In-law problems?

[auntieM]

minnie2004:

Thanks Chief for your scary story. I won't expect anything from her anymore. Just stay there for 2 nites, try to be as polite as possible and then get out of there :siam:, even though I have to leave my kids behind for another week. That'll be the longest time I don't see them since their births

Wow minnie2004, I wouldn't be able to leave kids behind for sure :salute:

[buds]

minnie2004:

Thanks Chief for your scary story. I won't expect anything from her anymore. Just stay there for 2 nites, try to be as polite as possible and then get out of there :siam:, even though I have to leave my kids behind for another week. That'll be the longest time I don't see them since their births

My heart will be with you throughout those times, minnie2004.
I :salute: your ability to compromise. As for the extra week,
treat it as your long deserved break to catch up with all the
ME time you need. Go pamper yourself girl! Then, come back
recharged. All my love.. :snuggles:

PS. It's good not to expect, so one will not be disappointed.

[buds]

winth:

OMG!!!!

:oops: sorry for being so outdated with the posts. :oops:

It's fine. You can always catch up at your own time. :lol:

winth:

I've been searching high and low for your this post over the pages at which and what house...

You found it in the end.. :celebrate:

winth:

Great to hear that! Really...
So very very happy for you!

It's a small step. We still have much to do..
Long way to go.. a lot of unspoken things tt
now needs to be out in the open and trashed.
Hopefully after all this baggage are left behind,
then moving on and moving forward will not be as
difficult. Thanks for being there for me when i needed
someone to crash onto, winth. :hugs: Glad to have ya
here in my cyber life.

[autumnbronze]

buds:

autumnbronze:

Thanks sista, :hugs: back to you too.


ps: I am assuming the post was meant for me

Of course it was. I replied right after you posted.

Hey buds,

Here's \"To move on.. move forward.. and
to hang in there.\" :celebrate:

Sounds familiar?

[buds]

:celebrate:


Thanks sista!

[janet88]

Minnie,

Sorry to rub me in, but you sure you want to leave your kids behind ? There are many places to visit in US, so if you are going to be moving around a lot, you’re going to be too tired at the end of the day and knock out at night.

[minnie2004]

Hi janet_lee88,


Our main purpose of the trip is actually visiting friends in Vancouver and Chicago. LA is just our last stop. So we'd be tired after all the flying. Although I'll try to pack all the activities in the 1st 2 days while in LA, we probably won't go out all the time so will mostly likely spend quite some time at MIL's place. It's just not possible to live under one roof w/ her for any extended period of time, anywhere, not to mention her place where she's queen. I'll end up like a maid under her close scruity. She would say something mean to me (it's in her blood) and I won't have the high EQ to ignore it. So it'll be happier for everyone that I don't stay there too long. DH also thinks the kids should spend some time with their grandma. If I'm there, they'll just stick with me.

I've been delaying the inevitable for sometime and now that the kids a bit older (they'll be 4 & 6 then), they should know the basic safety rules. I've been preparing DD all along teaching her things ranging from what-to-do-when-lost to what-food-is-healthy. So hope she'll put them to use when I'm not there :xedfingers:

[minnie2004]

buds:

My heart will be with you throughout those times, minnie2004.
I :salute: your ability to compromise. As for the extra week,
treat it as your long deserved break to catch up with all the
ME time you need. Go pamper yourself girl! Then, come back
recharged. All my love.. :snuggles:
PS. It's good not to expect, so one will not be disappointed.

Thanks buds for your support! :hugs: Yes, I might need that extra week just to recover from my emotional sufferings for those 2 days there . Our last encounter took me a whole year to recover :x.

Anyway, I'll try my best to be strong. Won't let her affect me that much anymore.

[minnie2004]

lovekidsverymuch:

This is new but sounds quite true for lots of my friends but doesnt suit me cause my IL's love my kids to the fullest so much so that I need to sometimes ask them not to over pamper them as they kinda spoil them too

Maybe your kids look identical to your DH so your PILs can't deny the fact that they're their offsprings :lol:

[janet88]

Minnie,

I know how you feel bcos I can’t even tolerate 2 hours facing them.

lovekidsverymuch,
you’re lucky to have in laws who love the kids.