My wife and I need help with our girl (Primary 2) ...

[jjxy mum]

Hi,

Some children are slightly slower in learning than others, they tend to take longer time to digest a concept or a set of rules.
Have u ever spoke to her school teacher? Does she has some close friends in school? How did she perform in primary 1?
Look like she isn’t coping well with her peers, is she in a ‘banded’ class?

[clay569]

Hi, I’m sorry to hear about the situation you are going through.


My thoughts are:
1) try to speak with the form teacher and subject teachers and seek help from the school allied educator. A bit tricky at this time as there’s no more lessons which the allied educator could sit in and observe. Nevertheless, he/she should be able to advise further.
2) what is her learning style? Perhaps she can understand better with a different approach?
3) I’m not sure to what extent an allied educator can help. If it doesn’t look promising, a visit to a child psychologist may find some answers.

All the best…

[Pen88n]

As suggested, I think you need to talk to her teacher to understand her behaviour and learning in school. You may also want to consider sending her for assessment to diagnose if she has any learning disabilities (it can be visual / auditory processing deficiency, etc.) to identify her learning needs. I am not saying she is having these, but to diagnose and early intervention will help kids with such learning needs. It can be also caused by some other issues like vision issues - I have heard of a case of a boy having eye teaming problem so he has difficulty reading. It was only with the right lenses that he managed to correct his vision so his learning improve.


On the part of tuition, it is not always the solution to better performance in kids. Need to assess the kid’s needs before deciding. Generally, in cases of such gaps in foundation (P1 / 2 are actually building foundation), it is preferable for 1-to-1 tuition which can focus on the kid’s gaps and address them accordingly. Group tuition will not be able to cater to such needs. But as mentioned above, you should check out with school and assessment before embarking on further tuition for your girl.

Hope it works out fine for you and your girl!

[SAHM_TAN]

Hi hwtan,


How was the last parent-teacher meeting with your daughter’s tr? This is now term 4, I imagine there was at least one PTM ?

P2 is build upon P1’s work. How was her P1’s results?

If you are worried, you can send her for physical and learning assessment to cover your bases. For my ds, his ear will build up quite a lot of wax and I think this affected his learning till we found out and "cleared" his hearing. After that he caught up quite quickly in kindy. Now I regularly check his ears for excessive wax. There might have been other factors but once we cleared his hearing, his speech, reading caught up and the rest also fell into place. When I had some doubts abt dd1’s learning abilities, I arranged for an assessment and once that was out of the way and I knew she didn’t have any learning issues, I planned on the best way to help her according to her starting point.

If you think her confidence and self-esteem is affected, you will need to help her build that or else she will not have the confidence to learn. You may want to read this book, Internal Drive Theory: Motivate your child to want to study by Dr Petunia Lee. It’s available in the library and it’s based on local context.

I do not compare dd1’s results with classmates. I do not bother with class average. I base on my dd1’s starting point and work with her, focusing on her. I tell her I don’t care about her classmates’ results. I understand the school syllabus and I set the std that she should reach for her ability.

Is your daughter’s school setting very difficult papers? I have come across rather difficult P2 qns. You can compare the school worksheets and the test papers to gauge if the school is setting too many qns above the level of what is taught in the classroom. In P2, compo writing and oral can pull down the marks, both need practise and practise.

I think it’s ok at her age to like the shows that you have listed. Does she have chores and help look after the younger bro?

I have 3 kids. I don’t bother abt the birth order. I will allocate chores when they reach the appropriate age.

Academics results do not define your daughter. Relationship before results.

cheers

[lovinglife]

SAHM_TAN:

Hi hwtan,


How was the last parent-teacher meeting with your daughter's tr? This is now term 4, I imagine there was at least one PTM ?

P2 is build upon P1's work. How was her P1's results?

