All About Full-Time Maids

[mathsparks]

minnie2004:

Should you have reported to the police?

We didn't..but we told them that if they didnt come clean, we'll let the police \"interview\" them and test the soyabean/tea.

Just wondering if this happens, and we'd made a report, will they be able to run a test?

[minnie2004]

hi mathsparks,

I just think they shud be punished for what they've done :spank:. Not sure about the tests. But if they admit doing it upon questioning, or you caught them red-handed, that shud be enough. Just wondering if there's any legal consequence for doing that in Singapore as in HK. Maybe spitting is bit tough, but if they put urine into food, that shud be enough to prosecute them (charge them for poisoning?), no?

Either way, if I ever catch them doing it, I'll immediately send them off, either to the police or airport :x . No warning or second chance as it's a vicious and conscious act, not a careless mistake. They can do it once, they can do it again and again. The difference is, they won't let you catch them again.

[moonee]

Hi Blissfulmum, Tks for sharing ur experience. Kind of scary! you did put up with her nonsense for quite a while. Agents are never really honest neither are the biodatas.,, I normally look at the face first. Idnt believe their yrs of experience and their comments.,, you are right, Its a matter of luck cos half the time the agent dnt really know the girls even after they hv interviewed n brought them in. These potential maids may have different expectations coming here and definitely not going to tell the agent that. Spore is such an easy place to come. ..hah! so much talk about cutting down on foreign workes but this does not seem to apply to domestic help. MOM shld do something to ensure that only serious applicants for domestic work are allowed in. Since they cant do tat, then we shld nt be held responsible for the many chnges.

As yr maid speaks gd english, shes hot property for the agent as most sporeans dnt mind taking the minority.
Im only trying out burmese cos there are too many filipinas and indons near me. This may not be a solution to my problems as the maids around here can also influence as long as there is basic english knowledge.
Tks, u have highlighted some important issues of which I will emphasise to my agent as a requirement... :celebrate: I will be calling my aunts agent tomoro but if she does nt have the biodatas then i will probably need refferal

[hquek]

HyperKiasu:

my ex-maid, after about 9mths, once surprised me: \" baby sitter is a baby sitter, maid is maid...\"

the fact was: my two kids were with full-time childcare centre. after we returned home from work, we picked up our two kids and both kids always wanted mummy or daddy to prepare milk, story-telling, playing for/with them. both kids were not close to the maid ever since she joined us....
How could the maid still complained about being a baby-sitter?
......

True in your case. But I guess it's the indo way of things - the cook is the cook, the cleaner is cleaner, and bb-sitter only babies. I'll let her know in SG, we're not as rich as Indo....one maid do all things here.

[hquek]

mathsparks:

I've had 1 filipina add urine to our soyabean and another, filipina also, who spat into my cup of green tea.


It was my mil who noticed the strong smell of urine in her soyabean, while I saw the green tea looking slightly foamy and questioned her. After warning the first one, we retained her, coz dd was too young then. With the 2nd one, we sent her packing straightaway.

So, these cases are real but unavoidable and we are really at the mercy of maids.

Gosh, honestly my first instinct would be to make her drink it. But then, no doubt about it, I rather send her to the police station. sending her home will mean that other pp may be implicated - ie she may well come back and do the same. No police report etc, I doubt that MOM will blacklist her.

That's why I will smell the water before drinking it, and infact, prefer much tap water.....

[hquek]

mathsparks:

minnie2004:

Should you have reported to the police?

We didn't..but we told them that if they didnt come clean, we'll let the police \"interview\" them and test the soyabean/tea.

Just wondering if this happens, and we'd made a report, will they be able to run a test?

I'm sure they will collect the liquids and be able to test for those strange substances. Not sure who will foot the lab fees, but heck, if they dare to do this to me, I'm willing to sponsor the lab test.

[janet88]

If the maid puts urine in our food, we can call the police right ?

It’s as bad as putting soap powder in kids’ milk. This is a case for police to take up.

If maid can do this kind of thing, what else will she do next ? Murder employer and claim diminished responsibility to get off the hook. We may be at the mercy of maids, but not to this extent of enduring urine or soap powder in our food.

[janet88]

LKVM:

Yes janet_lee88 I do agree with u thats why i said wont keep her any second if caught red handed :x

I ever asked MOM if these problematic maids can be black-listed...but answer was NO, unless they were reported to the police.
Super stress to have to smell our food b4 eating.

[janet88]

LKVM:

MOM is surely very linient towards them

Some employers use maids to the max and abuse them, so I pity those maids. However, for the maids who abuse employers, MOM doesn't seem to see that point. We select maids, but maids are also selecting the employers, number of family members in a household and nationality of employer to work for. :x

[hquek]

janet_lee88:

I ever asked MOM if these problematic maids can be black-listed...but answer was NO, unless they were reported to the police.
Super stress to have to smell our food b4 eating.

Comprehend the stress. My maid dun boil water, my mum does. Yet i still feel I have to smell the water first.

Put it this way, when things happen, it's a lot of she says, he says, how is MOM going to decide who is right/wrong? Unless there is evidence, it's a bit hard to blacklist a person.