My 4 yr old has mentioned on at least 3 occaisions that his teacher calls him and other students ‘stupid’. I dismissed most of the instances but I am starting to wonder if its true. How can i tell? Should I speak with the teacher or the principal? I hope to do this in a diplomatic way. Anyone has experiences or ideas?

my maid has been with me for 2 years, she’s wonderful and reliable, mature. Now she doesn’t want to renew her contract with me as she wants every sunday off - because she has a new boyfriend who is working here and she wants to go see him every sunday! there, thats what they need the sunday off for! so what is her solution ? go to expat employer cos they surely will give her 4 sundays off and somemore will encourage her to see that guy and also allow her to bring the guy to the house.

hang in there! am hvg a bad mommy moment too, just timed my self out, had a hair treatment and pedi today and feel so rejuvenated!

Rio:

My boy at 3.5 still \"bully\" me. He refuse to eat vegetable whenever I feed him. Wants to b carried ONLY BY ME when we go out. Whines at me even when I am attending lesson with him. But he doesn't do that to my helper. Even the class teacher noted a drastic difference in him whenever my helper bring him to class. She says he can perform excellent with my helper, but never with me....


So now my helper \"forbid\" me to feed my boy, cos it will take 2 hrs with all the tug of war, whereas she will take just 20 min. N we take alternate turn to bring him to classes so as to maximize his learning.

rio, at what age did your son start behaving this way? i also get my helper to do all the feeding. so much so i hv to stay away till he finish eating, if he sees me, thats the end of eating. sometimes he will ask me to feed him, so i will explain to him that i would love to feed him but if he starts playing a fool or whining etc i will walk away. he's fine, and he will always whine and not eat!!!

yes deminc,i guess i am soft. but i do shout and sometimes even smack him, he’s too playful…he will just scream and shout louder. then start throwing things around. i will just walk away.

sometimes no energy to reason with him, he makes everything difficult!

guys and gals, same story still for me. helper out for xmas. son din eat a meal today, just snacks! sigh, wonder what he needs me for. better to live with my helper, less stress for my son. does this phase go away?

thank you all for sharing really appreciate it! i hope my younger boy doesn't go thru this!


meiah - think i need tips on how you managed to get your daughter to listen to you! or is it cos she's a gal

desertwind! you make me feel so unalone

what works? you say just one person with the child? hmmm i have taken him out with me alone, he still misbehaves. maybe i am lenient?

do you have other suggestions?

thanks everyone for your thoughts, i am really hoping its a phase and that he will grow out of it:) i am going to try to spend more 1 on 1 time with him as well.

jedamum:

who takes care of him when you are working?

he goes to childcare half day and then is home with the maid