2016 PSLE Discussions (Born in 2004)

[Imp75]

hahahahaha what to do, I know a lot of people cos I appear in school so many times…

honestly I think my presence will give her pressure…maybe it is better if daddy is around instead.

For those transparencies statistics, aiya, I have my sources to get those immediately after being flashed.

[laughingcat]

I am so scare.....when my turns come.....I will freak out. Any result will also make me cry.....I am the kind that cry so easily

[cherrygal]

Did a shortlist of schools for all score ranges already. I will avoid looking at my kid’s expression at the moment of truth. Rather get delayed telecast.

[MyPillow]

janet88:

sleepy:

[quote=\"janet88\"]
if he/she has to cry, we cry together.

Parents must stay calm

i am thinking whether i need to find a chair to sit while waiting for the results.[/quote]there are chairs behind the hall for parents to sit.
yes better sit down, the moment when the kids stand up according to register number to receive results was heart hammering moment! i can hear my heart pounding now thinking back

[Concerndad]

Sharing some of my thoughts here after reading some of the posts…


I think our responses as parents are very important to our children at this stage of their lives. Although repeatedly I told my children that grades doesn’t matter and what it really matter was their attitudes in the process of preparing for the exam and their responses to the results, I am concern that on the results’ day I may express otherwise…Do not underestimate the importance of a father’s love and acceptance… (mum too!)

So I have practiced a bit on how to express myself well to my DS…going through my mind the various scenarios… haa! Like results is far expectations, within expectations, below expectations or far below expectations… My DS is worth all of this and more…

I had talked at length with my wife too about this… we decided that we must let this PSLE results’ day be a Day of wonderful memories. My ds is more important and precious to me n my wife than any grades… Swee, good, bad or ugly… we will be cheering all the way…

I know there are many "schools" of thoughts about the importance of PSLE results some espousing that it does not really matter in the long run… But imho, for a primary school kid whose only major exam so far is the PSLE, it is a pretty BIG event.! Either it became a stepping stone to go forward or it is a stumbling block in their memories and I am determine to make this a stepping stone for my DS…

In the meanwhile, I have been talking with him about managing expectations and how to rejoice with friends who do well and comfort those who do not.

[lego]

Imp75:

hahahahaha what to do, I know a lot of people cos I appear in school so many times.....

.

I get what you mean.
I pick my dd up from her school everyday and I do get asked about dd's results very often.
Every CA, Every SA..
My reply is usually OK or not so ideal, never the exact mark.
(But the kids will ask among themselves, so there‘s no secret)

I was still there at the PSLE results release date - just in case my dd needs support, I can be there for her as she is closer to me than dh and bring her home if she needs more privacy.

[laughingcat]

so agreed with you @Concerndad.


After the coroner report was out for the P5 boy (really sad sad case), I reiterate with my boys that exams/test are only a small part of our life. Exam/test does not mold a person life. Failed once doesn’t mean it is the end of the life. There are many more to come. Perseverance, best effort and able to pick yourself up after a fall are the important attribute of a person. Whatever score a child had, is just a score. What matters most is the child. Family matters.

[Concerndad]

Hi! laughingcat…

Thank you. Family matters…

Let’s us use this period till the results release date to compose and prep ourselves, so that years and years later, all that our children can remember was the laughters, the tenderness and yes, even the tears together as a family ~ how loving you all are together…

Dear Janet88…
I believe you will stand strong n well for your precious daughter… A mother who walked with her darling daughter through thick n thin, through tears and laughters, through silent struggles and hard-fought victory, will not forsake her at the last moment.

[Mr Bean]

Imp75:

hahahahaha what to do, I know a lot of people cos I appear in school so many times.....

honestly I think my presence will give her pressure...maybe it is better if daddy is around instead.

For those transparencies statistics, aiya, I have my sources to get those immediately after being flashed.

[Moderator's Note: Post edited and selected for https://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/article/share-the-moment-with-your-child/.]

I don't have children taking PSLE this year.
But I'll like to share something:

I haven't joined KSP when DD was taking her PSLE in 2012. I didn't know that parents could be with their child on PSLE results' day (how ignorant was I). I worked on that day and did not attend it. DD messaged me her results. It was her first major exam. I regretted that I was not with her in case she needed me. I also didn’t get to witness her responses and reactions, and feel her feelings.

Last year, DS took his PSLE. This time, I made sure that I was there for DS.
On the PSLE results’ day, Principal announced names of students who scored above 25x and asked them to stand. I could see the smile on DS face when he stood. DS seldom expresses his feelings openly. It was a rare but important moment to see joy and happiness on his face. He must be really happy.

Students queued up for their result slip after Principal’s speech. When DS got his, he ran to a corner to open it. He shouted “shit”. It was a low 25x. His happiness was short lived. All the images of his responses, reactions and expressions are still vividly in my mind though it was a year ago. It was part and parcel of his growing up. I am fortunate that I was there to witness it. He could have done better or he could have done worst. Whatever the result was, it was his hard work of that few months. I didn’t interrupt when he was with his classmates and friends as they had too much to talk and console each other. I told him that it was a good result and he had done well.

It was indeed a good and important experience and precious moment to remember.

Both you and your DD/ DS had worked so hard for the past few months. The pain and joy you all had gone through and the bond and relationship you and DD/DS have fostered is precious and priceless. Whatever the result, be there to witness and walk through with them this important journey of their life.

KSP is a very good platform where parents (even students) share and help each other.

I have really benefitted a lot from KSP.

[timtim]

ChiefKiasu:

If you intend to travel with your PSLE graduate kid, the best time to do so is now. Don't wait till November/December. Things will be less crowded for you and your family and you can come back refreshed and in time to handle all the admin things you have to do after PSLE results.

Yes, that is why we travelled almost immediately after last paper and another trip in early Nov...knowing to block out end Nov and end Dec....LOL