9 years old boy wants to quit the piano lesson

[corneyAmber]

Actually there is no need to quit totally if you are not sure of the interest, just go slower in the learning and should the interest pick up again, the gear will auto ramp up.


Often we like to solve a problem using an ‘on’, ‘off’ switch but honestly if we look around, many things are not exactly that way. If you have already bought the piano, it would be a waste to do a switch ‘off’ and when interest returns, you have to turn ‘on’ again.

So if just slow down the learning and allow the child to experience a wider repertoire of music, by the time he hits 20, he will still be competent enough.

[Donkey Kong]

adhdadhd:

Children's motivation to learn need to be inspired by a role model. If parents are playing piano, the kids will be more inspired, right? Boys look upon their father as role model..


Music instruments, and the melody they produced, are inspirational and a possible vents of stress, anxiety, anguish, emotions .. we've been teenagers before, and we know by and large, music, dance and songs, movies had helped us coped with life, effectively abated our sufferings (of studies, love life etc) in various stage of life.

You want a kid to bring you more $, or you want a kid to be happy? is your choice of course.

I play the piano plus few others, but my kid doesn't like at all. So I pick up wrong baby at KK? :? I like to read my kid doesn't.

I quit halfway and continue learning without taking exams. I find piano exams are stressful and of no use to me becoz I never wish to be music teacher. Just play for fun, like kids playing XBox or PSP.

[piano24]

Donkey Kong:

I play the piano plus few others, but my kid doesn't like at all. So I pick up wrong baby at KK? :? I like to read my kid doesn't.


I quit halfway and continue learning without taking exams. I find piano exams are stressful and of no use to me becoz I never wish to be music teacher. Just play for fun, like kids playing XBox or PSP.

I do not even think about the exam, and he is with the slow progress for quite a while already, he is still interested in music, but all those bonus like discipline and persistent , that are hard to him.

I agree there is no much motivation has been inspired, and he is the only one who plays piano at home now, which is so unfair to him , what are the good ways to inspire it though, it is just not easy for the parents who do not play the instruments.

[Donkey Kong]

If you are not particular about exams, then things become easier. :lol:


Probably he is bored with the pieces (exams related). Normally piano teachers tend to teach the boring classical pieces which are for exams.

Discuss with him and teacher, to see if they can switch to something more interesting.... :celebrate: Pop or Jazz piano

[jedamum]

adhdadhd:

Boys look upon their father as role model..

101percent agree.

[Donkey Kong]

At 9 yr old, think they still prefer mom.


May be when they are older.......

My son is very sticky to mum. Every few mins, the radar will scan for his mom existence. :love:
Once signal -ve, he would search hi + lo for mum. :celebrate:
hahahaa

[cnimed]

piano24:

I do not even think about the exam, and he is with the slow progress for quite a while already, he is still interested in music, but all those bonus like discipline and persistent , that are hard to him.

I agree there is no much motivation has been inspired, and he is the only one who plays piano at home now, which is so unfair to him , what are the good ways to inspire it though, it is just not easy for the parents who do not play the instruments.

My parents didn't play the instrument either, but they sent both my sister and I for lessons and imposed daily practices. I loved it, my sister hated it. I can't say why, except that when I play the piano, it takes me to another world and I will forget everything around me. For me practicing was never a chore and I can spend one hour just on doing scales. On the other hand, my sister hated every minute of it. Till today she has phobia of the piano, but she definitely still very much like listening to music, including classical music.

So maybe your son likes to listen to music? Doesn't mean he likes the piano. It takes time to find out.

[Donkey Kong]

For fun of playing, it is good to have a silent piano. :love:


Can play anytime and not disturbing others..... :celebrate:

A good digital piano sounds better than the boring upright piano. :lol:
Can be very fun to play..... :lol:

[piano24]

deminc:

piano24:

I do not even think about the exam, and he is with the slow progress for quite a while already, he is still interested in music, but all those bonus like discipline and persistent , that are hard to him.

I agree there is no much motivation has been inspired, and he is the only one who plays piano at home now, which is so unfair to him , what are the good ways to inspire it though, it is just not easy for the parents who do not play the instruments.

My parents didn't play the instrument either, but they sent both my sister and I for lessons and imposed daily practices. I loved it, my sister hated it. I can't say why, except that when I play the piano, it takes me to another world and I will forget everything around me. For me practicing was never a chore and I can spend one hour just on doing scales. On the other hand, my sister hated every minute of it. Till today she has phobia of the piano, but she definitely still very much like listening to music, including classical music.

So maybe your son likes to listen to music? Doesn't mean he likes the piano. It takes time to find out.

Yes, he likes to hear the music, I am not sure if he does not like to play piano or just because the piece is hard for him and he would like to walk away, need more time to find out. And I tried to inspire him a little bit more to motivate him, since I did not play any instrument, so really a headache there.

[Blobbi]

piano24:

Yes, he likes to hear the music, I am not sure if he does not like to play piano or just because the piece is hard for him and he would like to walk away, need more time to find out. And I tried to inspire him a little bit more to motivate him, since I did not play any instrument, so really a headache there.

piano24, I'm not sure if I'm reading you correctly - you're concerned about your son's perseverance and discipline in the face of difficulty, and you'd like to look for a way to foster this attitude?

If this is what you're asking, then I think it's what all parents would love to inculcate! Playing a musical instrument is one way of fostering this attitude, although it's not the only way. If you're sure you want him to learn about perseverance through piano playing, based on what you've written, be prepared for a long drawn battle. But so long as you've got your plans drawn and you're prepared to dig in (I think quite a few parents here have advised that slowing down may actually re-ignite interest), it may just work.

Otherwise, you may want to switch tactics (or even work concurrently) with something else that your son likes. For eg, if he likes building Lego - you can dig out complicated projects and encourage him to complete, or go for robotics classes etc.

Either way, he will need lots of encouragement (sounds like you're doing a great job on this btw).

I'm one of those who took my grade 8 exam and never played a single note again if I could help it. There were years when I loved it a lot, but the last mile became too much of a slog, and when it came with coercion, my need to rebel took over :roll:.