Supporting Child's Talent/Hobbies

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EN:

I've did some thinking. What is nature without nurture. I have been so swept away by 2ppaamm's children achievement that I fail to mention behind the achievement is a very supportive and resilient mother.

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Hi En, I'm totally with you on this. Thanks for starting this thread Previously, I was of the mind to let nature takes its course. But I suppose strong parental support is definitely necessary when the kids are at young age.

To 2ppaamm,

I can only echo what others have been complimenting about your posts - they are simply enlightening and inspiring! For the longest while, I have been trying to take the easy way out - hoping my kids would be independent enough to practise the musical instruments on their own. And when they didn't, I simply lashed out at them for being lazy. At one point in time, I was dead serious about stopping my son's violin lessons and getting him to focus on piano instead. He reacted violently by screaming at me that he really wanted both instruments and pleaded with me to help him with them. That's the first wake-up call. And your sharing is the second. Honestly, after reading what you wrote, I feel like I'm a really lousy mother. And music is not the only thing my kids have been asking for while I remained laidback.

I'm really grateful for two things - 1. that En started this thread and 2. your honest and unselfish sharing. What strikes me most is your emphasis on discipline and hard work, despite having such brilliant and wonderful children. (Oh yes, I do hear your pride in them, mother's pride :celebrate: ). And now, I'm ready to embark on a new journey with my kids. Please do share more cos I need doses of such inspirational words and encouragement in the journey ahead!

Thank you, ladies!

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daisyt:

2ppaamm:

EN,

1. Ask that you be allowed to sit in, and take notes. Some really kiasu parents take video!

9. Teacher is very, very important. Don't settle for a convenient teacher who can come to your house at the right time. My kids and I travel across the island to have lessons with the teacher.

Haha ! Meeeeee, tried taking videos before and would try again when time is right. Hubby has been sitting in for a few months. Now, after discussing with the teacher, daddy has been chased out, because teacher wants to open dd up.

Meeee again ! I had very bad experience for convience sake, now dd travels to the other side of the island with this wonderful teacher and she never drags to go.

I'm more fortunate in this aspect. Although I don't get to sit in for my kids' piano lessons, the teacher will alert me of the areas my kids have to work on for each song after each lesson. She'll also play on the piano to show me exactly what she expects from them.

[2ppaamm]

chamonix:

I'm more fortunate in this aspect. Although I don't get to sit in for my kids' piano lessons, the teacher will alert me of the areas my kids have to work on for each song after each lesson. She'll also play on the piano to show me exactly what she expects from them.

Wah, good teacher. There are just so few of them...

And, please give so many compliments leh... :dowan: I'm just sharing what I went through and learnt through my own humble experience. All of us learn together lah.

[smurf]

Thanks 2ppaamm. :thankyou:


will definitely let him try, if he drop halfway, at least he learns somethng instead of rotting away the time.hee.

your post are so inspirational! :celebrate:

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2ppaamm:

Wah, good teacher. There are just so few of them...

She's indeed a great teacher. And what touches me most is that she is arranging a recital before we leave Sg. Just so that my kids can peform in it. :love:

2ppaamm:

And, please give so many compliments leh... :dowan: I'm just sharing what I went through and learnt through my own humble experience. All of us learn together lah.

Despite having such great achievements at young age, you are still able to speak of your children as ordinary kids, that calls for a lot of humbleness. That, itself, is very rare.

[2ppaamm]

I'm one of those who fall in this aspect. Keep believing that my kids are great and sometimes thinking they are really genius.:| But, life is a journey and we don't really know what the end is. An achievement here and there simply does not mean we are great or that we have \"arrived\".


There are always late developers, less privileged but more talented kids who have yet surfaced. （一山有比一山高）When they do, we must learn to take the \"humble\" pie. Sports has taught me that, no one is really the greatest, by the same token, no one is really the under dog forever.

So my kids look good so far, but we are far from success. The key is to keep at it. The end is still so farrrrr away...

Ha ha... just one of those silly but honest thoughts... And, it is really greater to be ordinary than special. But let's not stop at that.

