All About Full-Time Maids

[minnie2004]

Just saw this scary news from HK's Apple Daily. It's about an Indo maid giving her employer's 4 yr-old son urine water from her toilet. It also mentioned other disgusting cases involving Indo maids in the past :!:


僱主囑斟水　竟在馬桶舀
印傭被控餵少主飲尿

被告印傭 Mariyatun（ 26歲），被控於今年 4月 2日在秀茂坪邨秀程樓某單位內，為使一名男童身體受嚴重傷害，非法及惡意向他施用毒藥、殘害性或有害物品，即一杯從坐廁取得、含有尿液的液體。

喝下兩口拒絕再飲
控方透露，事發當日，案中女僱主要求被告替她斟水，供年約四歲的兒子飲用。被告照做，惟少主喝下兩口後，不肯再飲。女僱主察覺有異，頓起疑心，即場問罪，並報警求助。
警方到場調查，被告始承認案發時於家中洗手間小便，然後在未有冲廁的情況下，暗中在坐廁舀出一杯污水，供少主飲用。控方昨日未有透露被告犯案原因。
控方昨申請將案押後，等候政府化驗所檢驗涉案液體成份，並向律政司索取法律意見。署任主任裁判官馬保華批准被告以 500元擔保外出。
過往曾有多宗牽涉外籍家傭於僱主飲食中「加料」的案件。 07年一名印傭將自己的尿液混入飲用水給僱主母女飲，認罪後被判監三個月。同年亦有印傭為報復僱主苛待，將洗過女僱主內褲的污水，混入開水供僱主一家三口飲用，令一家腹瀉，判囚半年。

經血炒菜疑案駭人
但要數最駭人聽聞的案件，莫過於去年一名工作表現欠佳的印傭，將衞生巾上的經血擠出，放入鑊中灼菜，企圖「落降」令女僱主服用後善待她。她一度被控意圖損害而施用殘害性或有害物品罪名，惟律政司研究案情後，認為未能證明經血有害，決定撤回控罪。印傭獲釋，輿論譁然。
根據法例，任何人為危害他人生命或使他人身體受嚴重傷害，而非法及惡意施用毒藥、或其他殘害性物品或有害物品，最高可判處十年監禁。

[mathsparks]

I've had 1 filipina add urine to our soyabean and another, filipina also, who spat into my cup of green tea.


It was my mil who noticed the strong smell of urine in her soyabean, while I saw the green tea looking slightly foamy and questioned her. After warning the first one, we retained her, coz dd was too young then. With the 2nd one, we sent her packing straightaway.

So, these cases are real but unavoidable and we are really at the mercy of maids.

[minnie2004]

Should you have reported to the police?

[Blissfulmum]

Ok.. sorry one more question!


I am going to heed the experts advise .. leave her with the agent. But she may have my keys also ... then how?? :?

She is almost a month wif him before we go holiday u see??? so .. do i add extra lock or something?? :roll:

aiyoh! sorry moms and dads.. i am a problematic mom LOL :?:

Bliss

[autumnbronze]

mathsparks:

I've had 1 filipina add urine to our soyabean and another, filipina also, who spat into my cup of green tea.


It was my mil who noticed the strong smell of urine in her soyabean, while I saw the green tea looking slightly foamy and questioned her. After warning the first one, we retained her, coz dd was too young then. With the 2nd one, we sent her packing straightaway.

So, these cases are real but unavoidable and we are really at the mercy of maids.

OMG mathsparks!!!

Yes, you are right ... about being at their mercy....

[moonee]

Moonee, can't offer much advice here as I've no experience with Myanmese but the ones that my friend has trained generally quiet and unassuming. And very caring to her special needs child. Some are really very qualified as nurses, and may understand a little Chinese if they are from the border states (with China) so that may be a thought.


