All About ADHD : Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

[sharonkhoo]

Gifts from Heaven:

Yes, plse send him for assessment.

The 1st 3 feedback that you've stated sounds like describing my DS, though his actions are not as extreme (like slapping another kid continuously) as your son. He is diagnosed with Aspergers'. In fact, many kids diagnosed with Aspergers' have overlapping signs of ADHD. Psychologist actually wanted to do another assessment for my DS for ADHD, but I didn't want to. Cos it was devastating enough to know that my dear son is an Aspie, I can't take another blow.

When I took my daughter for assessment, I asked that she also be tested for ADD (no \"H\") and ASD. After the assessment, the psychologist told us that although she exhibited the signs for ADD, in her opinion, the cause for my daughter's inattention was the Asperger's. Her reason for saying this was that my daughter was able to show extended concentration for things she was interested in, which wasn't typical ADD. Her explanation was that because of poor social skills, my daughter was not so concerned about pleasing us/teachers, and would prefer to do/think about her own interests. Maybe your son is the same.

[CatMoon]

Hi parents, need your advice!


My cousin's boy is now 14 years old and was diagnosed with Asperger's. He did his PSLE (I think he took Foundation subjects) at Pathlight and was very happy there. However, the school arranged for him to attend secondary school at Pierce and he was told he had to attend full-day lessons (previously he had only 2 hour lessons daily).

My cousin had to pull him out of school as there would only be 1 aided teacher who will be managing a small group of them. They were worried that:
- he cannot take more than 2 hours lessons
- there are no one to manage him if he has a meltdown
- he has to mingle with other kids during recess
- they are afraid that he would be bullied (as in previous cases) as other kids would not understand why he is anti-social & can react negatively to their touch or fail to understand normal social nuances.

I'm worried as he is now NOT attending school. Where can he go? Should he take private courses?

:?:

Thanks so much for your kind advice!

[sharonkhoo]

CatMoon:

Hi parents, need your advice!


My cousin's boy is now 14 years old and was diagnosed with Asperger's. He did his PSLE (I think he took Foundation subjects) at Pathlight and was very happy there. However, the school arranged for him to attend secondary school at Pierce and he was told he had to attend full-day lessons (previously he had only 2 hour lessons daily).

My cousin had to pull him out of school as there would only be 1 aided teacher who will be managing a small group of them. They were worried that:
- he cannot take more than 2 hours lessons
- there are no one to manage him if he has a meltdown
- he has to mingle with other kids during recess
- they are afraid that he would be bullied (as in previous cases) as other kids would not understand why he is anti-social & can react negatively to their touch or fail to understand normal social nuances.

I'm worried as he is now NOT attending school. Where can he go? Should he take private courses?

:?:

Thanks so much for your kind advice!

This should be in the ASD thread. Mods - can this be moved? I will answer here anyway.

I don't know how severe your nephew's Asperger's is? My daughter is also Asperger's, but mild, I believe. She has been in mainstream school all her life, with sympathetic teachers but no teacher aide in the classroom. She was not in Singapore school until last year (Pre-U 1), and I think the school she was in overseas was a much easier one for her than a Singapore school would be. However, has your nephew actually tried the full-day school? Or are the parents afraid to try? He may surprise them. They could try to gradually increase the hours (with the school's cooperation) over a few weeks at first.

Does he have meltdowns often? Can he comprehend social cues and situations reasonably well? My daughter does get upset sometimes, but not the extent of a meltdown. Sometimes, she may call me from school for advice or to help sort things out, but not often. Mostly she comes home to moan, and I spend a significant amount of time helping her sort out what she should say/do in response to various situations. Overall, she has learned to cope.

Can your cousins ask the school to arrange for some buddies to help their son, and maybe \"protect\" him as well? Nasty people will always be around, but a couple of sympathetic friends can help a lot. And a little mingling with classmates is something they have to learn to do.

I can't advise on alternatives as I have always tried my utmost to keep my daughter in mainstream school. Homeschool? Or return to Pathlight? But my personal opinion, as the parent of an Aspie, is that they need as much social coaching and experience as they can manage in order to prepare them for adult life. Grades are secondary, although they are also important. These kids will never be totally like everyone else, but my aim is to narrow the gap as much as possible. Protecting a child too much for too long is not good for them long-term. Perhaps your cousins should seek some professional advice?

[CatMoon]

slmkhoo:

CatMoon:

Hi parents, need your advice!


My cousin's boy is now 14 years old and was diagnosed with Asperger's. He did his PSLE (I think he took Foundation subjects) at Pathlight and was very happy there. However, the school arranged for him to attend secondary school at Pierce and he was told he had to attend full-day lessons (previously he had only 2 hour lessons daily).

My cousin had to pull him out of school as there would only be 1 aided teacher who will be managing a small group of them. They were worried that:
- he cannot take more than 2 hours lessons
- there are no one to manage him if he has a meltdown
- he has to mingle with other kids during recess
- they are afraid that he would be bullied (as in previous cases) as other kids would not understand why he is anti-social & can react negatively to their touch or fail to understand normal social nuances.

I'm worried as he is now NOT attending school. Where can he go? Should he take private courses?

:?:

Thanks so much for your kind advice!

This should be in the ASD thread. Mods - can this be moved? I will answer here anyway.

I don't know how severe your nephew's Asperger's is? My daughter is also Asperger's, but mild, I believe. She has been in mainstream school all her life, with sympathetic teachers but no teacher aide in the classroom. She was not in Singapore school until last year (Pre-U 1), and I think the school she was in overseas was a much easier one for her than a Singapore school would be. However, has your nephew actually tried the full-day school? Or are the parents afraid to try? He may surprise them. They could try to gradually increase the hours (with the school's cooperation) over a few weeks at first.

Does he have meltdowns often? Can he comprehend social cues and situations reasonably well? My daughter does get upset sometimes, but not the extent of a meltdown. Sometimes, she may call me from school for advice or to help sort things out, but not often. Mostly she comes home to moan, and I spend a significant amount of time helping her sort out what she should say/do in response to various situations. Overall, she has learned to cope.

Can your cousins ask the school to arrange for some buddies to help their son, and maybe \"protect\" him as well? Nasty people will always be around, but a couple of sympathetic friends can help a lot. And a little mingling with classmates is something they have to learn to do.

I can't advise on alternatives as I have always tried my utmost to keep my daughter in mainstream school. Homeschool? Or return to Pathlight? But my personal opinion, as the parent of an Aspie, is that they need as much social coaching and experience as they can manage in order to prepare them for adult life. Grades are secondary, although they are also important. These kids will never be totally like everyone else, but my aim is to narrow the gap as much as possible. Protecting a child too much for too long is not good for them long-term. Perhaps your cousins should seek some professional advice?

Thanks slmkhoo! I'm afraid my nephew's case is a little more severe. He can be a little too vocal about people touching him and yes, he does meltdown (so much so he needs minders to hold him down physically).

Unfortunately Pathlight told the parents that funding has been cut recently and going to a mainstream full-day school is the only option for them. :scratchhead:

[sharonkhoo]

CatMoon:

slmkhoo:

[quote=\"CatMoon\"]Hi parents, need your advice!


My cousin's boy is now 14 years old and was diagnosed with Asperger's. He did his PSLE (I think he took Foundation subjects) at Pathlight and was very happy there. However, the school arranged for him to attend secondary school at Pierce and he was told he had to attend full-day lessons (previously he had only 2 hour lessons daily).

My cousin had to pull him out of school as there would only be 1 aided teacher who will be managing a small group of them. They were worried that:
- he cannot take more than 2 hours lessons
- there are no one to manage him if he has a meltdown
- he has to mingle with other kids during recess
- they are afraid that he would be bullied (as in previous cases) as other kids would not understand why he is anti-social & can react negatively to their touch or fail to understand normal social nuances.

I'm worried as he is now NOT attending school. Where can he go? Should he take private courses?

:?:

Thanks so much for your kind advice!

This should be in the ASD thread. Mods - can this be moved? I will answer here anyway.

I don't know how severe your nephew's Asperger's is? My daughter is also Asperger's, but mild, I believe. She has been in mainstream school all her life, with sympathetic teachers but no teacher aide in the classroom. She was not in Singapore school until last year (Pre-U 1), and I think the school she was in overseas was a much easier one for her than a Singapore school would be. However, has your nephew actually tried the full-day school? Or are the parents afraid to try? He may surprise them. They could try to gradually increase the hours (with the school's cooperation) over a few weeks at first.

Does he have meltdowns often? Can he comprehend social cues and situations reasonably well? My daughter does get upset sometimes, but not the extent of a meltdown. Sometimes, she may call me from school for advice or to help sort things out, but not often. Mostly she comes home to moan, and I spend a significant amount of time helping her sort out what she should say/do in response to various situations. Overall, she has learned to cope.

Can your cousins ask the school to arrange for some buddies to help their son, and maybe \"protect\" him as well? Nasty people will always be around, but a couple of sympathetic friends can help a lot. And a little mingling with classmates is something they have to learn to do.

I can't advise on alternatives as I have always tried my utmost to keep my daughter in mainstream school. Homeschool? Or return to Pathlight? But my personal opinion, as the parent of an Aspie, is that they need as much social coaching and experience as they can manage in order to prepare them for adult life. Grades are secondary, although they are also important. These kids will never be totally like everyone else, but my aim is to narrow the gap as much as possible. Protecting a child too much for too long is not good for them long-term. Perhaps your cousins should seek some professional advice?

Thanks slmkhoo! I'm afraid my nephew's case is a little more severe. He can be a little too vocal about people touching him and yes, he does meltdown (so much so he needs minders to hold him down physically).

Unfortunately Pathlight told the parents that funding has been cut recently and going to a mainstream full-day school is the only option for them. :scratchhead:[/quote]I'm sorry to hear that. I don't really know what other options there are. Perhaps you should post again in the Autism thread (unless the mods move this). There are others there who will know more.

[ymeynow]

Any feedback on ritalin?

[Snow24]

Hi

Anyone can share on how do you handle or train child with impulsive behaviour who let go of holding your hand when he saw something that capture his attention and ran towards it, who cannot take turn, queue up.difficulty following instructions and always on the go cannot sit still and tend to leave the classroom.

[ymeynow]

Hi Ming


I’ve sent my kid for therapies and initiated a behavioural monitoring system in school. Form teacher and AED couldn’t provide sufficient support. Really do not know what to do.

[Snow24]

Hi ymeynow


How do you initial a behaviour monitoring system in school ? What to look out for in the behaviour monitoring system ?

[Jane Mummy]

Hi Mummy,


I have started medication for my son . But seem like after medication he become more impulsive and throw tantrum alot and teacher is monitor him he seem to like lost the freedom, but if teacher will to let him join his class mate he will tend to disturb others of hurt others. Can any mummy pls advise.