2013 PSLE Discussions and Strategy

[ngl2010]

piggybank:

Transform into monstrous teenagers :yikes:

Yes

[sharonkhoo]

ngl2010:

piggybank:

Transform into monstrous teenagers :yikes:

Yes

Not necessarily - don't expect the worst, it may not happen! My girls stayed the same from 12 to 13, maybe a little more moody now and again, and a bit less tolerant of mummy's nagging, but nothing major. They are 14 and 16, so maybe they are just late maturers and the worst will come later, but so far, we're still OK together.

[Jennifer]

zeemimi:

Nebbermind:

[quote=\"Triple Js\"]

there was once she accidentally use the word \"walao-eh\", i started to :stompfeet: :mad: :rant:

That is vulgar? :scratchhead:
I'm serious...always thought it's just an exclamation or a mutation of the 'wal@n eh' which, of course, is vulgar.

i would say it is uncouth.[/quote]I do not allow my boys to use the phrase.

[Triple Js]

Nebbermind:

Triple Js:

there was once she accidentally use the word \"walao-eh\", i started to :stompfeet: :mad: :rant:

That is vulgar? :scratchhead:
I'm serious...always thought it's just an exclamation or a mutation of the 'wal@n eh' which, of course, is vulgar.

if we don't stop them on time, it's gonna be a habit. just like her friend, every statement she make will be \"walao-eh..... Fxx lah..... bitchy....\" :censored:
it isn't so nice to portrait on a 12yr old girl. :slapshead:

[icy_mama]

ngl2010:

I just realized that school is only 3 weeks left. After that, our children are no longer a kid

told my kids, in my eyes, they'd always be my baby.

[icy_mama]

Jennifer:

I do not allow my boys to use the phrase.

same here, all i can police is when they're home. at school, how much is being used, i won't know until i get a call from school, i guess.

[ngl2010]

icy_mama:

ngl2010:

I just realized that school is only 3 weeks left. After that, our children are no longer a kid

told my kids, in my eyes, they'd always be my baby.

DS doesn't want to be hugged and kissed in public anymore. Sigh... It is a matter of time that he doesn't want to be hugged and kissed at all

[icy_mama]

ngl2010:

icy_mama:

[quote=\"ngl2010\"]I just realized that school is only 3 weeks left. After that, our children are no longer a kid

told my kids, in my eyes, they'd always be my baby.

DS doesn't want to be hugged and kissed in public anymore. Sigh... It is a matter of time that he doesn't want to be hugged and kissed at all [/quote]my dd, ds, and even my lil piggy too. not in public. i think they know they'd get teased by their classmates if seen doing so, but that doesn't mean they don't want hugs and kisses.

[Triple Js]

we're going to go thru a diff phase...

if we show too much love to them, we will be termed as naggy...
if we don't ask too much about them, they say we don't care and ignore them...
if we treat them as young adult, they say we are unfair to them cos they are still kids.. :slapshead:

it seems that we used to see parents mood in the past.. but now, it's reverse... :faint:

[sharonkhoo]

Triple Js:

we're going to go thru a diff phase...

if we show too much love to them, we will be termed as naggy...
if we don't ask too much about them, they say we don't care and ignore them...
if we treat them as young adult, they say we are unfair to them cos they are still kids.. :slapshead:

it seems that we used to see parents mood in the past.. but now, it's reverse... :faint:

It's a period of adjustment on both sides, at least that's what I've told my teens. With consideration and accommodation on both sides, it can be managed without too much confrontation. One important thing I told my kids is that they are free to tell me it they feel I'm too naggy or treating them as little kids or asking too much of them, but they must tell me politely and without anger, and they must also hear my side of the story. On my part, I try to take note of what they say and not get angry, and adjust how I treat them if it's reasonable. I also allow them to tell me when they need to retreat into their 'hole' for a while and not require them to do everything according to my timetable (like I did when they were little). And one rule in our family is that everyone needs to inform the rest when activities impact the others - like meals (they must tell me in advance if they will be in or out or what time they need to eat), outings (we tell them in advance when there are gatherings where there presence is required) etc. It's worked so far.