Anyway, the reason I posted was to say that I'd be -ing that the next maid would work out for you. Sista, I don't often see you here at 3 am :love: :hugs:[/quote]
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Hi Andiaz, tks for responding, really appreciate yr concern and ... gonna need it. Im actually quite \"down\" lately, kind of pissed off with this recent maid issue. Ive decided to switch to my aunts agent and this time round Im gonna be selecive unlike the last 3 times, my agent has a way of pushing his many times transfered maids to me and arranging it such that the maids would overlap each time while he find an employer for my maid. Ahh, all to his benefit.!
Hey its 2.30 am now. Ive actually been doing the household chores and got to get my dd up at 5.20am so im kind of sleepy at this time. I dnt think i can go without a maid for long but am happy to hv my privacy for now... also been chasing my dd as exams just started and the schools streaming them at the end of the year again. What a time not to have a maid, cant give her too much attention this term.
Seems a little harder to get Christian Myanmar but I will check again next week. :love:

[moonee]

madinked:

It's repeated mistake. It's frustrating that after numerous times, same mistake.


Anyway, if she really wants to go, I'm not begging her to stay. Really sick of all these maids.

MOM really spoilt it for employers. Every minor thing, and they want to transfer employer.

I understand u fully, Its their world now!! :stupid: Yes, tks to MOM and the agent, they know they can choose and transfer as many times till they find a hse that suits them. Ai yah, all on work holiday :x Just find fault with employer to get transfer. Lucky she didnt lie and accuse u fof abuse.

[moonee]

Hi Si Si, Thanks for the tip, I tot all came frm yagoon. Yup, i heard they have no common sense, slow etc,, but Im prepared for all that. Tks for highlighting on the various states they come frm too. Never heard of chin state. Karen and shang.

Will definitely take note

[janet88]

Maids have the backing of MOM and brainwashed by their stupid friends…if they find that they have too much work, they find fault with employer to get a change. They drive you up the wall so much that you have to return them to the agency.


For employers who are both working, they have no choice.

[Blissfulmum]

Hey Monee


Whichever agency you are going to use.. whether is your aunty's long time friend a pc of advise - PLEASE DON NOT TRY THE AGENT. Never believe what is in the BIO, never believe what the maid said during the interview. NEVER. So I guess it's really all abt luck.

I got a maid from GOLD YEAR aka Amorie in 2007 because I was expecting DS3. The maid came a month or so earlier before I was due, as I have dliated at 33 weeks, I was told to bed rest at home. This maid, a Myanmar maid - good English, Bachelor of XXX, the agt hard sell her so much, Fresh maid, asking for SGD350. I spoken wif her over the phone, very accomodating and it's true that she can speaks better English vs the other Myanmar maids I have spoken to.

First of of arrival, she was OK, on the 3rd day, she starts telling me her ambition and why she wants to come SG bla bla bla.. and finally asked me to help her find a job outside!!!! CRAZY right?? I told her I can't do that it's illegal, then she asked me if she can go outside find job herself, at night then come home and clean my house for me.. etc... Lagi Crazy! I told her no way!

And immediately called the agt... the agt then SCOLDED her on the phone.. and I can see her LOST look in her face, she didn't even know what's happening!!??

Then I took time to explain to her nicely, the cost of living in SG, how much she is going to spend in SG if she dun work as a maid etc.... then she seems to undertsand and alls good. 2weeks later, she siao again... ask for the same thing, this time, she said, she can't be a maid, cos her dad duno she comes out as a maid, I called the agt again. Think the agt threatened her or something. She apologised then wanna stay again.

Soon, I went into delivering. She stayed with my MIL for a couple of days whilst I was at the hospital. I came home, everything was OK, during my 4 months maternity leave ( I think).

Cos she is pretty senang actually. I ordered home delivery confinement food, DS1 and 2 in childcare, I take care of DD3 myself, and all she does is mainly general hoisekeeping. She even have time to read book during T-time. From 8.30am to 9pm [only 3 of us at home- weekday. She doesn't even need to cook for DH, he will have dinner at his mom's place with the boys before they come home.

Cos she has old parents at home 60-70 yo, and I scare they may need help, so I even gave he a mobile phone. SGD20 prepaid card - she finishes within 3 days!

New year came.. instead of giving her ang bao, i gave her another prepaid card... same thing happened, finsihed within week.

Who she is talking to? I duno, she said, she tries calling home, but they put her on hold.. bla bla bla...

