What happen on 1st day of sec school?

[BeadingFantasy]

4 years ago when my son got into St Andrew Sec, I just drop him off in school everyday (just for 2 days) cos the jam outside the school is real bad!


Mummy was worried as he’s the only boy from Holy Innocent Pri to St Andrew Sec …

12 or 13 years old, they are growing up and need breathing space for themselves. Mummies give your children a break !

[Zann]

lizawa:

Hi Zann,


My son has orientation for today and tomorrow, 0730 - 1700. And he only wants me to drop him off, no sending him to the hall what so ever. And he will take the public bus home himself, no need to pick him up. That's what he has requested.

So I guess, that's it, it's time that they learn to be independent.

Hi Lizawa,

Welcome back!

Care to share whether your son will be home alone after school from this Friday onwards, if so, do you have to make arrangement to ensure his self-discipline at home.

[lizawa]

Zann:

lizawa:

Hi Zann,


My son has orientation for today and tomorrow, 0730 - 1700. And he only wants me to drop him off, no sending him to the hall what so ever. And he will take the public bus home himself, no need to pick him up. That's what he has requested.

So I guess, that's it, it's time that they learn to be independent.

Hi Lizawa,

Welcome back!

Care to share whether your son will be home alone after school from this Friday onwards, if so, do you have to make arrangement to ensure his self-discipline at home.

Hi Zann,

Yes, he will be home alone after school. Not sure how many hours he will have at home each day before I get back, but he has promised me that he will not play computer games and watch the TV before he finishes his homework for the day :lol: So, I shall wait and see if I need to \"lock\" up the computer and TV sets.

I guess, at least for the 1st few months, we still need to monitor their progress in school. P6 to Sec 1 is a great jump. Need to be around to give them whatever support they need.

[Zann]

Hi Lizawa, We are in the same boat ...

:lol:

[caroline3sg]

Lizawa & Zann

How do your children settle their lunch/dinner?

[Zann]

caroline3sg:

Lizawa & Zann

How do your children settle their lunch/dinner?

For lunch, he will settle it in the school canteen every day before he goes home on his own. By dinner time I'll be back home to cook. Otherwise, we will settle dinner at a near-by food centre which we usually go to one of our identified Chinese rice store, which is not so oily and looks fresh. Try to eat more home cook food during weekend also. Try to buy organic vegie and use olive oil to cook. Haha, ... kiasu parents don't just worry about school work.

[lizawa]

caroline3sg:

Lizawa & Zann

How do your children settle their lunch/dinner?

Same as Zann, my son will need to settle lunch in school before he gets home. Dinner wise, I normally drop by my mum's place in the evening, which is 5 min drive away to pack home cooked food back.

[caroline3sg]

Lizawa & Zann

I thought of letting my girl stay at home when she is sec 1 in 2010. Currently, the nanny who stayed just 2 storeys down charges $450 for both meals.

I am not sure if the nanny is willing to include my girl’s share of both meals in future (ie she is taking care of another 3 sch going children & 1 toddler). She may not want the $200 or so because she can take in another kid at $450. $450 x 5 is > $2000

[lizawa]

caroline3sg:

Lizawa & Zann

I thought of letting my girl stay at home when she is sec 1 in 2010. Currently, the nanny who stayed just 2 storeys down charges $450 for both meals.

I am not sure if the nanny is willing to include my girl's share of both meals in future (ie she is taking care of another 3 sch going children & 1 toddler). She may not want the $200 or so because she can take in another kid at $450. $450 x 5 is > $2000

Hi Caroline,

$200 just for 2 meals each day is quite good money for the nanny also. She just need to cook a little more, right ? Anyway, she needs to cook for the other kids as well. Your daughter can just drop by her place for meals and then go back home. Also, with CCAs etc, maybe she will need to stay in school for lunch a few days a week. Since the nanny has been taking care of your daughter for so long, I think you can try to make the arrangement.

[caroline3sg]

Lizawa

Thank you for your message. I think my girl likes the company of the other children. My husband also does not want my girl to be alone in the home. In fact, the 2nd half of 2008, my girl stayed back 3 times a week, so the nanny "saved" on 3 lunches.

Whether $200 for 2 meals is good money or not is subjective. Sometimes, it is not money & helping out issue. People just see red (that we earn decent pay) when economy is bad and people are out of jobs. They would lament that they don’t have a car, her husband has to work graveyard shift to put food on table.

So $450 is premium for an adult to "take care" of my girl who is a deep sleeper.