BEWARE! Middle-Aged Man Observing SJI and RI Schoolboys
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Serafiel:
Ahh I really wonder if I have seen you before. It really bothers me when I have someone in the same school as I am and I don't know if I have seen her before.I saw the bishan gay on a bus to junction 8!!
He looked vaguely familiar (then I realised I saw him on this site).
He talked loudly with the bus driver, complaining about some politics stuff.
Stared at some HC guys.
Then got off at Raffles Club.
Oh, he's not interested in girls, so don't worry. -
Singaporean:
Is being taken photo of and being smiled at considered being harassed?To Parents:
I started this thread to warn parents about this man who is observing SJI and RI lower secondary students as well as other students around Junction 8 (moniker given by students: \"Bishan Gay\"). We now also know, from other kaisuparent posts, that this man also observes students from HCI and other schools in Bt Timah.
I just received the email reply from the Police yesterday, in response to my various email to SJI, RI, MHA and of course, the Police. I am posting the relevant excerpts of the replies (in BLUE) for the noting of concerned parents:
Reply from SJI (received 15 Mar 2010):
\"Thank you for the email regarding the rather disturbing situation. We have met the police from the Tanglin Neighbourhood Police Post and have requested for them to patrol the bus stop where this middle-aged man has been sighted. We managed to find out that he has made appearances at the bus stop outside Raffles Town Club usually between 4 and 5 pm. This information has been relayed to the policemen from the above-mentioned police post. They have agreed to look into our request.
Also, when school re-opens, we will alert the school community about this. They will be told the number to contact - 1800-2559999 - should any student be harrassed or feel harrassed by this man. This is the number of the police post. The police will act when a formal complaint is made by anyone directly harrassed by this man.
Thank you once again for the information you have shared with us.”
Reply from RI (received 15 Mar 2010):
\"Thank you for your feedback.
We understand your concerns and can assure you that we have been monitoring the situation very closely.
This man has in fact been initiating conversations with the boys in public for many years. As some of the boys have felt uncomfortable, we have gone to the police to report the matter. However... the police told us that we are not able to take any action against him.
Earlier this year, at a meeting with all Sec 1 parents on 27 Feb, this issue was raised and we hope parents will remind their sons to practise personal safety (with regard to all strangers, whether man or woman). In fact, we co-operated with the press when they wanted to do an article about him in the Straits Times to help raise public awareness.
Nonetheless, we will definitely continue to monitor the situation because the safety of our boys is a priority and will advise them accordingly on how to handle the situation.\"
Frankly, I was quite upset when I received the reply from RI because it was clear that RI had (already) “gone to the Police to report the matter….(but) the Police told us that we are not able to take any action against him.” I felt that the man’s behaviour was predatory and hence it should be constituted as harassment; it was not just a one-time occurrence but one that occurred on an almost daily basis. The sheer number of students facing this fear daily is a disturbing phenomenon and MUST be stopped. Even if there was no criminal offence that the Police could have charged the man with at that point, there were still effective actions that the Police could have taken to deter him - like questioning him, warning him and keeping him under surveillance. After all, there was sufficient evidence from blogs and online forum discussions among generations of students harassed by him.
So I wrote again to the Police. I received their reply yesterday, and I must say that I am pleasantly impressed with their proactive reply this time:
Reply from the Police, Commanding Officer of Kampong Java NPC (received 23 Mar 2010):
“Police have been alerted to the presence of a male Chinese roaming
in the vicinity of SJI, RI and Junction 8 since 2008 by RI and SJI. Other
than stepping up our patrols in the vicinity, the schools have also been
advised to call the Police, should the male Chinese cause any harassment or
annoyance to their students. To date, our records showed that no report of
harassment has been lodged. There have also been no further complaints
after the initial information provided by the schools in 2008.
In view of your recent e-mails, Police have stepped up patrols in the
vicinity of the schools and Junction 8, with the view of locating the
subject and to engage him. We will also be conducting school talks to
raise the students' awareness, and to encourage them to call the police
should the male Chinese be spotted by the students.
We would like to take this opportunity to thank you for your valuable
feedback.”
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IMPORTANT!
If your child is stalked or harassed by this man, he can call the Police at this number: 1800-2559999.
This is the hotline of the Kampong Java NPC (near SJI), and the Commanding Officer there is fully aware of this situation. I suggest you give the contact number to your child – just in case.
(NOTE: I am awaiting clarification from the Police on whether there are any other contact numbers to call should students from schools in other areas need to report harassment. I will update the information when I get their reply.)
From: A Very Concerned Singaporean Parent -
hmm if you are a girl and a cheekokpeh ogling at you and then smile at you will you feel sexually harassed?
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@CoffeeCat
It is!!!
@xxjustakidxx
Taking other people’s photo whom you do not know without permission is intruding the privacy of that person or considered harassed.
Second part of the question, refer to above answer to CoffeeCat -
lol actually mine was a rhetorical question meant to ans the above query. Being a guy or boy doesn’t mean he can’t be subjected to sexual harassment.
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Dear parents,
If your child has been personally stalked by this Bishan Gay character, please report to the police asap, at the number that Singaporean has so kindly provided. We really need to come together to ensure that this fellow does not progress to doing something that may be much worse than just stalking kids. -
My son had an encounter again. This BG came up the bus 156 at MacRitchie (he was not on the 156 bus when my boarded it at RTC), came beside my son (who tried to stand further away unsuccessfully) and started blowing into his hair again. My son was frozen with fear and could not even shout out loud. My son acted as if he was going to get off at the next stop, and noticed the BG taking out his own wallet as if he was going to follow suit. At the next stop, after another boy exited, my son waited for a moment, and jumped off at the last minute so that the BG could not follow. He was successful. He waited for the next 156 bus and boarded. But to his horror, after the bus had travelled a few stops, he saw the BG waiting to board this bus! He immediately got off the bus at the same stop. He was crying at the bus stop when the mum came to pick him.
Police report made and actions have been planned out. -
involvedparent,
Hope the police do something this time…
this guy is really sick :x -
involvedparent:
So sorry to hear this happened to your boy again. Hope he is feeling better now.My son had an encounter again.... He was crying at the bus stop when the mum came to pick him.
Police report made and actions have been planned out.
Did you notify the school? Can the sch arrange for a buddy for your boy to go to sch together? -
involvedparent:
My son had an encounter again. This BG came up the bus 156 at MacRitchie (he was not on the 156 bus when my boarded it at RTC), came beside my son (who tried to stand further away unsuccessfully) and started blowing into his hair again. My son was frozen with fear and could not even shout out loud. My son acted as if he was going to get off at the next stop, and noticed the BG taking out his own wallet as if he was going to follow suit. At the next stop, after another boy exited, my son waited for a moment, and jumped off at the last minute so that the BG could not follow. He was successful. He waited for the next 156 bus and boarded. But to his horror, after the bus had travelled a few stops, he saw the BG waiting to board this bus! He immediately got off the bus at the same stop. He was crying at the bus stop when the mum came to pick him.
Police report made and actions have been planned out.
It must have been traumatic for your son, and I hope your son gets over this incident soon.
This man has intentionally harrassed your son, and I think you have rightly made a Police report. From what I've read from your previous posts, this is already the 2nd time that the man has purposely disturbed your son, and if nothing is done, this predator will probably stalk your son again. So yes, I think you've done the right thing to report this man.
I hope the Police will get this man. He must be stopped from displaying such predatory behaviour towards helpless children. Can you keep us posted here on this thread about what the Police is doing/ has done? Thanks.
Wishing you and your son well.
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