All About Full-Time Maids

[sunny_side_up]

if maid is being sent home due to misconduct, of cos wont pay excess luggage for her. if she is good but needs to go home then probably will pay for her lo.

[ptb7476]

then on MOM side do we need to do anything ?

[hquek]

ptb7476:

then on MOM side do we need to do anything ?

Is her wp expiring? If not, you can log into mom via your singpass to indicate that you are terminating her wp, and when she is expected to leave the country. You may/not have to print out a form.

Can't recall but she may have to surrender the wp AFTER she clear customs in airport; or maybe you can hold it and then send it to MOM. I think mine all used the first option, I can't recall sending anything to MOM after they left.

[Snow24]

Hi


Do helper use hp more for phonecalls,texting or surf internet, Facebook?which one more distracting and causing hp addiction?

[ptb7476]

Snow24:

Hi


Do helper use hp more for phonecalls,texting or surf internet, Facebook?which one more distracting and causing hp addiction?

it is the device that allow them to do all these that is addictive so no hp during day time if you want them to concentrate working

[Purpleflower]

hquek:

Purpleflower:

What would u do if your maid steals money from you but you do not have evidence yet to prove.

They don't usually stop once they think they have gotten away.

Usual practice is to send maid away. Unless you want to go to the trouble of setting trap (eg marked notes, cctv), or that it involves astronimcal number, else it may be hard to prove with the police.

Else, if there is any redeeming factor, keep all monies very safely away. But this may not deter them for long since they clean the whole house and probably know the house better than you.

I am so lost, found the remittance advices but don't know how effective it would be as evidence. Felt so disturbed. Should I confront her? Anybody here has experience same as my situation? Can share your experience and thoughts?

I really feel like terminating her immidiately. Now I have to ensure my valuables and money are all kept properly. Wonder how these thieves can sleep soundly at night. Aren't they afraid of getting jailed and repatriated to their country? Me and husband are good employer and her salary is above market rate and she get paid $50 per off day. And now she betray our kindness and repay with stealing our money.

[Purpleflower]

Snow24:

Hi


Do helper use hp more for phonecalls,texting or surf internet, Facebook?which one more distracting and causing hp addiction?

My use it for all the above including listening to music and watch YouTube. Please restrict and control phone usage. It's not a good idea to let them hold their phones 24/7. They are never going to appreciate it and the worst is they will definitely abuse the freedom.

[straffan23]

Purpleflower:

hquek:

[quote=\"Purpleflower\"]What would u do if your maid steals money from you but you do not have evidence yet to prove.

They don't usually stop once they think they have gotten away.

Usual practice is to send maid away. Unless you want to go to the trouble of setting trap (eg marked notes, cctv), or that it involves astronimcal number, else it may be hard to prove with the police.

Else, if there is any redeeming factor, keep all monies very safely away. But this may not deter them for long since they clean the whole house and probably know the house better than you.

I am so lost, found the remittance advices but don't know how effective it would be as evidence. Felt so disturbed. Should I confront her? Anybody here has experience same as my situation? Can share your experience and thoughts?

I really feel like terminating her immidiately. Now I have to ensure my valuables and money are all kept properly. Wonder how these thieves can sleep soundly at night. Aren't they afraid of getting jailed and repatriated to their country? Me and husband are good employer and her salary is above market rate and she get paid $50 for working on off days. And now she betray our kindness and repay with stealing our money.[/quote]I had to live with a thief, too, for about 4 weeks because I had no extra help, 3 kids, but must crucially, husband that thought he would die without a maid and didn't let me sack her on the spot. I did not have proof but I was certain she stole from me cos I lost half of the cash (needed for an event), although, like you, I found the remittances advice (and quickly took photos of it).

And then the day that I was going to send her back, I set up the spy cam and the recorder and sat with her at the dining table. So I asked her to tell me, how much money she had been sending home. Did she helped her friends send money home? Did her friend helped to send money home? And I asked her if she kept the receipt, and need to check? And then, finally, I asked her to show me the receipts. ALL the receipts - and she sent home more money than her salary? and she even had extra money to buy smart phone? Of course, it was all denial from her.

And then I broke it to her, that I had hidden cameras in my bedroom, my study, etc. So these camera caught her stealing money from me. Tell me why you need the money. Tell me how much you stole? And then in all these, she stopped denying. No saving grace because she didn't even say sorry. Guilty as charged but didn't even feel guilty. So I told her, I could have her arrested for stealing (and her whole village will know), or I could send her away. So she packed and I sent her away.

I recorded her because I didn't want a situation where she turns around and claim unfair dismissal, or say something like me or my husband had inappropriate behavior. It doesn't need to be true - a claim like that, alone, can ruin our lives or at the very least, waste so much time.

It is very difficult to live with a thief. It is like, \"sleeping with the enemy!\" My neighbor which had had similar case (young, desperate lady, needed extra money for parents) - they confronted her, sympathized, and told her that is never again to be repeated else they will goto the police station. She ended up working with them for six years.

I think in some ways if you are keeping her you must confront her. Give her warning. And lay down the terms and conditions.

[sunny_side_up]

purpleflower, maybe u think will u be happier with her around and u worry everyday what she is up to at home or will u be happier without her around…u will be busy but the worrying feeling will not be there.

[kay_liz]

I too, had my share of problems with maids. Recently i have sent my maid away about 3 weeks ago, and engaged a really gd PT maid. i thought things were going well, but unfortunately i was so busy that i hardly have time for my kids. When i reach home, i have to be busy with housework, and in order to quickly finish my stuff, I had to put them in front of the TV so i can do my things undisturbed. I feel so lousy! As my hubby is usually busy and also tired when he’s back, I dont get much support… on weekends too because i gotta wake up early and prepare breakfast & lunch for everyone. Sigh… isn’t it a dilemma?