All About Autism
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Hi parents,
Good to see the forum active again. I would like to ask a question and I hope you all can share your thoughts and experience with me. My special darling’s eye contact wasn’t very good initially (2 years back) and I have been working on this issue with his various therapists and he also attends social class. Nowadays he has v good eye contact with family members but is only able to maintain fleeting or inconsistent eye contact with his teachers (but he does better with his classmates! Strange right?)
For us, we are used to it and don’t really see it as much of a ‘problem’ as he can maintain joint attention and is pretty compliant most of the time. But his new K1 Chinese teacher commented on it for a few times and I am like ‘hmmmm… Okayyyy…’. My position on this matter is that my son is a work-in-progress and he will get better in all aspects someday somehow right? Am I right to think this way? Or eye contact is really dependent on one’s personality rather than his special condition? He is now able to sit through and listen to his lesson for his 4hrs pre-school so I am quite happy with his overall progress. -
I think many NT people also have problems with eye contact with strangers or people in authority. I tell my daughter to do a half-measure - to look at some point on the face of the teacher and only fleetingly in the eyes. At least she will be looking in the right direction and not looking away!
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Hi Couragemum! To me, the eye contact is not a big issue. My son has this problem too and he is still improving on it. Even NT people have this problem of not being able to look into others' eyes. To me, it is not a big issue. Being able to sit through a 4 hour lessons is awesome! :rahrah:
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Hi pinkamoon,
I think we are used to the ways of our special darling, so we don’t really see the issue in the ‘issue’! Hahaha…
Yah, I was quite shocked too that the teacher’s feedback is that he can sit through 4hrs of class already. Not really sure how come, as he was still only able to last around 3hrs in N2, then suddenly in K1, he can do it! -
Hi Double E,
Glad to hear your good news! My son is p1 too. In the last two weeks, he seems fine. I didn’t declare his condition yet. He can tell me about 1/3 to 1/2 of his classmates names. Seems he observe and listen. Teacher didn’t say anything. So far he kept all his belongs except one time the coins dropped from his pocket when skipping and last week leave his Chinese text book in the shelf under his table. Much more out of my expectations. But not sure why I still quite nervous, and not so patient to him. Maybe expecting the problems coming up as the first two weeks is honey moon! -
Hi all, I recently came across about a mother who changed her child's autistic behaviour through changing the child's diet. She presented her finding at TED. Below is the YOUTUBE link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iL4SD5f2toQ
Hope this is another way to help your child. -
Hi all, I recently came across about a mother who changed her child's autistic behaviour through changing the child's diet. She presented her finding at TED. Below is the YOUTUBE link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iL4SD5f2toQ
Hope this is another way to help your child. -
Hi All,
Happy to read about your children's progress!
Double E, your son has adjusted well to mainstream. Congrats!!
Balachanbabe, losing lightsabre fight to girl is normal lah. I have been losing all my life to this certain woman at home....
jme, our boys are in the same foundation year? Yay! My boy is in P1F Lilac. You?
Update: This is the 3rd week of school. Everything at Pathlight went according to expectation. No surprises. He gets on the school bus himself, finds his way around school and returns on the school bus. That's good enough for me.
The principal briefed us parents to train good habits and to start letting go. I have no problem with the latter. Most of the time I don't know what is happening....just make sure to come home. Over here got 4 kids. Sometimes one missing in the afternoon also dunno.....
His class has 2 teachers to 6 children, which is a bonus. The norm is 2:12. Got my money's worth. More personal attention. Since the teachers so free, maybe can help cut his nails...
Work wise, not very different from mainstream. Have to check his Personal Organizer and Homework file daily. Today his maths homework is 19 pages long. Geez! Can't understand why Sg teachers really like to siao homework. Damn 变态 one. Or rather, MY homework is 19 pages long....sigh!!
On the whole, Pathlight seems very well organized. Can't complain much. But I am Singaporean so it is in my nature to complain. Will find something soon to complain.
Oh Ya, I got for him a Watch Phone. $110+ on Q10. Has a GPS function. I can track him down to the nearest 50 metres. In case he gets lost. I think its great. He can't play games on it like a normal phone (spoil eyes!) and we can communicate in emergences. Have a look at it if you are keen.
Ganbatte everyone!! -
tyeogh
Great to hear from you too. Looks like your son is also adapting well at PAthlight.
But wah! 19pages of homework. My boy’s pri hardly any homework, the first time I saw homework being assigned, I was actually overjoyed! Yes, that’s how 变态 I am too.
For my boy, well first 2 weeks were great. But this week, he met bullies on the school bus. My mum’s helper saw a boy threatening to beat him when they got off the bus together. I was heartbroken. I expected bullies but I didn’t expect it to happen so soon. The boy likely a P2/P3 claimed that my son disturbed him, so I don’t want to jump to conclusion that my boy is not totally at fault. But knowing our ASD kids, their disturb is definitely not intentional and is harmless, so I suspect my son could have rubbed the boy off the wrong way. I took action immediately and told the bus driver to get my son to sit at the front of the bus so that he can monitor.
Other issues that my boy faced so far is slowness, take too long to copy notes from the whiteboard. But I know this can be trained so I am going to work on that with him.
P1 is definitely a great milestone for all of us in this forum, whether in mainstream or Pathlight. More imptly is, our kids are all grown up and is heartening to see them able to get on the right bus, buy food from canteen and return home safely. -
Hi Tyeogh,
19 pages of homework is incredible! I don’t know the rationale behind such large amount of work??? My NT daughter returns to her church kindergarten to K2 level and suddenly her spelling just got WAY difficult! From single word like ‘one to ten’ in K1 to suddenly full sentence like ‘they go to school together!’ I actually screamed when I got the spelling list! What did the teachers or the school think happen to our darling’s brain during the 2 months’ dec holiday??? The quantum leap is too much for MY brain to understand. Duh…
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