If you could, would you decide on a 3rd child?

[sashimi]

I envy you lot, can talk about a 3rd child. I only have the single precious one.


I know for a fact I will regret it if I don't have another.

Plus this stupid random world of ours.... It's not that I'm broke or poor; it's just that there is simply no assurance that our children can have a decent life in this world. It's all I can do to keep this single one safe and happy.

[smurf]

it's the quality that counts, not the quantity.


I already dun have enough time to spend with my second bb.

[tanlengleng]

Karpi:

Every kid addition to a family is definitely a blessing.


If could financially, why not?

I will not hesitate even the 5th, which my wife yearn for it.

*SALUTE*

[tanlengleng]

Agree with most that we should give the BEST of the BEST to the few (or one) that we have.

Some no time, some no money, some no energy.

30-40 years later (hopefully we’re still alive),
these few (or one) that we love so much will face the same as us now.
No time, No money, No energy,
they may wish that they have no toothless, aged parents…

Just my humble 2 cents.

[winth]

Hi hi,


Surprised that this thread is still alive… hehe…

Actually we might have come to a conclusion to stop at 2. Given that my 2nd one is really taking away most of my energy (or whatever that’s left).

I have a friend who play alot with with my 2 boys, she teaches lots of children and her sis is a child psychologist. She has talked to her sis about my boys’ behaviour when she plays with them.

She commented both boy’s behaviour are at ‘abnormal range’ for their age and that I might want to have both my boys assessed by her sis for their IQ becos she said that it’s very likely one or both of them have very high IQ. And that my 2nd boy is likely to be gifted.

And my 2nd boy (now 20 months) is making us ‘crazy’, really. He’s totally obsessed and stubborn and insists his ways when it comes to certain things.

We don’t think we have the energy level left and we don’t want to ignore the 3rd child as it will be unfair.

[tanlengleng]

winth:

I might want to have both my boys assessed by her sis for their IQ becos she said that it's very likely one or both of them have very high IQ. And that my 2nd boy is likely to be gifted.

If Free, Mai Tu Liao!!! :lol:

[winth]

wa lao…

know liao for what… (btw, it’s not free)

It troubles me after I got such comments.

Initially I thought that my 2nd boy is ADHD becos he is just so stubborn and ‘hyper’, he just doesn’t sleep and is always doing things. He gets really frustrated when it’s not done properly… Imagine the kind of stress and energy to watch over him…

So, I think at the moment, 2 might be good enough. If we really want, it might be for the year of rabbit or dragon, we quite pandang one…

[tanlengleng]

winth:

wa lao...

know liao for what... (btw, it's not free)

It troubles me after I got such comments.

Initially I thought that my 2nd boy is ADHD becos he is just so stubborn and 'hyper', he just doesn't sleep and is always doing things. He gets really frustrated when it's not done properly... Imagine the kind of stress and energy to watch over him...

So, I think at the moment, 2 might be good enough. If we really want, it might be for the year of rabbit or dragon, we quite pandang one...

Know liao can send them to school more suitable for them.
I have a cousin who's gifted, she's on those \"R&D\" tests since very young,
my aunt never had to pay her schoolfees till she's goes to University...
not sure if true of my aunt had been bragging...

[jenniferjoey]

Hey Winth,

It's a blessing that you have 2 kids already, just leave the rest to God, who knows you may have an very obedient 3rd one to jaga your first two! :lol:

Actually my hubby and I are trying hard to have 2nd child, stop eating painkillers and coffee for my migraine for months yet still no good NEWS. (Miscarriage once) but this haven't stop us for trying again. If you wants you can start trying to get a tiger bb.. (Think positive! Its easier to get your 3rd child in any school you want..)

You can persuade your sons first if you want.. but the decisions are yours. My daughter initiate don't want at the age of 3-4, then she wants a little sister to play with, but I can't guarantee her. At first she said I can give away the bb to someone if he is a boy... :!: Recently, she don't mind if bb is boy or girl.. When we are watching Desperate Housewives, she saw so many pregnant mummies, she said \"Mummy can you born one DiDi(little Bro) or MeiMei (Little Sis) for me please?\" I was so touched and I become more motivated for 2nd child..

Since your 2 boys may be gifted focus on teaching and guiding them well while trying for the 3rd. You may spend less effort on the 3rd one, as the first 2 will help you. (This part you must really start with your first son to be a role model of your 2nd son, and must be persistant.)
Bless you! May you have the power of all super mum and dad!

winth:

I have a friend who play alot with with my 2 boys, she teaches lots of children and her sis is a child psychologist. She has talked to her sis about my boys' behaviour when she plays with them.

She commented both boy's behaviour are at 'abnormal range' for their age and that I might want to have both my boys assessed by her sis for their IQ becos she said that it's very likely one or both of them have very high IQ. And that my 2nd boy is likely to be gifted.

And my 2nd boy (now 20 months) is making us 'crazy', really. He's totally obsessed and stubborn and insists his ways when it comes to certain things.

We don't think we have the energy level left and we don't want to ignore the 3rd child as it will be unfair.

[winth]

[quote]I have a cousin who's gifted, she's on those \"R&D\" tests since very young,

my aunt never had to pay her schoolfees till she's goes to University... [/quote]wa... really meh???

Maybe she belongs to the higher range of giftedness that explains why the government wants to pay for her fees.

Err... actually I'm afraid to know. It's not really good news to me if any of them belong to that range. Have read articles about those children and it's not easy to teach such children.

But after her comments, I am more aware and am more patient when I teach them. My 6 year old is extremely matured and he is highly sensitive. I have been ignoring my first born since the 2nd one demands alot of my energy. It's not fun to know that the elder brother had to always give in to the younger one.

Hi jennifer, thanks for the encouragements! You might want to go for herbs to pump up your body's health, as pregnancy is easier for those with 'warm' bodies. Think your body belongs to the 寒type. Since you have had a miscarriage, it shows that your womb is too 'cold' for the embryo.