2013 PSLE Discussions and Strategy

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janet_lee88:

clay569:

DS doesn't want hold hand with me in public but if we need part ways he'd still give me a quick kiss.

wow, you still have a kiss...mine is like a 'touch me not'.

My elder boy would not 'shun' my hand-holding when he was young but my current P4 son is more 'sensitive'. He prefers to cross road without me holding his hand to act he is 'BIG', and I let him be with my eyes opened while on the road (he will be taking public transport next year and so also good to let me observe how he crosses roads).

Now my elder son is 19. When I cross the road with him, he will hold my hand to escort me across the road.

When we go shopping, he will hold my hand as if we 'park-tall'. (have a funny 'sour' feeling coz his hand is really so huge when held over mine.)

I told him I am very pleased with the way he is taking care of me, and he replied he will hold my hand as far as he can before he holds the hand of a girl (he yet to have a girlfriend coz so busy with his sports and work).

I gave him a smile (but in my heart I really 心花怒放. (but the way he treating me is like as if I am an 'old lady' and so this part ermmm...) Anyway, if he wants to lead, I can always be a follower.

However, he will only hold my hand and never his dad's hand (men don't get it! heeheehee...).

Another short account on hand-holding.

I brought my elder niece (about 25) to China.

China traffic is really 车水马龙 kind where the only rule on the road is No Rules.

I held her hand to cross the road.

She turned to look at me and said, 'I cannot remember when was the last time my mum held my hand.'

It was a very random unexpected reaction from her (her relationship with her mum has not been good since young coz my sis is ultra strict).

I told her, 'I think it's time for you to hold your mum's hand instead.'

Hand-holding seems such a small matter but there's a lot of 感情 inside this small thing. This 感情 needs to build from young.

What I want to share here is to train (indirectly) your kids to be able to hold your hand (on own accord) as early as possible and this can only be done if you can let go of their hand first...

PS:
Usually daughters no problem. My 21 years old daughter holds my hand in the most natural way whenever we go out together.

[clay569]

insider:

What I want to share here is to train (indirectly) your kids to be able to hold your hand (on own accord) as early as possible and this can only be done if you can let go of their hand first...

PS:
Usually daughters no problem. My 21 years old daughter holds my hand in the most natural way whenever we go out together.

So touching

But cheem...how to train?... We used to hold hands everywhere till this year, be it driving, outing etc.. Now he's shy about it. Let me find a chance to cross road with him tomorrow and see what happens

[janet88]

my 8 going on 9 year old still holds my hand automatically…girls are girls. her little hand feels so good…can’t deny I have a (very) soft spot for her.

[clay569]

Taking kids out for ice kacang now… Literally chill…

[Nebbermind]

clay569:

Taking kids out for ice kacang now... Literally chill...

so late still can find ice kacang?

[Jennifer]

There were a few schools prospectus given to the P6.


NUSHigh
Haw Chong
NJC
SJI
River Valley newsletter

There is another round of sec sch booths in sch on next Monday.

What abt your child’s school?

[insider]

clay569:

But cheem...how to train?... We used to hold hands everywhere till this year, be it driving, outing etc.. Now he's shy about it. Let me find a chance to cross road with him tomorrow and see what happens

Basically is to build a solid foundation with your child and don't let unnecessary things get into your relationship with him.

concern2's contribution in the other thread bears the essence of how to 'train' indirectly too:

万物的成长不留痕迹，如水的妈妈，总能找到孩子的好处，不动声色的夸奖孩子，赞美孩子，口吐莲花，让孩子感觉自己是个英雄，充满了力量，下定决心一定要保护自己柔弱的父母，如此两个人的关系才能亲密无间。

反之，妈妈经常挑孩子的毛病，孩子的心越来越凉，越来越没信心，觉得自己是个笨蛋，觉得自己是个废物，只能越来越走下坡路。


Start from young and we all reap what we sow...

PS:
I know my elder son is full of gratitude towards me for not 嫌弃ing he more '苯' when he couldn't perform academically when young and for my unwavering faith in him that he will grow up fine and well (that he indeed did).

[clay569]

Nebbermind:

clay569:

Taking kids out for ice kacang now... Literally chill...

so late still can find ice kacang?

Got.... Xin wang... Ended up we had all sort of food but ice kacang...

Edit: xw not really ice kacang...ice mountain...

[clay569]

insider:

clay569:

But cheem...how to train?... We used to hold hands everywhere till this year, be it driving, outing etc.. Now he's shy about it. Let me find a chance to cross road with him tomorrow and see what happens

Basically is to build a solid foundation with your child and don't let unnecessary things get into your relationship with him.

concern2's contribution in the other thread bears the essence of how to 'train' indirectly too:

万物的成长不留痕迹，如水的妈妈，总能找到孩子的好处，不动声色的夸奖孩子，赞美孩子，口吐莲花，让孩子感觉自己是个英雄，充满了力量，下定决心一定要保护自己柔弱的父母，如此两个人的关系才能亲密无间。

反之，妈妈经常挑孩子的毛病，孩子的心越来越凉，越来越没信心，觉得自己是个笨蛋，觉得自己是个废物，只能越来越走下坡路。


Start from young and we all reap what we sow...

PS:
I know my elder son is full of gratitude towards me for not 嫌弃ing he more '苯' when he couldn't perform academically when young and for my unwavering faith in him that he will grow up fine and well (that he indeed did).

Ohhh! Wise words! Thanks for sharing!!

[clay569]

insider:

clay569:

But cheem...how to train?... We used to hold hands everywhere till this year, be it driving, outing etc.. Now he's shy about it. Let me find a chance to cross road with him tomorrow and see what happens

Basically is to build a solid foundation with your child and don't let unnecessary things get into your relationship with him.

concern2's contribution in the other thread bears the essence of how to 'train' indirectly too:

万物的成长不留痕迹，如水的妈妈，总能找到孩子的好处，不动声色的夸奖孩子，赞美孩子，口吐莲花，让孩子感觉自己是个英雄，充满了力量，下定决心一定要保护自己柔弱的父母，如此两个人的关系才能亲密无间。

反之，妈妈经常挑孩子的毛病，孩子的心越来越凉，越来越没信心，觉得自己是个笨蛋，觉得自己是个废物，只能越来越走下坡路。


Start from young and we all reap what we sow...

PS:
I know my elder son is full of gratitude towards me for not 嫌弃ing he more '苯' when he couldn't perform academically when young and for my unwavering faith in him that he will grow up fine and well (that he indeed did).

Ohhh! Wise words! Thanks for sharing!!