How do you deal with arrogant/how lian people around you?

[jedamum]

tutormum:

Sadly, most mothers thought that it's THE TUTOR'S JOB. I speak as a tutor now. :siam:

i beg to differ.
personally, inspiring son to study is a tutor's job, if not i pay for tutor for what? might as well give him tons of assessment and ask him to do. a mother's job is not to inspire son to study. it is to feed them, clothe them, love them and inspire them to do their best and to some kids, studying is not what they are best at. it is then the tutor's job to inspire these kids while the mum give support. do i make sense? eg no matter how i coax, ds1 refused to converse in mandarin with me, but whenever he stepped into Berries classroom, he'll be a mini chatterbox, 'bugging' his teacher in mandarin (some broken sentences though )- that, is inspiration that i cannot give.
jmho.

[jedamum]

ks2me:

:celebrate: we both hao lian! Btw, your dh really can-can...no inkling still can chat with them....won't \"chun po\"(in cantonese) ah? :salute:

:lol: ya lor. lolz. so long don't call the other party by the name is safe liao. lolz.

[corneyAmber]

jedamum:

i beg to differ.

personally, inspiring son to study is a tutor's job, if not i pay for tutor for what? might as well give him tons of assessment and ask him to do. a mother's job is not to inspire son to study. it is to feed them, clothe them, love them and inspire them to do their best and to some kids, studying is not what they are best at. it is then the tutor's job to inspire these kids while the mum give support. do i make sense? eg no matter how i coax, ds1 refused to converse in mandarin with me, but whenever he stepped into Berries classroom, he'll be a mini chatterbox, 'bugging' his teacher in mandarin - that, is inspiration that i cannot give.
jmho.

I have to agree with you. I think mum's role is mainly to provide all the basic needs well and no worries, just like what our mums used to do. And if we outsource, the teachers should inspire and motivate in their area of expertise. Mother is not goddess...

[auntieM]

If a mum tells me her kid has high EQ and quite sociable in school I won't classify that as 'howlianing' though

[tankee]

turquoise:

haha! I know of a mother and daughter pair who are like that too. They claim the dd got into GEP in P3 but declined it because she didn't want to leave her old school. But everyone in the school knows exactly who got into GEP so it was obvious they were not tellling the truth. ?

Then the pair check out all the IP schools for DSA in P5 and P6, and when the dd didn't get any DSA offers, the pair claim that they didn't even apply. And of course when PSLE results were released, claimed they could've gotten into even RGS, NYGH and NJC but chose to remain in the affliated secondary school. This secondary school posts the kids into their S1 classes according to PSLE scores, so everyone knows roughly your PSLE score just by seeing which class you're in. Needless to say, her dd was not in the top classes.

What's the point in pretending when the truth is clear for everyone to see?

:shock: don;t understand why they want to do that ...... isn't it more embrassing when people find out the truth?

[tankee]

25hourmaid:

There is another category of how lian people that I cannot stand - a doting grandparent boasting how 'good/smart' their grandchild is.


There is this old lady I know in Church and her precious one and only granddaughter (only son and also only granddaughter) is in the same school, same standard as my elder boy.

First when the PSLE results were released, she went .... \"actually MY S**** (mind you, it is always MY S**** this and MY S**** that) wanted XXX and YYY (the two top all girls' IP schools) but miss by one mark to these schools, so she's now in ZZZ school (my son's school) and that's her 3rd choice. She's now waiting for a transfer to either XXX or YYY schools.\" But the thing is now, 3 years on, her S**** is still in my son's school.

When she first found out that my son is in the same school as her S****, she went .... \"oh so you are also from ZZZ school? Do you know who MY S**** is? Have you met her? Which class are you in etc? MY S**** is in such and such a class and she won such and such an award, so you definitely must know who MY S**** is and must have seen her!\"

Goodness me, :faint: she talks as if her S**** is the one and only student in ZZZ school and EVERYONE must know who her S**** is or how smart her S**** is! :roll:

Now when my son sees her in Church, he turns around 180Deg and :siam: :lol: I do the same too! :lol:

I will cut old folk's some slack ... perhaps this granddaughter is really her pride and her joy. I will entertain her as long as she don't belittle others.

[tankee]

auntieM:

If a mum tells me her kid has high EQ and quite sociable in school I won't classify that as 'howlianing' though

agreed with you ... but she goes around saying others EQ are much lower than her kid then it is different story.

[corneyAmber]

tankee:

I will cut old folk's some slack ... perhaps this granddaughter is really her pride and her joy. I will entertain her as long as she don't belittle others.

I mean yes, most grandparents (except my ILs) are proud of their grandchildren, but if it is this topic about her precious S**** each time she meets us, I think that is a very different story altogether! She asks my son if he has met her S**** each time she meets him and I think that takes the cake! :stupid:

[auntieM]

Ya lor .


Normally, it is women that goes around. I heard this from a dad.

\" Which Primary school will your child be attending?\"
Answer:\" Neighbourhood school XXX\"
\"You must be kidding!\"

Time stood still for awhile and I walked away....
Probably should classified this dad as plain rude and not howlian.

[auntieM]

:lol:


Got more howlian daddy stories to share or not? :lol: