All About Autism

[Niu2009]

Double E:

Niu2009:

[quote=\"Double E\"]Johmom,

Good to hear that your boy is doing good in P1. Same as couragemum, it does help to boost my confidence in my boy too.

Anyway, on my boy, his OT recently commented that he is still not up to par on his planning skills, not much significant improvement, so told me he has to continue his OT. Well, I don't intend to stop anyway, so I m not very much affected. And I am starting him on Taekwando, hope it will help to instill more discipline in him and learn some moves to defend himself, haha.

Hi Double E,

May i khow where you send you DS on Taekwando? Btw, how old is he now?

The TKD school is in Tanglin Shopping Centre, just beside Kidz OT. My boy is going to be in the same class as his younger sister. I signed both my kids up.[/quote]Double E,

Thanks! Your son same age as my one. DS horned in Nov 09.

[belachanbabe]

Thanks Couragemom. However I stay in the East so it is very inconvenient to go Buena Vista. One thing I’ve learnt also that slapping a ‘special needs’ tag on something means more $$ you have to fork out. I rather have a patient but firm teacher for him.


Double E, I didn’t get to speak directly to the mum but the teacher said she was quite apologetic and was willing to discipline her son so I left it at that. Problem partly is also no bus aunty. Heard it is normal to not have a one as all margins are squeezed. Just contrast this to my boy’s PL bus which cost me $270 (2 ways) compared to $90 (one way) monthly.

The boy that bullied him was considered one of his friends in class but dunno what triggered him to start calling him names. This happened only on the school bus, not the school itself. Could be peer pressure from group of older boys there. C1 seems to have a group of friends that he goes to recess with and they aren’t imaginary coz I also checked with the teacher on that too. On the other hand, my boy does talk non-stop when it comes to his favorite subject of dinosaurs. So I can imagine the others being turned off by his incessant chatter. He can be very ‘high maintenance’ in terms of needing attention.

[Couragemom]

Hi Double E,


Sorry for mistaking your daughter as the Jie Jie! So paiseh!

[Couragemom]

Hi Johmom,


Woah!!! Can ask for Violin lessons at 2.5 years old? His speech is really advanced at such a young age! At what age did you realize your son’s ASD condition? I think for most mommies/daddy here, the major red flag is our kid’s speech delay that trigger further medical check that leads to the ASD diagnosis.

[Couragemom]

Hi Johmom,


I found your old postings already. Don’t need to answer my questions about how your son got diagnosed in the end.

[johmom]

Here's the funny thing. I've shared this in like page 400+


My boy is my first child so everything he did/does is \"normal\" to me. What books or sites say is \"normal\" was just ignored - like \"every child is different and develop at different pace (right?). Also he was advance in some ways (talking) but obviously slow in others (gross motor skills). And while he can talk, communication is quite another thing.

But now I have a 7 mth old daughter and now I realise she's hitting all the \"normal\" milestones and that's \"normal\". Okay, she's very lazy physically so in that respect she's slow too. But I put it down to having pretty lazy parents - it's in the genes.

Anyway, he was only diagnosed last yr. Since nursery (N2 - he started sch then), since the first day of sch I've gotten complains abt him. Just went with the flow and assume teachers are biased cos he's not kuai kuai, cute cute, sit there and stone kind. They labelled him as active.

Fast forward to the end of K1, a pd who observed him in a class setting spoke to me after the class and practically \"force\" me to get him diagnosed - in a nice way. But I was still offended. Heh. But she recommended the public route (polyclinic, kkh). So after I simmered down I brought him to the poly clinic and the rest as they say is history.

The moment the case worker interviewed us and interacted minimally with him (K2) she agreed with the pd's suspicion of Asperger's. And ordered various test for him. Again I was not happy cos these things cannot anyhow say have after seeing for two hours, right?

So half a yr later he completed all his tests and it became official.

I think we were very fortunate that he seemed to have gotten quite a bit of help, in terms of sessions, from KKH cdu. And he did learn from his sessions there.

So ya, my child is one of those cases who's obvious to the professionals and totally obscure to lay ppl (myself included). Most lay ppl would just think he's difficult, fussy, sensitive, rude. Now after reading up more and attending sessions with him I see the quirks. But it takes time to accept that \"he doesn't get it\" for many social things.

As the kkh psychologist said to me (when she gave me the diagnosis), \"for someone so intelligent, how can he not know these things?\" My reply was \"then he's just not so smart after all\". :oops:

[sharonkhoo]

johmom:

As the kkh psychologist said to me (when she gave me the diagnosis), \"for someone so intelligent, how can he not know these things?\" My reply was \"then he's just not so smart after all\". :oops:

This is really not acceptable from a psychologist! She, of all people, should know why!

My daughter has Asperger's too, but we are many years further down the road than you. She is now studying for her A levels and seems to be managing OK in school. I expect her whole class and CCA mates have already realised that she is a bit 'different', but I think she's getting along fine. We have done a lot of work with her over the years in social skills as well as life skills, and have resigned ourselves that her rate of maturing is going to be a lot slower than her younger sister. She also has some learning difficulties aside from Asperger's itself so we don't expect great results from her. But we are happy to see her progress.

[Double E]

Mummies

Have u all tried bringing your kid to the dentist? How are they coping? did they freak out? I am contemplating to bring my son to one as his teeth has many brown stains which I can’t brush off. But I am worried how he will react as it is, he is not fond of brushing teeth.

[nugget]

Couragemom:

Hi Nugget,


Any sports that needs our kids to do bi-lateral moves such as left leg/right hand out etc and balancing is good for their motor development. Swimming has an additional sensory input of water against skin.

Hi Couragemom,

Yes, he has already started on swimming. I feel its really helping him to be alert. He loves to ride bike too.

Was thinking of letting him learn TKD at least some self defense skills.

[Couragemom]

Hi Nugget,


Can your son ride a 2 wheels bicycle? If yes, does it take very long to teach?