All About Full-Time Maids

[shine_fs]

hquek:

shine_fs:

To them frying an egg is consider cooking.... :laugh:

I don't think she can do sunnyside up....she tried once to cook an egg dish....it was very odd (the look and taste)....and after that, we never asked her. And this was months after she understudied my dad.

:slapshead:

[minnie2004]

insider:

Sharing about my maid as suddenly have this feeling of gratitude towards her when she lightens my house chores so much that I can afford the luxury of time to type here, go play mahjong, etc…

Yes, it's impossible to find a perfect maid. Despite all the problems we have with our maids, I'm still thankful that they are there to help me with all the housework. That's why I try to be as accommodating as I can. Imagine how my life would be without them - an even more desperate housewife

[janet88]

Hi insider,

You are so lucky to have a reliable maid.

Like what all the other ladies here mentioned, biodata cannot be trusted. Indonesian maids cannot do sunny-side up...they consider it uncooked. Because of them, I have eaten a lot of chicken...so on the day I must have my pork, I tell them to fry an egg or eat instant noodles.

When maids first arrive, they eat like a glutton...understand bcos they are poor at home. Then after 6 months, they start to be picky with food including instant noodles :!: . They can polish down a bottle of peanut butter and jam within 3 weeks !!!

My first maid was the best maid I ever had. That was the time I just had my 2nd child...my mum taught her to cook and she even made red dates/longan tea during my confinement. She was still single but learnt how to look after my daughter...cooked porridge twice a day for her meals and when my gal was teething with high fever, she looked after her with the best care. I am truly grateful to her. :love:

[autumnbronze]

insider:

Sharing about my maid as suddenly have this feeling of gratitude towards her when she lightens my house chores so much that I can afford the luxury of time to type here, go play mahjong, etc…

Thanks insider, for sharing

I too am typing here cuz she lightens my house chores too ...

[riash]

lovekidsverymuch:

Oh yes ofcuz she cannot raise hand n all never no ways :x

my ds 1 is only 20 mths, he still doesn't understand the impact of things. so i expect the maid to be the one doing the thinking in such situations and reacting quickly. if ds1 is older, i can rationalise with him. anyway, no choice i just had a word with her, she agree to be more careful and i hv to close my eyes again!

[riash]

qms:

OK. This is an issue which we will have to agree to disagree because it's a difference in viewpoint.


I am not sure how old the elder boy is, but if we consistently teach the boy he should not treat his sibling in this manner, we are treating the root of the problem. We can't condone such behaviour, and expect the maid to stop the elder boy's behaviour. Teaching the elder boy goes a long way than telling the maid she should watch out for the boy's behaviour.

The key point here is to be consistent in teaching the elder boy (what happened to the elder boy if he bite his sibling again? The next time he bites his sibling again, does he get the same treatment?).

Of course I agree that the maid should also have pulled the elder boy aside and called the parents. Our recommendation shouldn't just stop there.

totally agreed that discipline is the parents responsibility. we are aware that ds1 will hug and sometimes he will bite...and the maid knows this. Was just mad that she allowed it to happen when all the time we always pull the kids apart to prevent this.

[moonee]

peapot:

My houserule is she's not allowed to have any handphone. I find that once she has handphone, she will give alot of problems. We bought a handphone for one of my previous maid. She use the phone till 1am and

I m a light sleeper, I can hear her talking!! Then she starts using my housephone to cut down on her phone expenses. All her friends start calling my house! I was so mad!! So I tell myself, its enough!! No more hp for her.

Moonee, actually you can keep her hp and give it to her in the night.

Yup, we did keep her phone till evening for 6 days. On the 7th day she requested to go back to the agent. No reasons given, i was kind of surprise as she was under no work stress and appeared cheerful but was dropping hints that she had 82 smses the last few days. I decided to compromise and told her that she can keep the phone but to use it discreetly and not while shes working. She agreed but that same nite my dd saw her using the phone openly in the kitchen. I reminded her of the conditions set for her if she wants to keep her phone,,, btw, her 1st emplyer kept her phone and she bot another on the sly, when found out after 6th months, they threw her back to the agent. The agent confiscated her 2nd phone and transfered her to another employer who kept her phone and gave it back in the nite. HA HA!! just when her 6mth loan ended, she was thrown back to the agent, her 2nd transfer cost her an extra 2 mths loan and again just when she completed her 2mths and abt to see her fulll salary she was booted out again.
she seem to have a lot of smses, as i notice her going to her room to check frequently. Well, I close my eyes as she gets back to what shes doing.
Last Sunday while we were all out, her cousin came by my place. lucky she does not hv the key and last nite my mum caught her talking and cleaning the cooker. Too much! reminded her tat her loan is ending next month and if she wnts to c her money, she better not get too carried away with the phone. Think the phone is gonna cost her her job.

[janet88]

There are reliable maids, but as rare as a diamond.

After my reliable maid went home, the one who replaced her was lazy and just out to enjoy life.

When she was done ironing, she lie on the floor and slept. Whenever she goes to my mum’s place, she will go to the kitchen and lift up the pot covers to see what food was avail :x She eats the most and does the least. Sent her home bcos I cannot tolerate her laziness and rudeness.

[mummy of 2]

janet_lee88:

There are reliable maids, but as rare as a diamond.

After my reliable maid went home, the one who replaced her was lazy and just out to enjoy life.

I also experienced this. Have changed 3 maids since my reliable one went home. Now waiting for 4th one to arrive

[janet88]

mummy of 2,

We calculated pros and cons of part-time vs maid…in the end we took a maid because the baby doesn’t stop vomitting or soiling herself after the part-time leaves. After the 4th maid (when daughter turned 5), I just had to send her off b4 I lose my sanity. Strangely, I did not have the urge to get another one anymore.

My first maid was a gem although she ate like a glutton…but can’t have the best of both worlds right ? Anyway, she is still in contact with me and even hinted to come back. I told her that her hubby and 2 year old daughter are very important and shouldn’t be left on their own.