Supporting Child's Talent/Hobbies
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2ppaamm:
Agree on this part \"must be involved and take an active role\" and the challenge thing. I took up videography, partly because of dd too. She has given up this for something we feel its better (in her CCA) and I want to compromise her sacrifice, also having in mind, this can be a family hobby. Sometimes she would teach me some videography techniques she has learned, be the videographer when I need to be in the scene, help me in editing, give me comments and ideas.
Yah lor. I remember when DD1 was taking her grade 5 exams some years back. She had problem with this certain part in a piece. She couldn't play it well and I kept telling her how to do it. Then, she looked at me and said, \"you do it lah!\"EN:
So in the best sense, for a parent to motivate or assist their children to grow in their talent/hobbies/interest, the parents must be involved and take an active role.
Of course, my stiff fingers couldn't move anymore. I hadn't touched the piano for 20+ years. I had been playing the electone but not the piano. That afternoon, I spent 2 hours just practising that 1 bar. Then, I went on to practise the whole piece for a week. One day, when she was playing that piece on the piano downstairs, I played that same piece upstairs. Ha ha! She was pleasantly surprised (I believe touched too). She never challenged me again!!!
Another experience to share... :rotflmao:
I always feel that having a family hobby is important. -
2ppaamm:
Your thoughts are far from silly but enlightening as usual.I'm one of those who fall in this aspect. Keep believing that my kids are great and sometimes thinking they are really genius.:| But, life is a journey and we don't really know what the end is. An achievement here and there simply does not mean we are great or that we have \"arrived\".
There are always late developers, less privileged but more talented kids who have yet surfaced. ๏ผไธๅฑฑๆๆฏไธๅฑฑ้ซ๏ผWhen they do, we must learn to take the \"humble\" pie. Sports has taught me that, no one is really the greatest, by the same token, no one is really the under dog forever.
So my kids look good so far, but we are far from success. The key is to keep at it. The end is still so farrrrr away...
Ha ha... just one of those silly but honest thoughts... And, it is really greater to be ordinary than special. But let's not stop at that.
It's human nature for parents to look and think upon their kids as geniuses. And I think they should cos every kid is indeed very special. I believe that's what my mom think of her children too.
But it takes a down-to-earth parent to understand this - To those who have made it good so far, there's no place to be proud, no past success can guarantee our future. :celebrate:
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Hi En,
Yah, it has been a nice long winter Wish I could sleep a little longer. But you just have to stir me up with this interesting and motivational topic, huh? 
[quote]Well, it's from the mistake we realize that we aspire for the change.[/quote] :celebrate: -
EN:
[quote]She couldn't play it well and I kept telling her how to do it. Then, she looked at me and said, \"you do it lah!\"
:rotflmao: Me too!!! But when I show him how to play, he :roll: . But at least he understood what I meant.
Hugs to you 2ppaamm. :D[/quote]Can't our kids be just a little more docile? :stupid: -
daisyt:
*faint*. Grade 5 or even grade 6, I still can cope, but never grade 8. My ds doing gr 8 violin, and the standard is quite a significant jump. I started violin at 39, leh. The co-ordination for fingers/bowing is really not the same as for kids, I'm afraid, no matter how hard i practise.
I not as good as you, can declare same grade with ds. I simply want to learn to enjoy and relax :lol:EN:
pssttt... daisyt, I already declare, if son reaches grade 8 mummy also grade 8 but just minus the certificate. So.... has your lesson started yet?
Piano no problem. Even though I rarely play in the last 20+years, when I get down to practising, I can get it. Relatively easy pieces up to grade 5 or 6, i can even \"wing it\" just by sightreading. Higher grades, I'd practise, but I hate to do that, so if it needs too much practise, oh well, I just won't bother. Haha. Too lazy and lack of time esp with a baby in the house.
So no, i wouldn't even bother to challenge if it's violin. For piano yes, I can. -
phankao:
So it's true that it's more difficult to pick up violin, huh? Think I better give up the idea of getting a full size violin.
*faint*. Grade 5 or even grade 6, I still can cope, but never grade 8. My ds doing gr 8 violin, and the standard is quite a significant jump. I started violin at 39, leh. The co-ordination for fingers/bowing is really not the same as for kids, I'm afraid, no matter how hard i practise.
So no, i wouldn't even bother to challenge if it's violin. For piano yes, I can.
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[quote]EN wrote:
pssttt... daisyt, I already declare, if son reaches grade 8 mummy also grade 8 but just minus the certificate. So.... has your lesson started yet?
Not yet, but she has found a book suitable for me. Have been busy during the last weekend and CNY coming ... Hope to start this weekend ... let's see
I not as good as you, can declare same grade with ds. I simply want to learn to enjoy and relax [/quote]Alamak paisey lah. We must take baby steps together even though we are aunties. You definitely ahead of the game course your teacher has better grade. Ds not even grade 1. I hope I wont appear in the how lian corner. -
EN:
Hallo, judging from the rate your son is learning, he will be playing higher grade pieces once you get him a good teacher
Alamak paisey lah. We must take baby steps together even though we are aunties. ... Ds not even grade 1. I hope I wont appear in the how lian corner.
Ganbatte! -
chamonix:
Actually, I gave up on the violin, too. Not because it is harder but my neck hurts so badly having to use that 1/4 size violin and I feel so retarded... so I gave up, as I just cannot see my fingers that are so near :stupid: . My child also quit NAFA when I gave up. I should have bought a full-sized for myself. Didn't have the foresight then. Sigh!
So it's true that it's more difficult to pick up violin, huh? Think I better give up the idea of getting a full size violin.
That violin still sits there untouched for the last 7 years. -
2ppaamm:
Actually, I gave up on the violin, too. Not because it is harder but my neck hurts so badly having to use that 1/4 size violin and I feel so retarded...
:rotflmao:
I cannot stand the neck ache!
Even if i play it even for a while, the whole of the next day i would
be going around with my neck tilted to one side like kena one tight
slap from husband lidat.2ppaamm:
so I gave up, as I just cannot see my fingers that are so near :stupid: .
I couldn't see the strings! Fingers too fat & chubby! 2ppaamm:
Thankfully hubs is the one who looks like he got the tight slap from me!My child also quit NAFA when I gave up. I should have bought a full-sized for myself. Didn't have the foresight then. Sigh!
That violin still sits there untouched for the last 7 years.
Cause DD1 plays with the violin so beautifully now.. :love:
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