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    Do you cane your daughters when they misbehave?

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    • S Offline
      SBKS
      last edited by

      Mawar:
      Yes, I do spank my kids when they were younger.


      A few years' ago, I was with my girlfriend walking along a shopping strip somewhere in Europe. For some reason, her son decided to test her patience that day. She tried everything to get him to cooperate. Finally after a few warnings, she gave him 2 smacks on his bum. He was in training pants so not much physical damage done.

      Two well dressed middle aged ladies came up to us and gave my friend a good scolding. We got a good verbal abuse witnessed by a small group of passerbys. Quite a lot of mental damage was inflicted on us that day.

      Happy Mother's Day!
      oh then did the 2 middle aged ladies give suggestions to how to discipline or just scold?

      when talk to nicely and they just dont listen. then what should they do?

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      • sembgalS Offline
        sembgal
        last edited by

        I do not believe in caning my chikd though I grew up being caned. I use my hand to smack instead.

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        • lchunleoL Offline
          lchunleo
          last edited by

          SBKS:
          Mawar:

          Yes, I do spank my kids when they were younger.


          A few years' ago, I was with my girlfriend walking along a shopping strip somewhere in Europe. For some reason, her son decided to test her patience that day. She tried everything to get him to cooperate. Finally after a few warnings, she gave him 2 smacks on his bum. He was in training pants so not much physical damage done.

          Two well dressed middle aged ladies came up to us and gave my friend a good scolding. We got a good verbal abuse witnessed by a small group of passerbys. Quite a lot of mental damage was inflicted on us that day.

          Happy Mother's Day!

          oh then did the 2 middle aged ladies give suggestions to how to discipline or just scold?

          when talk to nicely and they just dont listen. then what should they do?

          it did happen to me when i tried to talk \"sense\" in my child like telling how important to brush teeth but if after all the persuasion, he don't listen, then i reverse my approach, i told him \"ok, you don't want is it, fine, i would not be brushing for you, will let your teeth rot and fall\"..and it seem to work as he realize he is missing something important and ok to comply...:D

          then it came to an insight to me that the more we care about them, the more they take us for granted..:P so sometime, have to reverse approach so that
          1) it takes the pressure off them to comply 2) time for them to think 3) less stressful for us too.

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            SBKS
            last edited by

            lchunleo:
            SBKS:

            [quote=\"Mawar\"]Yes, I do spank my kids when they were younger.


            A few years' ago, I was with my girlfriend walking along a shopping strip somewhere in Europe. For some reason, her son decided to test her patience that day. She tried everything to get him to cooperate. Finally after a few warnings, she gave him 2 smacks on his bum. He was in training pants so not much physical damage done.

            Two well dressed middle aged ladies came up to us and gave my friend a good scolding. We got a good verbal abuse witnessed by a small group of passerbys. Quite a lot of mental damage was inflicted on us that day.

            Happy Mother's Day!

            oh then did the 2 middle aged ladies give suggestions to how to discipline or just scold?

            when talk to nicely and they just dont listen. then what should they do?

            it did happen to me when i tried to talk \"sense\" in my child like telling how important to brush teeth but if after all the persuasion, he don't listen, then i reverse my approach, i told him \"ok, you don't want is it, fine, i would not be brushing for you, will let your teeth rot and fall\"..and it seem to work as he realize he is missing something important and ok to comply...:D

            then it came to an insight to me that the more we care about them, the more they take us for granted..:P so sometime, have to reverse approach so that
            1) it takes the pressure off them to comply 2) time for them to think 3) less stressful for us too.[/quote]
            i did and its in my arsenel of weapons. I teach them this way, they dun listen so i tell them the consequences. but they still dun listen. 1 time i let them pass. 2nd time comes and they still do that, i met out punishment. could be caning or privilege taken away.

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            • B Offline
              Blue Pearl
              last edited by

              i also smack my gal.

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              • M Offline
                mummy OnABudget
                last edited by

                i smack butt or hands never cane maybe cause girl la so better not to cane

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