All About Autism
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helplessmum3:
I think we are the only one going through nightmares :frustrated: .mummies & daddies, do u have any good remedy for good nite sleep for my asd child?
he been waking up in the middle of nite like 4/5am and stay awake throughout, im dying..
My daughter only want to sleep with me and she can wakeup like around 11:00pm then 2:30am then 4:30am and then will sleep in morning when time to go EPIC and Childcare :nailbite: . This Friday she woke up at 12am and didn't slept till 4:30 :yikes: , i was like GOD please
. If she wakeup and cry my son also wakeup so me and my wife both have to be up.
I hope you can get some answer and maybe i also get some help :imdrowning: .
BTW i remember before we had kids, every Saturday my wife wake up around 9+ now both of us get up around 5 :gloomy: . -
I can’t help you about getting your kids to sleep longer - my ASD girl always took a long time to fall asleep, sometimes more than an hour. She also tended to wake very early if she fell asleep early. I told her that she could not leave her bed once we had put her to bed (except for emergencies) and she should not leave her bed in the morning until a certain time (that was once she could tell time a bit, around 4yo?). Even when she left her bed, she could not disturb us until a certain time. She could play quietly or read, but she would have to stay in her room and not wake her sister. Keep up the training and they will leave you alone eventually.
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@slmkhoo, you got lucky.
Our son wakeup in morning and then he will jump on the bed, jump here jump there and will be keep kissing us on eyes till we wakeup :pokeeye:. -
wamin:
How old is your son? My daughter used to come in and disturb us, but we gradually trained her to come in and be quiet in our room (2-3yo), and then not to come in at all (3-4yo). Is your son obedient at other times and in other ways? It's a matter of obedience, really, unless your son is unable to understand instructions at all.@slmkhoo, you got lucky.
Our son wakeup in morning and then he will jump on the bed, jump here jump there and will be keep kissing us on eyes till we wakeup :pokeeye:. -
Am too suffering insomnia even now because of the erratic sleep patterns of kids and it happens to all, not only ASD kids. Only insignificant advice I can give is not to allow afternoon naps at all. If they sleep say only 8hrs max then make them sleep later in the night i.e. 10 or 11pm, no choice.
I have another concern that is actually becoming quite a problem now; which is the “slang” or accent when they speak. Am sure there is a scientific term for this but I forgot what it’s called. It is due to the vocal influences of TV and cartoons which they watch and imitate. My older boy has quite a strong accent (British maybe) and I fear he might be made fun of or bullied next year when he goes to an all Chinese school. Initially I didn’t think much about it until recently people have been asking why he slangs so much since we are very Singlish parents. And he also likes to use words like “I’m cross” instead of “I’m angry” and I can’t correct him since it is technically not wrong.
Think am worrying too much ah? :yikes: -
belachanbabe:
Have you lived overseas at all? My daughter sounded very British as we lived in the UK for her first 2+yrs, and even after 14 more years in other places, she still has a bit of a British accent. She also tends to speak more formally, and doesn't use slang (in the British/US sense of the word). It's the ASD pedantry, I guess. Both my husband and I are fairly \"accent-less\" thanks to living overseas so much, but we still sound Singaporean enough to be recognised easily by fellow-Singaporeans abroad. To make my family even more complex, my younger (NT) girl has an American accent because of American teachers and friends.I have another concern that is actually becoming quite a problem now; which is the “slang” or accent when they speak. Am sure there is a scientific term for this but I forgot what it’s called. It is due to the vocal influences of TV and cartoons which they watch and imitate. My older boy has quite a strong accent (British maybe) and I fear he might be made fun of or bullied next year when he goes to an all Chinese school. Initially I didn’t think much about it until recently people have been asking why he slangs so much since we are very Singlish parents. And he also likes to use words like “I’m cross” instead of “I’m angry” and I can’t correct him since it is technically not wrong.
Think am worrying too much ah? :yikes: -
slmkhoo:
Have you lived overseas at all? My daughter sounded very British as we lived in the UK for her first 2+yrs, and even after 14 more years in other places, she still has a bit of a British accent. She also tends to speak more formally, and doesn't use slang (in the British/US sense of the word). It's the ASD pedantry, I guess. Both my husband and I are fairly \"accent-less\" thanks to living overseas so much, but we still sound Singaporean enough to be recognised easily by fellow-Singaporeans abroad. To make my family even more complex, my younger (NT) girl has an American accent because of American teachers and friends.
Nope, lived in Singapore all the way, maybe the influence of Thomas the train and Bob the builder? Although strangely they didn't pick up the American accent at all even though they are into more American shows these days. Also notice that they speak very formally but that's because they don't understand the nuances of casual speech. He speaks mandarin in an ang mo accent too. -
@slmkhoo, he is turning 5 next month. He do understand instructions but he will do same act again if no one is looking at him (maybe he don't remember instructions).
He like to go to toilet and run water tap and every-time i tell him NO, if later i am not paying attention he will try to sneak again but if i catch him running to toilet and say an an he will stop and come back. I think he understand but he don't always act as instructed (am i making any sense
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@belachanbabe, recently i had my son appointment at KK and his doctor was telling me he need 12-13 hour sleep :? . He is attending childcare and you know they made all kids had afternoon nap, so i have no control over that.
BTW my kids sleep around 8:30-9 but most of the time wakeup at night (Now i hardly remember when they never wakeup :scratchhead: ). -
wamin:
I know exactly what you mean. With my ASD child, I found that I needed to go over instructions about 100 times more than with my NT child, and then revisit them again and again before they would stick. I can only encourage you to persevere because at some point they will stick, then you will have the opposite problem of him being too rigid about it! It's to do with self-control and impulse management, I think. Maybe you can try putting warning signs on the bathroom door or over the tap? You can use pictures if he can't read yet.@slmkhoo, he is turning 5 next month. He do understand instructions but he will do same act again if no one is looking at him (maybe he don't remember instructions).
He like to go to toilet and run water tap and every-time i tell him NO, if later i am not paying attention he will try to sneak again but if i catch him running to toilet and say an an he will stop and come back. I think he understand but he don't always act as instructed (am i making any sense ). -
@slmkhoo, thank you.
Yah i think i should put some warning sign. Changing house in 1 month time so i think in new home will put all signs.
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