All About Bullying

[happypapa]

jedamum:

sleepy:

[quote=\"rakutenten\"]
BULLY wont be ostracized. In fact BULLY in class gather more bully to join in the act.
THE VICTIM is the one that will be ostracized instead.

True. Real case here.



I suggested standing up to leave and report (if he is victim), or go get the victim (ask if he wants to leave)and leave and report. No use to confront to threaten to report teacher because incident already happened. It is as much a by standers role to play, I feel.

[/quote]I had given my son the same advice. A classmate bullied him once in class without teacher supervision. He didn't fight back but he also didn't report it to his homeroom teacher. Good thing I know when my son is upset or not. He told me what happened two days after the incident.

As a parent, I was bothered by how reluctant my son had been about the issue. I feel I need to show him more that he can trust me more than anyone else. I could've comforted him since day 1.

I showed the video to him too. This is an eye-opener to parents and children about the realities of bullying in class. It is a serious problem that needs to be attended to.

[stacey_1805]

It’s a real challenge helping my child cope with bullying in school. It’s hard for him to manage his emotions and know what to do when he is being bullied in school.

[redpeasant]

From personal experience, I was bullied quite a bit in pri sch and during the lower secondary sch days and my parents complaining to my teachers don’t help the matter, instead I was ostracized by my classmates (most are the better friends with the bullies) and the bullying continue when the teachers are not around.


In the end my dad taught me to fight back and beat the bullies at their game. So i started mocking the bullies at stuff they are poor at (e.g. fail maths exam) and get into fights with them whenever when they try to be physical with me.

But i must say, i did get into some trouble with the discipline master but after I started this in Sec 2. The bullying stop and I even got better grades in exams. I am not saying this is the best approach but it worked for me and taught me to step up for myself.

[adelinemiller]

redpeasant:

From personal experience, I was bullied quite a bit in pri sch and during the lower secondary sch days and my parents complaining to my teachers don't help the matter, instead I was ostracized by my classmates (most are the better friends with the bullies) and the bullying continue when the teachers are not around.


In the end my dad taught me to fight back and beat the bullies at their game. So i started mocking the bullies at stuff they are poor at (e.g. fail maths exam) and get into fights with them whenever when they try to be physical with me.

But i must say, i did get into some trouble with the discipline master but after I started this in Sec 2. The bullying stop and I even got better grades in exams. I am not saying this is the best approach but it worked for me and taught me to step up for myself.

Good thing your dad taught u how to deal with the bullies. sometimes if u cant beat them, join them. but of course to a certain extent only. as long don't cross the line of someone being injured seriously or life threatening, its ok. we must learn how to stand up for ourselves when nobody will.

[ryuunix]

Honestly many of us can always share about each experience on tackling bullying issue (which is great). After listening to this stories and probably to try out certain methods to test out whether is works for them. Sometimes what would work better is to facilitate such that a unique solution comes out from the dynamics and environment that the kid is under.


For example, a kid being hit because he is small. This kid not only need to know how to deal with this bully, getting teacher to support and etc, we need to facilitate such that the kid is willing to open up and look into what causes him to be bullied, resolving his trauma etc. If not, his character will be shaped to a certain direction (but then again we cant say if its no good or bad). Dealing with his trauma now is impt because years of reinforcement of the same situation will means the kid will be wearing pieces of armor. There are cases where the kid grow up to be well, but that is not often seen and is also because of certain conditions and opportunity that help to open the kid up.

just my 2 cents

[ryuunix]

Sharing from TED Talk


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ii6L_Aux9RU

[socialispiice]

Hope following things will help you:


Tell your child not to react to the bully and not give into his demands.
If your child’s attempts at ignoring a bully’s taunts are not effective, she should become firm with the bully.
Your child may also benefit from talking to his pediatrician.
Encourage your child to form strong friendships.
Talk to your child’s teacher, school counselor, or to the principal of the school if the situation with the bully does not stop.
Let the principal or teacher talk to the bully when she sees the inappropriate behavior taking place on the school grounds.

[lgerline]

Recently my P2 son told me one of his male classmates likes to tease him. I told him to ignore that classmate for whatever he says to my son. Do you think this is good enough or should such matter be brought up to the teacher? My son is quite articulate and I am sure he will tell the teacher if the classmate bully him (in fact teacher has called me for this matter long time ago saying the 2 boys are not in good terms)

[Tinaturningheads]

lgerline:

Recently my P2 son told me one of his male classmates likes to tease him. I told him to ignore that classmate for whatever he says to my son. Do you think this is good enough or should such matter be brought up to the teacher? My son is quite articulate and I am sure he will tell the teacher if the classmate bully him (in fact teacher has called me for this matter long time ago saying the 2 boys are not in good terms)

I would prob monitor the situation. If your DS start to exhibit signs of keeping to himself or emotional distress, time to intervene.

[allabouthomework]

My Boy had this problem as well, we put him through some counseling and voiced out to the teachers. Fortunately he is in GEP and his studies are still relatively good. If not it will be quite tough to cope considering the amount of stress they go through. I can imagine parents going through this sort of stress if their child is not strong academically and still have to constantly cope with the pressure at school... :scared: