All About Full-Time Maids

[carebear]

Hi madinked: Since you have been kind to her previously, for this episode tell her the amount the juicer has cost you. This episode let her go, since it is out of concern that she wants to wash it clean.

Warn her that next time if she breaks or spoils any other things, she has to either pay or buy you a similar one.

Usually for expensive clothes, i usually hand wash and iron it myself, especially when it is still new, or send to dry cleaner. Anyway i don't have many delicate clothes.
My microwave oven is also the very basic type, non digital type. So even if spoil, won't feel so heartache. Most of my plates are stainless steel, so drop also never mind, can use it for heating in conventional oven, steaming, eating from it.

[Dinah]

Just to share …I used to have full-time stay-in maids for 1.5 yrs. After which I call it quits and am "maid-less". It’s abit tiring but I did not regret the decision.


My 1st maid was a gd cook and fast learner. I’d say she is a all-rounder. For some clueless reasons, she claimed we didn’t like her and decided to quit??? The 2nd one was very hardworking and was tip-top in respect of cleaning. A little slow but loyal. On the grounds of boredom and loneliness (kids goes to full-day CC), she quit (but susbequently regretted). The 3rd and last one came and requested to go home after 3 days, saying that she missed home. I gave up after that as these maid issues caused me more problems than peace of mind I expect to have by entrusting them with the routine household matters.

Maids are also human like any one of us and we respect them for leaving home/family to work with us. For us, we don’t even let them to wash our car as they are not supposed to. But to a certain extent, it appears that some of them have forgotten the purpose of them coming to work. Some friends even related that their maids resort to abusing the kids even tho one parent is a SAHM. I also witnessed maid parking the ah-mah at food court while she speaks continuously on the mobile and hanging out with the male foodcourt helper. So parents, do chit-chat with your kids and elderly periodically to check.

Having said the above, I must say that there are still good maids around. But when you decide to hire one, be prepared with the unavoidable related issues.

[madinked]

In any case, my maid now wants us to send her back home.


I am very open person so I chose to talk to her just now. I asked her she is being so slipshod when herd I am trying my best to be a good employer. I said I may not be the best but I am not mean to her too. I asked her if there is anything which she is particularly bring unahppy or upset about. That’s when she told mr she wants to go back to agency after the loan. She quoted missing her sons (she is divorcee). I doubt so cause she told m mum once she wanted to change employer because she prefers families with school going children so that she can have more alone time I guess since I am sahm. I believe she is just using her sons as excuse to change employer.

Whatever. We have expected her to want to leave ever since my mum told us that.

We must pay for her air ticket, right?

[carebear]

madinked:

In any case, my maid now wants us to send her back home.


I am very open person so I chose to talk to her just now. I asked her she is being so slipshod when herd I am trying my best to be a good employer. I said I may not be the best but I am not mean to her too. I asked her if there is anything which she is particularly bring unahppy or upset about. That's when she told mr she wants to go back to agency after the loan. She quoted missing her sons (she is divorcee). I doubt so cause she told m mum once she wanted to change employer because she prefers families with school going children so that she can have more alone time I guess since I am sahm. I believe she is just using her sons as excuse to change employer.

Whatever. We have expected her to want to leave ever since my mum told us that.

We must pay for her air ticket, right?

If she is still under agent warrranty, then u just send her back to agent and they will transfer her to another employer.
Then you can get another maid from the agency, or if you don't want another maid, the agent is supposed to return you the loan you have paid prorated.
If past warranty period, and if she wants to go home, you have to pay for her air ticket.

[raynreg]

carebear:

If she is still under agent warrranty, then u just send her back to agent and they will transfer her to another employer.
Then you can get another maid from the agency, or if you don't want another maid, the agent is supposed to return you the loan you have paid prorated.
If past warranty period, and if she wants to go home, you have to pay for her air ticket.

Since its still under warranty, then send her back to agency would be in the employer's interests right.

[Dinah]

Rightfully speaking, if maid initiate the contract termination, she’s suppose to pay her own airfare. But you will notice alot of times, employers end up having no choice but to pay.


For eg: maid just finishes loan and requests to go home. Under such scenario, maid usually does not have enough savings/cash to buy air ticket. Employer asks them to work for another month to earn the air ticket money. But she is just dead decided to go home now and refuses to work for another month. The next thing employer may face is a crying maid, or sometimes a maid who appears to have slipped into depression. Employer gets worried (of the well-being of family members, esp young ones at home under her care) and has to buy the air ticket out of no choice since she may be a ticking time-bomb.

The last person you should expect to receive help from is the agency. They solely protect their own interests.

[madinked]

Heh, I didn’t know maids are under warranty.


She claimed her mom passed away in Dec (I posted about it here) and then she already wanted to go back. But she was still repaying her loan.
Come May when her loan is finished, that’s when she wants to go back (we expected this coming when we declined for her to go back in Dec).

lovekidsverymuch, as I said, I think she dislikes me nitpicking on her lack of quality of housework. And she prefers to work in a household when she can be alone at home, with very little supervision.

So as Dinah pointed out, I have a right to not pay for her tickets then? But carebear said I have to pay? So do I?

[madinked]

– double post –

[blurqueen]

madinked


I agree with Dinah. If maid initiates the return, she has to pay for her own ticket back home.

I had a maid who simply refused to wait till her 2 years is up even though it’s merely 4 months away. I made her pay for her own ticket back home simply because I felt she had made my life a living hell when she was here. If she had been a good maid and had an honest good reason to go home (like mother dying etc), I would pay for the ticket out of kindness.

My aunt’s maid too said she wanted to go back because of family, but in a blink, news was she simply wanted to go to HK to work.

[blurqueen]

madinked:

She claimed her mom passed away in Dec (I posted about it here) and then she already wanted to go back. But she was still repaying her loan.

Come May when her loan is finished, that's when she wants to go back (we expected this coming when we declined for her to go back in Dec).

lovekidsverymuch, as I said, I think she dislikes me nitpicking on her lack of quality of housework. And she prefers to work in a household when she can be alone at home, with very little supervision.

Since her mom is dead already ... would going back bring her back again?

Many maids had asked my 1st maid, how could she work with me (SAHM too) for so long (6years) as they'll quit as quickly as they can as females employers at home will give them hell, whine and breathe down their necks (something I don't do as i hate to nag). My maid was confused at first as she thought all employers are as nice as me :love: (blowing own trumpet) :rotflmao: