Any divorce lawyer to recommend to a sahm?

[JohnYeo]

JJChow:

Hi John


Thanks for the contacts.

U r welcome

[mummy of 3]

JJChow:

Hi, I'm facing the almost same situation too. I'm a SAHM too and my hub wanna divorce. I have no prob with the custody as he is willing to give up the custody of our son. But my main concern is our flat. Not sure if I'm able to retain the flat?

If u have the custody of your son, u are able to retain the flat. But u r a SAHM, will you able to pay the monthly instalment of the flat? If u are able to retain the flat, hw much CPF monies u need to pay back your ex-hubby to be?
Since u r a SAHM, y not u go for Legal Aid for help. It will be cheaper but longer period for the process.
Im also in the process of divorce so dun worry. I believe the law will help the woman。

Hope it helps!

http://www.lab.gov.sg

[JJChow]

Hi mummy of 3… Thanks for ur advise…


Currently I’m still a SAHM. But will b looking up for job as soon as my son goes to childcare. I was thinking of getting my husband (ex husband going to be) to transfer the house to my name… And after that I am planning to get a smaller flat instead since its just going to me n my boy. Not sure if its works.

Any idea if I need to have my own lawyer too? Cos I think my husband (ex husband going to be) will be settling the legal procedure etc etc… We haven’t really got the time to really further discuss yet as we both wanna settle our boy’s childcare first. And he always treat the house like a hotel. Only come home to bathe n sleep.

Gosh… Now I just wanna faster put my boy in a childcare and start working.

[mummy of 3]

JJChow:

Hi mummy of 3.. Thanks for ur advise..


Currently I'm still a SAHM. But will b looking up for job as soon as my son goes to childcare. I was thinking of getting my husband (ex husband going to be) to transfer the house to my name... And after that I am planning to get a smaller flat instead since its just going to me n my boy. Not sure if its works.

Any idea if I need to have my own lawyer too? Cos I think my husband (ex husband going to be) will be settling the legal procedure etc etc.. We haven't really got the time to really further discuss yet as we both wanna settle our boy's childcare first. And he always treat the house like a hotel. Only come home to bathe n sleep.

Gosh... Now I just wanna faster put my boy in a childcare and start working.

Unless you agree everything that your ex-husband's term and conditions. If dun agree then need lawyer to settle. Mine also treat the house like hotel. Bathe and sleep only. Ask him to transfer his name to your boy to retain the flat. But you need to pay him back his money that had contribute in CPF. It takes around 5 to 6 mths if is a uncontested divorce.

[joanna]

Hi, I need some advise, recently I found my hub seeing a Malaysian beer lady (1 1/2months) and even went to hotel to stay over night he still wanted to over up with lies and after consistent question he finally admit he is seeing another divorce woman which have 2 kids age 7 and 10. He told me he want to start up new life with her, I’m heartbroken and my girl just got her PSLE result which is not so good. I need to advise if his is the right choice to divorce him and let him be with that woman age 32 my hub is 47 and I’m 43. We are married for 25 years he can easily give up by a relationship of 1 1/2 months, maybe because she is young.

I had no confidence to start over all again by myself with my limited monthly pay. I limited financial to engage a lawyer,
Pls help I do not want him to have any share of our 4room HDB flat or my girl.
The flat left with 2 years to complete the loan and paid using my monthly CPF. Pls help to give me more idea and advise and also the divorce procedure, Thks

[dolphinsiah]

joanna:

Hi, I need some advise, recently I found my hub seeing a Malaysian beer lady (1 1/2months) and even went to hotel to stay over night he still wanted to over up with lies and after consistent question he finally admit he is seeing another divorce woman which have 2 kids age 7 and 10. He told me he want to start up new life with her, I'm heartbroken and my girl just got her PSLE result which is not so good. I need to advise if his is the right choice to divorce him and let him be with that woman age 32 my hub is 47 and I'm 43. We are married for 25 years he can easily give up by a relationship of 1 1/2 months, maybe because she is young.

I had no confidence to start over all again by myself with my limited monthly pay. I limited financial to engage a lawyer,
Pls help I do not want him to have any share of our 4room HDB flat or my girl.
The flat left with 2 years to complete the loan and paid using my monthly CPF. Pls help to give me more idea and advise and also the divorce procedure, Thks

:imsorry: to hear what you are going through...but are you sure you are giving up your 25 years of marriage....to build up a home is not easy , especially you have sacrifice 25 years of your youth....think again....

But if you need help you can try seeking advice from AWARE Singapore

http://www.aware.org.sg/
AWARE Centre
Association of Women for Action & Research
Block 5 Dover Crescent #01-22
Singapore 130005

Tel +65 6779 7137
Fax +65 6777 0318

Helpline 1800 774 5935

Stay Strong!

[Ikid]

Is always sad to know a man/woman can be so gullible and not treasure their spouse who had been thru thick and thin with him/her.


You may try
Legal Aid Bureau 1800-2255 529 (for low-income persons requiring legal assistance)
Mon-Fri 8.30am-5.00pm,
Sat 8.30am-12.00pm
Or
Singapore Association of Women Lawyers 6837 0611 (1st and 3rd Mondays of every month 6.30-8.00pm
List of help lines, can refer to ncss.gov.sg

Stay strong for your child.

[joanna]

Really thanks for your reply, I’m not sure but how to draw my husband attention back to this family as this Malaysian beer lady had been secretly texting him and I don’t even know who this lady is.

[joanna]

Pls advise if I should hold on to this relationship as he intend to have both and remain as he is not sure she is true to her pls help to give advise if I should divorce him now rather then giving him time to build his relationship with that girl. I’m heart breaking pls advise.

[dolphinsiah]

Hi Joanna,


I feel your pain…cause in my life I have never met any men that will stand by me…not even my Dad.
So you can see my impression of men…is always very doubtful

I saw how my mom reacted when her the other half had an affair.
She became depress , took her life twice…I had to clean up their mess…
She was sent to hospital twice, told me she wanted divorce…
But when I got her a lawyer…she changed her mind…
Even made me feel that I was a KPO!!
She said already PG…very shameful to go through divorce…

Now the 2 back again…still quarreling …(I no eye see)

I guess that is how some weird couple behave…

Joanna , before you seek for divorce…think please …are you able to stand on your own…
without the other half -will life be better for you and your child.

My marriage …you might guess…also not a bed of roses…
I am on my own now…have been always even when spouse around…I handle everything myself without spouse help.
Can you?

I have seem women who are so depended on their husband…without their spouse they are like lost sheep…

Sorry , to divorce or to forgive and patch up…it depends on you.

My Philosophy of life now - 24 hours each day…so many things to accomplish . No time to waste. Take Care!