In-law problems?

[buds]

Aaw sista... :hugs:

[minnie2004]

After not talking to each other for 2 years, MIL suddenly asked to talk to me on the phone earlier, asking me to stay at her place when we visit LA in June.


Just a little recap: MIL is a widow living alone in LA. She's very bitter as both sons are away. She's also an extremely demanding and untrusting person. We are planning a trip to the U.S. this summer. The plan was we'll visit her in LA before flying back but I'll leave early, leaving the kids and DH w/ her. After being kicked out of her house the last time we stayed there 5 years ago I swear I'll never step into her house again. Now she said she has forgetten everything and asked me to stay there. I don't think it's true as she still made reference to that incident during our CNY family holiday 2 years ago and treated me like hell. But I'll still give her another chance. The good thing is I already booked the airtix so my return date is fixed. Only need to spend 2 nites at her place. So hope nothing dramatic happens I'll try to spend as much time as possible outside, Disney, Legoland, whatever.

[autumnbronze]

Thanks sista, :hugs: back to you too.


ps: I am assuming the post was meant for me

[ChiefKiasu]

minnie2004:

... Now she said she has forgetten everything and asked me to stay there. I don't think it's true as she still made reference to that incident during our CNY family holiday 2 years ago and treated me like hell. But I'll still give her another chance. The good thing is I already booked the airtix so my return date is fixed. Only need to spend 2 nites at her place. So hope nothing dramatic happens I'll try to spend as much time as possible outside, Disney, Legoland, whatever.

Alexei Petrovich, son of the Russian Tzar Peter I (the Great), fled from his father to stay in exile in Vienna, only to be lured back to Russia by his father 2 years later on promises that all was forgiven. Once back, his father placed him under arrest on suspicion of treachery and had him executed.

History shows that people don't really change as long as they remain in the same environment and circumstances. We can only hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst.

[minnie2004]

Thanks Chief for your scary story. I won't expect anything from her anymore. Just stay there for 2 nites, try to be as polite as possible and then get out of there :siam:, even though I have to leave my kids behind for another week. That'll be the longest time I don't see them since their births

[tree nymph]

minnie2004:

janet_lee88:

Minnie,

Maternal grandparents will know what the grandchildren like/don't like to eat. Paternal grandmother only knows what HER children like to eat.
When my son had his operation for cleft, the paternal grandparents came to the hospital like GUESTS.

There's in fact some scientific backing for this phenomenon. Paternal parents do not naturally love their grandchildren b/c there's always a slight possiblity they are not the offsprings of their sons. Whereas for maternal grandparents, they are 100% sure they are their daughter's babies. Hence the love on day 1.

Besides, as mothers are the primary care-taker of their babies, maternal grandparents, out of love for their daughter, will try to help with the babies. On the contrary, the paternal grandparents could care less about the well-being of DILs and expect them to shoulder all the burden alone.

There're of course good paternal grandparents out there but at least this is my observation and applies to me. My MIL would travel all the way to Asia (Beijing, Huang San, Taiwan, Japan etc) from US for sightseeing but too troublesome to come to Singapore to see her grandkids.

:goodpost:

i never thought of that! good theory!

[buds]

autumnbronze:

Thanks sista, :hugs: back to you too.


ps: I am assuming the post was meant for me

Of course it was. I replied right after you posted.

[winth]

buds:

Busymom:

Eh... are you implying you are expecting a no. 3?? :? :?


:siam:

Got imply meh.. thought this is what i said...

1. Two rooms cannot open classes for you all.. Kekekee.. :politebleah:
2. And hubs got cheek to say that the US included a lil neu addition as well. :faint:

Vision #2 is HIS mah... not mine. :politebleah:

Busymom:

This viewing tonight may be IT. Cos hubs said he saw US (in future) with it.

Dear all.. thank you for your kind and sincere PMs & there are still many i
have yet to reply to. Do know that i have read every single one of them
and will reply when i more steady. Heheh. :lol: Niwae, just to update.. the
unit we saw tonight is affirmative. Hubs had a good feel to it and we have
secured it! If all goes well, (i it to be as uneventful as possible) we
can be outta here in 6mths. I'm still numbed by this decision cause
i can't believe we're finally truly really doing this. Our agent was asking if
i needed to pinch or slap myself to know it's real. Ala Jack Black in Nacho
Libre... he'd say, \"This is for realzzz!\" :rotflmao: Thank you EVERYONE, and
that is every single one of you who have kept us in your prayers.. hey, God
did hear us. Thank you for travelling this cyber journey with me... Though it
ain't over yet... i am starting to feel this may get our life back on track agn..

For all your love, thank you is never enuf. :grphug:

OMG!!!!
:oops: sorry for being so outdated with the posts. :oops:
I've been searching high and low for your this post over the pages at which and what house...

Great to hear that! Really...
So very very happy for you!

[winth]

Not that I want to be a hypocrite or start some debate about living separately with in-laws. But I think it really does more harm than good if married couples choose (or no choice) but to stay with parents.


My friend is the hubby and he told me his wife goes to her parents’ place to sleep for a couple of nights in a week during their first year marriage (that was 2 years back). Added blah… miss home… blah… likes to sleep on her own bed… blah… At first, I felt it was real weird but perhaps his wife was really close to her parents and daddy’s girl kinda stuff.

But after reading from what some posters mentioned here, seriously, don’t think that’s even the real reason.

Couple months back, met him again and he said she has moved back to stay with her parents with their 2-year-old during weekdays after their maid went back. Added blah… child close to mum… blah… need to sleep with her… blah…

Smell a rat but hey… it’s really other people’s personal business…
But I think they are in for some turbulence if this continues to build up.

I’m keeping my fingers crossed for them and hope for the best for his marriage.

[auntieM]

minnie2004:

Thanks Chief for your scary story. I won't expect anything from her anymore. Just stay there for 2 nites, try to be as polite as possible and then get out of there :siam:, even though I have to leave my kids behind for another week. That'll be the longest time I don't see them since their births

Wow minnie2004, I wouldn't be able to leave kids behind for sure :salute: