All About Autism

[mashy]

Double E:

Tyeogh

Your replies are always peppered with humour. I like. haha
Yes, I think our sons are similar. Now my son learnt how to use my words against his sister. When I asked her sis \"what are u waiting for?\" when I chide her for eating so slow, my son will say \"U waiting for me ah?\"
Or when I only give him a \"umm..ummm\", reply, he will chide me and say \"don't keep saying umm ummm umm!\"

I am not the one patience with his swimming, is his swimming coach! This is the second coach I got, the last one taught for a year , no progress so I changed to this. And this one took a year to get my son to swim. He is very patient indeed. Is really God's grace for blessing him with angels who can help him.

And no, my son is not going St Andrews. Too far from my place. He will go to a co-ed neighbourhood school. FYI, all primary schools have at least 1 allied educator. Also, do you know that you can request KKH to release information about your boy to the school so that they can better understand and help him? I may do that.

I think I am more strict than you in academic. Haha! I expect him to do well in his chinese just as well as his Eng and Maths. I know I m not realistic but try lah, On drawing, my boy changed from one who can't draw nuts to one now who can draw really nice trains! but mainly still objects, he is not into drawing living things. And he also draw things like digital clock, the digital buttons on my washing machine and CD player cos he is just too into numbers.

Mashy
your boy has adapted so well in primary school , hope my son can too.

Can! He will!

My boys has another classmate who is also asd. He too has adapted well. And he takes school bus to school! I think pri school will benefit your boy!

[Couragemom]

Hi DoubleE,


Woah, my son is also very into numbers leh. I used this to encourage him to do handwriting exercise for Chinese! I said to my son ’ xxx, you finish doing your Chinese strokes then you can write 1-10 on the paper!’ Haiz…

Hi tyeogh,

Any idea what type of jobs a boy with obsession with numbers can do?

Hi parents,

My 3.5 years old son finally know how to be a tattletale (at least at home)! Nowadays he will tell me what bad things his older sister did - ‘mama, Jiejie never eat her dinner!’ Not bad right? Hee… Hee…,

[tyeogh]

Couragemom:

Hi tyeogh,

Any idea what type of jobs a boy with obsession with numbers can do?

Cashier, accountant, maths professor, Playboy magazine photographer :evil:

[mashy]

tyeogh:

Couragemom:

Hi tyeogh,

Any idea what type of jobs a boy with obsession with numbers can do?

Cashier, accountant, maths professor, Playboy magazine photographer :evil:

Lol.

My son was obsessed with spinning and things that are round.
I managed to get him to love the solar system (coz the planets are round and spins), molecules (yes, they are round too!) and it simply evolved to include many sciences.

A boy obsessed with numbers - teach to calculate. Or if he just likes the look of it, to write them differently. Teach him roman numerics. There is so much potential in a boy who loves numbers. Calculate the distance between train stations, teach him statistics. He is going to be such a Maths boy and Singapore loves Maths children.

[Niu2009]

mashy:

tyeogh:

[quote=\"Couragemom\"]
Hi tyeogh,

Any idea what type of jobs a boy with obsession with numbers can do?

Cashier, accountant, maths professor, Playboy magazine photographer :evil:

Lol.

My son was obsessed with spinning and things that are round.
I managed to get him to love the solar system (coz the planets are round and spins), molecules (yes, they are round too!) and it simply evolved to include many sciences.

A boy obsessed with numbers - teach to calculate. Or if he just likes the look of it, to write them differently. Teach him roman numerics. There is so much potential in a boy who loves numbers. Calculate the distance between train stations, teach him statistics. He is going to be such a Maths boy and Singapore loves Maths children.[/quote]My boy too! Love numbers and solar system. I just let him do IQ math. He quite enjoy!

[Niu2009]

mashy:

tyeogh:

[quote=\"Couragemom\"]
Hi tyeogh,

Any idea what type of jobs a boy with obsession with numbers can do?

Cashier, accountant, maths professor, Playboy magazine photographer :evil:

Lol.

My son was obsessed with spinning and things that are round.
I managed to get him to love the solar system (coz the planets are round and spins), molecules (yes, they are round too!) and it simply evolved to include many sciences.

A boy obsessed with numbers - teach to calculate. Or if he just likes the look of it, to write them differently. Teach him roman numerics. There is so much potential in a boy who loves numbers. Calculate the distance between train stations, teach him statistics. He is going to be such a Maths boy and Singapore loves Maths children.[/quote]My boy too! Love numbers and solar system. I just let him do IQ math. He quite enjoy!

[scang]

tyeogh:

DoubleE,
Ya, I like you too. LoL. Our sons talk alike. Mine talks a bit too much though. Some times he fails to differentiate between talking to kids vs adults and gets rude to my helper or his mom. \"Why must I listen?! Huh huh huh! You go away! I don't like you!\" he shouts at my helper, hands on his hips with an angry look. My cane flies out immediately. Have to correct slowly. As in painfully slow. No meltdowns. Just that he's not exactly a quick learner like his siblings.

Well, at least you bother to throw him to a swim coach. I gave up after a while. I didn't know every school has Allied Educators. I'd get NUH to release info to the school. Thanks for info.

You are probably more kiasu on the education part....like my wife. I am coming to terms with what he is. He is more a visual person. Loves to draw. I told (nag at) my wife, Lets be practical. He is not going to be a doctor, lawyer or engineer. Think along the lines of cartoonist, Playboy magazine photographer, graphic designer, interior designer, architect, in that order of progression. Wait. I think Playboy magazine photographer should be at the top of the hierachy after architect. LoL. Your boy could have the same visual abilities like mine.

Just a different view, or another view.

All kids are different, esp. the defiant ones, who tends to end up being rebellious if use the hard/tough approach, esp. in the long term.
Usually, the soft and reasoning approach will help to manage their behaviour, and reduce their defiance in the teenage years.

It is all the more tougher for special needs children, who has even more challenges, and although they may be compliant when they are young, smaller size, and not able to \"fight back\", or even forced to behave or \"give in\" due to fear of the punishment, when they have to with the hard/tough approach.
In the long term, the inner pent up resentment, defiant behaviour and negative thoughts etc may give rise to the rebellious behaviour and problems esp. in the teenage years, and even adult life. It may lead to a much tougher, negative and defiance person.

Lots of patience and the soft, reasoning but firm approach may be a better choice in the long term for the development of the child.

[Snow24]

Hi


If child did not passed the assessment to get into Pathlight how to survive mainstream Pri Sch which require the child to be independent, bigger class size 30 students.

[phtthp]

During Interview at Pathlight : they may pose parents this question, "what other schools have you considered, to send your child to, apart from Pathlight ?"

In the event child not suitable for Pathlight after assessment, then have to choose other school.

When go Mainstream schools, Subject Teacher teach whole class, to 30 students. There is no 1 to 1 personal attention.
Although primary schools have Allied Educator, but this Officer may not sit inside the classroom whole day long, all the time. Sometimes, AE have to get out of classroom, prepare certain things.

If a child need 1 to 1 attention, constantly : school may ask parents to hire shadow Tr to sit inside the class during P1, P2 only. (30 pupils, per class)

But come P3, when students re-shuffle to become more than 40 pupils per class, they don’t allow Shadow Tr to sit inside the classroom anymore, because class too big.
By P3 : child has to be independent, sit inside the classroom, study by himself / herself.

From P1 Term 2 onwards : there are Tests, for 3 subjects.
Each Test is upon 30 marks.

During P1 & P2 : if a child scored poorly, eg : some pupils scored 2 or 3 marks upon 30, for English / Maths / Mother tongue tests in P1, P2 Regular Term tests, these are rare case, Subject Tr will ask to see parents, find out what happen, question parents if Mainstream is suitable for child

[mashy]

phtthp:

During Interview at Pathlight : they will pose parents this question, \"what other schools have you considered, to send your child to, apart from Pathlight ?\"

In the event child not suitable for Pathlight after assessment, then have to choose other school.

When go Mainstream schools, Subject Teacher teach whole class, to 30 students. There is no 1 to 1 personal attention.
Although primary schools have Allied Educator, but this Officer may not sit inside the classroom whole day, all the time.

If a child need 1 to 1 attention, constantly : school may ask parents to hire shadow Tr to sit inside the class during P1, P2 only. (30 pupils, per class)

But come P3, when students re-shuffle to become more than 40 pupils per class, they don't allow Shadow Tr to sit inside the classroom anymore, because class too big.
By P3 : child has to be independent, sit inside the classroom, study by himself / herself.

From P1 Term 2 onwards : there are Tests, for 3 subjects.
Each Test is upon 30 marks.

During P1 & P2 : if a child scored poorly, eg : some pupils scored 2 or 3 marks upon 30, for English / Maths / Mother tongue tests in P1, P2 Regular Term tests, these are rare case, Subject Tr will ask to see parents, find out what happen, question parents if Mainstream is suitable for child

This is not the same for all schools. For my son, they had regular show and tell instead of written tests. Actually p1 nothing much. Not many tests. If have also it's upon 10-20. P2 then started having more mini tests and the final year tests for class allocation in p3. We aren't told of any tests until the papers come back. It's called quizzes for the kids.

There are normal kids who scored single digit marks. They are taken out of class during regular school hours for LSP, learning support program. In fact my asd kid scored better than them.

Teachers will not ask parents to take the kids out of mainstream so easily. Some parents with children who keep failing and who displayed extremely bad behaviour also continued to stay in mainstream.