My nigtmares come on my 1st day back to work, preparing to send she and baby to my MIL's place. At 5.30am, she told me she wants to go back, ask me to send her back to the agency. It's 5.30am in the morning. I told her, YES, I will but u have to let me talk to the agent and fix a date. Prior to that she still has to work for me. She agrees. During this period, her attitude sucks! She refused to eat dinner at my MIL's place, she bring bread from home for lunch and cook instant noodle when we get home. Even when my MIL served her her dinner, she said I AM FULL. Quite daring!! even I also dare not do this to my MIL. Eventually, my MIL dun serve her anymore and let her take when she wants.

She often comes home with us from MIL without dinner and cook noodles or i give her SGD3 to buy noodles from coffeeshop downstairs. I told DH to tahan her a while more.. she will be gone soon anyway.

A few days' gone, she suddenly cried and hug my legs to say she LOVE me and my MIL, ask me to give her a chance to work for me again, cos her father need money to have an eye operation next month, she needs money.. bla bla bla... and idiotically ME - I accepted her again and THIS IS MY GREATEST MISTAKES!

I can't remember, few days later, I received a call from my sobbing MIL when i was at work. There are policemen at her place!!!!

I rushed there to find out what happened. Spoke to the police officers, they said someone lodge complaint of maid abuse. Informant said that the maid was asked to wait up at 5am, sleep at 12noon, one meal a day - maggie mee!!! MIL is a rather egoistic person, but that day i saw her watery eye, carrying my 4-5mos DD3 in her arms. I am really pissed off. :x

The maid kept telling me its not her.. she didn't call the police. ANd carried herself \"very professional-like\" when talking to the police, said our family treated her very well, she was not sure who did this.

It was ab 1plus 2 - the police said when they came, my maid was actually having her lunch and the house was peaceful when they came.

Even News Reporters (Daily newspaper) also came!! See the plot??!!?? I called the agent and immediately wants her out of my house!! Agent came to my MIL's house downstairs at 6+, but said he has errands to run and will come back later.

We had dinner....reach home at abt 8 and the agent was at place at abt 8nish. Maid immediately know what's happening, i can even see her grinned!!! She was calmed and its seems like she is ALL prepared!!! Till bid me good bye at the door smiling leh!!!! :x

She left my place on 9th. Her new BIO was almost immediately UP on http://www.netmaid.com after she left my house and she was wearing MY BLOUSE!!!! in her new photo. 2 days later, she found an employer. Till now, I am still wondering HOW could she find an employer so quickly??!! :?

And I have checked from MOM, she is still in SG with the same employer since she left me, I won't be surprise that the agent kept her themselves to work as their own staff be a translator or something cos this girl really can speak \"good english\" but get a \"scape goat\" to finish her loan or lighten her loan?? And if this is true.... then this is really scary. :shock:

She has been with me for abt 4 to 5 months, and has a couple of months loan of cos. Agent threaten me that I will lost everything if i send her home. Including air ticket, it's abt SGD2K. And my MIL is quite angry, ready to give me the CASH to pay me back - to send her home. But on 2nd thought, why must I give her a free trip to SG?? In the end, of course, I transfer her instead.

I didn't get a replacement from them, as the next one I've picked - failed her entry test. And obviously its another painful experience of getting my money back. Almost like BEGGING for my money liao :(:(

SO - be aware... I have read some stories abt GOLD Year on http://www.singaporemaid.blogspot.com, some of the stories are even more scary. :shock:

Just my sharing.....don't trust anyone, but yourself. Employing a maid is all about luck, it's not about the nationality, and your expectation, it's not about which agent you choose, but smeewhat the ethics of the agency is very important. Some just want money and dun care if the maid is OK or not.. just bring them in.... but I am just saying.. just some.

Wish you luck and me too - my new maid is coming in 2 days time. Prior to my last maid in 2007 whom lasted me for 4 to 5 months, the one before her was since 2002! I never like the idea of having a maid, but now that my boys are all in school, and DS2 has requested to stay at home instead of student care... i have no choice lor.. *sigh

Just my 2 cents worth.. thanks for listening...

Bliss