If you are worried, you can send her for physical and learning assessment to cover your bases. For my ds, his ear will build up quite a lot of wax and I think this affected his learning till we found out and \"cleared\" his hearing. After that he caught up quite quickly in kindy. Now I regularly check his ears for excessive wax. There might have been other factors but once we cleared his hearing, his speech, reading caught up and the rest also fell into place. When I had some doubts abt dd1's learning abilities, I arranged for an assessment and once that was out of the way and I knew she didn't have any learning issues, I planned on the best way to help her according to her starting point.

If you think her confidence and self-esteem is affected, you will need to help her build that or else she will not have the confidence to learn. You may want to read this book, Internal Drive Theory: Motivate your child to want to study by Dr Petunia Lee. It's available in the library and it's based on local context.

I do not compare dd1's results with classmates. I do not bother with class average. I base on my dd1's starting point and work with her, focusing on her. I tell her I don't care about her classmates' results. I understand the school syllabus and I set the std that she should reach for her ability.

Is your daughter's school setting very difficult papers? I have come across rather difficult P2 qns. You can compare the school worksheets and the test papers to gauge if the school is setting too many qns above the level of what is taught in the classroom. In P2, compo writing and oral can pull down the marks, both need practise and practise.

I think it's ok at her age to like the shows that you have listed. Does she have chores and help look after the younger bro?

I have 3 kids. I don't bother abt the birth order. I will allocate chores when they reach the appropriate age.

Academics results do not define your daughter. Relationship before results.

cheers

I like the above sharing. :love:

[jjxy mum]

lovinglife:

SAHM_TAN:

Hi hwtan,


How was the last parent-teacher meeting with your daughter's tr? This is now term 4, I imagine there was at least one PTM ?

P2 is build upon P1's work. How was her P1's results?

If you are worried, you can send her for physical and learning assessment to cover your bases. For my ds, his ear will build up quite a lot of wax and I think this affected his learning till we found out and \"cleared\" his hearing. After that he caught up quite quickly in kindy. Now I regularly check his ears for excessive wax. There might have been other factors but once we cleared his hearing, his speech, reading caught up and the rest also fell into place. When I had some doubts abt dd1's learning abilities, I arranged for an assessment and once that was out of the way and I knew she didn't have any learning issues, I planned on the best way to help her according to her starting point.

If you think her confidence and self-esteem is affected, you will need to help her build that or else she will not have the confidence to learn. You may want to read this book, Internal Drive Theory: Motivate your child to want to study by Dr Petunia Lee. It's available in the library and it's based on local context.

I do not compare dd1's results with classmates. I do not bother with class average. I base on my dd1's starting point and work with her, focusing on her. I tell her I don't care about her classmates' results. I understand the school syllabus and I set the std that she should reach for her ability.

Is your daughter's school setting very difficult papers? I have come across rather difficult P2 qns. You can compare the school worksheets and the test papers to gauge if the school is setting too many qns above the level of what is taught in the classroom. In P2, compo writing and oral can pull down the marks, both need practise and practise.

I think it's ok at her age to like the shows that you have listed. Does she have chores and help look after the younger bro?

I have 3 kids. I don't bother abt the birth order. I will allocate chores when they reach the appropriate age.

Academics results do not define your daughter. Relationship before results.

cheers

I like the above sharing. :love:

SAHM tan,

Your sharing touches my heart....

[SAHM_TAN]

lovinglife and jjxy mum,


I’m still a work in progress.

[hwtan]

Hi all


Thanks so much for the responses. I really appreciate it - think we’re going to send my DD for a proper diagnostic to assess the best ways she can learn, then take it from there.

Anyone’s child attended Thinker’s Box? Is it any good?

[SAHM_TAN]

hwtan:

Hi all


Thanks so much for the responses. I really appreciate it - think we're going to send my DD for a proper diagnostic to assess the best ways she can learn, then take it from there.

Anyone's child attended Thinker's Box? Is it any good?

Do you intend to send your child to Thinker's Box for cognitive assessment ?