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[quote]If I were to start a new website, which I have thought about for the last 10 years but never got to do it, it will be cluelessmom.com because I was a clueless mom and will continue to be, but one thing for sure: I'm willing to learn from my own mistakes. [/quote]
You clueless, I blur liao. :lol:

Gulp, about the pm thingy, I did act on 1 thing, the other one I promise to do it tomorrow.

Thanks for the music tips too. Definitely useful, when he moves on. Mummy learns from kiddo. Mummy aspire if kiddo grade 8, mummy will be too just no cert to show.

Thanks for the sport tips too. I just want them to be healthy & enjoy how fun sports can be.

The art part, a lot of damage has since been done. If I can turn back the clock to undo things I will. I didn't know that dh can draw very well until he seeked help from me. We were both stressed out being pestered by ds on different things. Imagine takes 2nd child age 5 years old to know my own spouse's ability to draw well. :oops:
[quote]4. Never laugh at a friend or feel small because someone is better. We all will get there ultimately if we do not give up.[/quote]Errr..must always be humble. There are always other who are better. We feeling small is a teeny bit of an issue. Still working on it.

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Yo Chamonix. Back from hibernation? Glad u like the topic. You also joining me in confession session is it? Well, it's from the mistake we realize that we aspire for the change.


Smurf, go for it and don't forget to help your ds and share his learning adventure.

pssttt... daisyt, I already declare, if son reaches grade 8 mummy also grade 8 but just minus the certificate. So.... has your lesson started yet?

[2ppaamm]

EN:

pssttt... daisyt, I already declare, if son reaches grade 8 mummy also grade 8 but just minus the certificate. So.... has your lesson started yet?

I was told I have some music sense, but I made nothing out of it. Never bothered to sit for any exams. But from the sitting in, I decided to make a change some years back. I actually prepared and sat for an exam! Ha ha, shocked everyone. I managed to pass the highest student grade (grade 5 - equivalent to grade 7 or 8 on the piano) for electone. Of course, I only passed. DS1 got a distinction. Guess who was coaching him?

You can do that too!

O, and then I lost the cert. Believe it or not.... Will search for it one of these days. It could be buried amongst the music scores....

[buds]

2ppaamm:

I'm one of those who fall in this aspect. Keep believing that my kids are great and sometimes thinking they are really genius.:| But, life is a journey and we don't really know what the end is. An achievement here and there simply does not mean we are great or that we have \"arrived\".


There are always late developers, less privileged but more talented kids who have yet surfaced. （一山有比一山高）When they do, we must learn to take the \"humble\" pie. Sports has taught me that, no one is really the greatest, by the same token, no one is really the under dog forever.

So my kids look good so far, but we are far from success. The key is to keep at it. The end is still so farrrrr away...

Ha ha... just one of those silly but honest thoughts... And, it is really greater to be ordinary than special. But let's not stop at that.

I like how you placed your words on your thoughts in this, 2ppaamm.
I feel warm and fuzzy reading this post. You bring inspiration to my
life and reading your sharings makes me feel that i can really do it!

I'm the very sports kind during my prime years. But my girls are
not even close at their age. I've had people asking me, eh... never
send them for swim school arh... I just said it's ok. We're managing
fine so far with gramps on impromptu sessions and our own weekly
family sessions. They don't drown in the pool consider okay oredi lah
and knowing water safety is important and handy. If they decide to
pursue swimming as competitive sport like me one day, i would be
happy and even if they don't, i will still enjoy our family swims
together nevertheless.

I look forward to your sharings and i honestly hafta kowtow to your
never relenting efforts to be there for your children which i hope i can
too... as you say... the end is very farrr... :lol: You have more in your
brood and you could do it, so how is it that i with only two keep thinking
the journey's really hard without even actually trying my hardest yet?

It's our blessing to have you here in KiasuParents... to learn from others
in helping ourselves through our own battles... through our own journeys.
Thank you 2ppaamm, for just your presence alone is half the insight won
on our end. :hugs: