Dunman High School (Junior High)
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Hi Parents
Do you ever face any BGR’s problem for your child/children? Do the school and teachers do anything about it? I noticed so far the forum never talk about this topic.
My DD has CO for DHS and Cedar? Still have not decided which school to put as 1st choice.
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thmejlfm:
My DD has CO for DHS and Cedar? Still have not decided which school to put as 1st choice.
Congrats on getting 2 COs. Both schools are very good (I assume her CO for Cedar is IP) n it will be difficult to make a selection.
How does your DD feel? Which school does she feel comfortable? She has to be the one to make a decision becos she is the one who is going to study for the next 6 years.
Do consider location n the logistics as she will spend long hours in school. Does she like co-ed or same gender schools? What about CCA ? (CCA plays a big part in Sec School). Also school culture needs to be taken into consideration. DHS school culture is very different from Cedar.
If you are able to list down your answers, you will get a clearer pix of which school is more suitable.
Good luck!!! -
zbear:
My DD has CO for DHS and Cedar? Still have not decided which school to put as 1st choice.
Congrats on getting 2 COs. Both schools are very good (I assume her CO for Cedar is IP) n it will be difficult to make a selection.
How does your DD feel? Which school does she feel comfortable? She has to be the one to make a decision becos she is the one who is going to study for the next 6 years.
Do consider location n the logistics as she will spend long hours in school. Does she like co-ed or same gender schools? What about CCA ? (CCA plays a big part in Sec School). Also school culture needs to be taken into consideration. DHS school culture is very different from Cedar.
If you are able to list down your answers, you will get a clearer pix of which school is more suitable.
Good luck!!![/quote]
Thanks zbear, glad to receive your reply.
Yes, all those you have mentioned. We did considered.
We are wondering how DHS's teachers handle the BGR's problem. Or they just closed one eye?? I think all the parents know, at this age, all the kids growing, not only the age, thinking also. Anything can happen. Nowadays, all the schools like to have this bonding period among the classmates. That's the most worried part.
Can any parents, ex-student or present student share your experience? Thank you in advance. -
thmejlfm:
I was told teachers in DHS have made it clear to students that BGR is strictly prohibited.. Though I suppose they also can't control what the students do outside the school.. And if I were to choose between 2 schools, one happens to be a single-sex and the other a co-ed school, (the risk of) BGR would not be an issue, particularly if both are IP schools since, once the child enters year 5, he/she would still be mixing with members of opposite sex and so, still chances for him/her to get involved in BGR.
We are wondering how DHS's teachers handle the BGR's problem. Or they just closed one eye?? I think all the parents know, at this age, all the kids growing, not only the age, thinking also. Anything can happen. Nowadays, all the schools like to have this bonding period among the classmates. That's the most worried part.
Can any parents, ex-student or present student share your experience? Thank you in advance.
I have a friend, son is studying in a top boy's IP school. He's been scoring straight As from year 1 to year 4, then, after going to its IP JC, got (too) involved with a girl from his class, and ended up doing badly in his promo exam.
Having said that, during my time, I also had classmates going together in JC, and still doing very well in 'A' level. -
mum_sugoku:
Glad to receive your reply. Thanks mum_sugoku.
We are wondering how DHS's teachers handle the BGR's problem. Or they just closed one eye?? I think all the parents know, at this age, all the kids growing, not only the age, thinking also. Anything can happen. Nowadays, all the schools like to have this bonding period among the classmates. That's the most worried part.
I was told teachers in DHS have made it clear to students that BGR is strictly prohibited.. Though I suppose they also can't control what the students do outside the school.. And if I were to choose between 2 schools, one happens to be a single-sex and the other a co-ed school, (the risk of) BGR would not be an issue, particularly if both are IP schools since, once the child enters year 5, he/she would still be mixing with members of opposite sex and so, still chances for him/her to get involved in BGR.
I have a friend, son is studying in a top boy's IP school. He's been scoring straight As from year 1 to year 4, then, after going to its IP JC, got (too) involved with a girl from his class, and ended up doing badly in his promo exam.
Having said that, during my time, I also had classmates going together in JC, and still doing very well in 'A' level.
Yes, I understand that outside the school is really out of their control. For us, we think that secondary is still too young to have the BGR.
Headache! -
thmejlfm:
Glad to receive your reply. Thanks mum_sugoku.mum_sugoku:
We are wondering how DHS's teachers handle the BGR's problem. Or they just closed one eye?? I think all the parents know, at this age, all the kids growing, not only the age, thinking also. Anything can happen. Nowadays, all the schools like to have this bonding period among the classmates. That's the most worried part.
I was told teachers in DHS have made it clear to students that BGR is strictly prohibited.. Though I suppose they also can't control what the students do outside the school.. And if I were to choose between 2 schools, one happens to be a single-sex and the other a co-ed school, (the risk of) BGR would not be an issue, particularly if both are IP schools since, once the child enters year 5, he/she would still be mixing with members of opposite sex and so, still chances for him/her to get involved in BGR.
I have a friend, son is studying in a top boy's IP school. He's been scoring straight As from year 1 to year 4, then, after going to its IP JC, got (too) involved with a girl from his class, and ended up doing badly in his promo exam.
Having said that, during my time, I also had classmates going together in JC, and still doing very well in 'A' level.
Yes, I understand that outside the school is really out of their control. For us, we think that secondary is still too young to have the BGR.
Headache!
I do agree with mum_sugoku.
Sec School is indeed too young to start BGR n I don't encourage it. However, I deliberately put my kids in co-ed schools since Primary School in order for them to have more exposure n gain confidence n maturity to handle interpersonal relationships of both genders.
It's important for parents to inculcate right values especially for teenagers. You can't avoid the time when they start to interact with the opposite gender so if they start on the right foot, I think BGR will not be a big issue.
Also knowing your child's character will also give you an idea whether BGR will be a headache.
BTW, BGR shld be the lowest priority in making a selection. It may or may not happen so why worry n think so much ahead?
Good luck in your decision! -
Thanks zbear.
At first, I also thought the same as you, let them have more explosure and gain confident. After a few parents and teachers talking about the BGR thingy, make me more worried. Well, should trust our own kids.
Noticed that no ex-student or present student talking this BGR thingy. By the way, thank you -
interesting topic!!
BGR no need to wait until sec sch…already now in P6 already heard about puppy love and crushes and infatuations…
And you don’t need a single-sex school to stop all these with all the social media frenzy…everybody "make friends’ with anybody! I think what’s most important is the values/expectations/communication imparted by parents to kids? It’s good to get to know your kid’s friends too… -
Imp75:
Thanks Imp75, yes, you were right. All those social media also let them \"make friends\" very easily.interesting topic!!
BGR no need to wait until sec sch....already now in P6 already heard about puppy love and crushes and infatuations....
And you don't need a single-sex school to stop all these with all the social media frenzy...everybody \"make friends' with anybody! I think what's most important is the values/expectations/communication imparted by parents to kids? It's good to get to know your kid's friends too....
How is the work load like in DHS? Is it very stress? My DD is DSA using CCA. -
sorry my gal is only P6 this year
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