot break you makes you stronger. I think the self-victory is a satisfying achievement too. That said, we have to weigh the situation, if we know we are failing mentally, then FLEE is the strategy. Or if we meet an obsessed person hot on the heels, then we are dealing with a psycho case, flee is definitely the way to go if one does not want to report as harassment. [/quote]
I've been with my current company coming to 3 years. What I did at the initial start is to add in my conversation about my kids, subtly telling colleague that I am married. But my hsuband lagi best. He took leaves or make the effort to bring the kids and fetch me from work. So there...let the whole office see that we are happy family.
I guess mine will be a case of mistaken status which needs to be corrected. I have this very new colleague 2 days old that came last week. This new colleague of mine that I need to work with & travel with is actually a very young chap. Sighh...Within 2 days, he dropped by 7 times & work has not even started yet. Funny thing is, he makes small talk & even ask me who are those in the pictures pasted on the wall. Of course my kids pictures duh. Which single lady want to put niece & nephew picture on her cubicle wall. -
wow ... office wolf ! within 2 days already hunting? :shock:
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EN:
EN,
Which single lady want to put niece & nephew picture on her cubicle wall.
there really are single ladies who put their niece and nephew pics on the office desk, facebook, handphone screen etc...i personally came across a few cos my ex-coy used to have a lot of young ladies. you just have not met them yet.
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[quote]Posted: 24 Jan 2010 10:06 Post subject:
wow ... office wolf ! within 2 days already hunting? [/quote]Young expat. Maybe about 2-3 years after graduation. I'm not too worried. I'm sure he will be happily settled once he hit the Singapore town.
[quote]EN wrote:
Which single lady want to put niece & nephew picture on her cubicle wall.
EN,
there really are single ladies who put their niece and nephew pics on the office desk, facebook, handphone screen etc...i personally came across a few cos my ex-coy used to have a lot of young ladies. you just have not met them yet. [/quote]Majority of the young ladies are an only child. Maybe that's the reason why no niece/nephew photos pasted on the wall. For those who have, I do see the pictures on handphone (not wallpaper though) or FB as part of family photos. Never as their personal profile.
Actually, a good friend of mine succumb to temptation. But for her, it's a happy ending (divorce & she re-married) I'll share it when I'm free next week. -
ks2me:
ks2me,
For example, when one is in the middle of a high profile project where very high authorities are involved and puts one's career reputation at stake, can one just FLEE by quitting? I say no. Other than managing this issue, I think one's reputation professionally is also very important. It is challenging but it is best to face it. What cannot break you makes you stronger. I think the self-victory is a satisfying achievement too. That said, we have to weigh the situation, if we know we are failing mentally, then FLEE is the strategy. Or if we meet an obsessed person hot on the heels, then we are dealing with a psycho case, flee is definitely the way to go if one does not want to report as harassment.
by flee, I do not imply quit a job or dump a project. In some of the examples raised, there was mention of folk who 'allowed' the attention to continue. I suggest that is a dangerous tactic to 'build' resistance. -
jedamum:
My sister is one of them. Maybe...that explains why she is still single.
EN,EN:
Which single lady want to put niece & nephew picture on her cubicle wall.
there really are single ladies who put their niece and nephew pics on the office desk, facebook, handphone screen etc...i personally came across a few cos my ex-coy used to have a lot of young ladies. you just have not met them yet.
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EN:
Majority of the young ladies are an only child. Maybe that's the reason why no niece/nephew photos pasted on the wall. For those who have, I do see the pictures on handphone (not wallpaper though) or FB as part of family photos. Never as their personal profile.
[quote]EN wrote:
Which single lady want to put niece & nephew picture on her cubicle wall.
EN,
there really are single ladies who put their niece and nephew pics on the office desk, facebook, handphone screen etc...i personally came across a few cos my ex-coy used to have a lot of young ladies. you just have not met them yet.
[/quote]My sister does too, csc. Hi-5 . And a very doting ee, I might add...that's probably why she's still single.
Sigh!
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So far there have not been much temptation for me. The blokes who have hit on me are mostly married fellas. And these guys hold no attraction for me. The fact that they can hit on another woman even though they are married and the fact that they know that I am married and still hit on me shows me that they do not have much respect for women. Even before I was married, I feel insulted rather then flattered if a married man were to proposition me. I’ve had my fair share of weird offers, some overt, some masked in well meaning advise.
But there was 1 guy, a pretty good friend, who got to me. He was not married then. He told me that the thing that he found attractive about me was the very thing that is stopping him from trying to form any kind of romantic relationship with me. My love for DH and my serious views of my vows. At that moment, that guy was attractive to me. Hahah. Well even the strongest armour will have a weak link somewhere.
If your vows mean anything to you, resisting temptation is easy. In instances like these, put your family before yourself. And the answer will be clear. No way will an affair benefit your family. -
Well said Funz!
The control is indeed in your hands, not your spouse's... Sorry 3boys.
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