Little Monster

[heutistmeintag]

Cartoon, maybe you can get someone whom your son trust and has good relation with to talk to. For example, my son seldom shares his thoughts with me coz I am stricter with him and it's similar situation for my daughter with my wife.


I think it will be very enligthening to hear his thoughts on his actions. He sounded like an intelligent boy who sometimes couldnt manage his actions and/or emotions. Dont give up nor give in to your emotions - it can become a vicious cycle as Winth said. BTW, I used to call my kids monsters too. :oops:

[Cartoon]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.


He admit that those behaviours are bad and he promise that he will not do it again if i do not punish him this round but he did it again say the next day or a few days later.

Do you think he just want to prove to the others that he is strong and mighty like those cartoon characters in the tv program?

[winth]

Hi Cartoon,


Glad to know that you’ve spoken to him.
Did you ask him why he wants to do that? You should try to be as specific as possible by stating only 1 action that he did, say why did he make that face to this uncle. Don’t confuse him with general statements like why do you like making faces at people? Keep probing but don’t provide answers for him to nod on (e.g. Is it bec this so and so did this and this to you?)

Cartoons might be a cause too. Children tend to show things that they have been exposed to. That’s why I expose my boys to very limited programs. Now that I’ve thrown away my television, we end up having more time for discussions and game-creating.

[schellen]

You should talk to him as quickly as you can after the act has occurred. If you take too long, he may not remember or get confused and it’s not because he’s lying. Young children are a bit like pets; you need to catch them in the act and administer "corrective action" ASAP after, preferably in private and in a clam manner, of course.

[riccsal]

hi cartoon


Most impt you must still continue to shower your love

And continuously to teach him be it using punishment or rewards

And verx impt is to have patient and continue to have fun and enjoy the relationship


Regards

[Cartoon]

Hi


Thanks for all the comments. I guess i will have to put in more effort and to be more patient with him. Afterall he is still a little boy. Thanks again!

[Addoil]

Hi Cartoon


Finally found someone kids similar with me…

My 4 yrs old boy also do such things which is make me very headache, after read through this forum, understand that caning is not the way ( a lot of ppl advise that should use cane ) ya, but this only can control awhile, and the behaviour still there, will be come out on and off…
anyway, he is still a little boy, which we need to put in extra effort on it.

Really thks for all the sharing.

[Ags]

not sure if this can be stated as a similarity here or be of help…


my boy is being cared for by my wife’s aunty whom he obviously has taken a liking to after almost 3 yrs…

realise whenever he is at home with us he is ok and does not kick up a fuss e.g. when we do not give him a sweet/or whatever he wants

however once in my wife’s aunty presence… he will always take advantage of her presence and kick up a big fuss (jumps n cries)

maybe is there any form of similarity of point of refernce u can pick up from?

[mintcc]

I think discipline for kids is an ongoing process…have to be very consistent and firm, and yes they are very smart and knows who can be "bullied" into having their way.


My boy is the same. In school, he is very well behave according to the teachers. At home with the maid or with grand parents - play tricks on them, wait for them to feed and clean up his mess. with the maid, even kick up fuss, throw things and aggressiveness. It took like more than 10 sessions of time out, explaining before he wise up. Even then, there are still times when he try to "test water" in getting his way by throwing tantrums and/or by acting up. … just have to keep up the praising when he is good and be firm with him when he misbehave.

I personally don’t find beating and beating an effective as a form of punishment. I have tried that and it back fires.

[jedamum]

mincy:

My boy is the same. In school, he is very well behave according to the teachers. At home ..... - play tricks on them, wait for them to feed and clean up his mess..... there are still times when he try to \"test water\" in getting his way by throwing tantrums and/or by acting up. ..

Hey, sounds like my P1 son! :roll: