Me Time!
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FishFingers:
still upset and jealous over mummy pregnant? if she responds to your MIL, then i guess only she can help to talk some sense into #2. she is too sticky to you, so with 2 new meimeis, it is hard to accept.
DD1 and DD2 look almost the same except DD2 facial features are slightly different.
Speaking of DD2,she refused to talk to me when I greeted her and gave vague answers to my questions.She also refused to talk to Mommy and zehzeh too.She did respond to my MIL though.
Tomorrow no school for both of them.Hopefully DD2's anger subsides soon after a night.
maybe you can bring the girls out for ice cream to assure them nothing will change, but you will be handling their homework and coaching since mummy is tired and busy. -
acually i m still dealing with the 'need of sharing mommy' with dd1
situation is so much better now but I dont think it will go away completely. reassurance in the first few years and when she is bigger it will be more on making her understand.. it will be telling her that I need to love both as both are my children. dd1 is the one asking for a meimei when I thought one is enough..and she loves her meimei when meimei still in my womb till not too long after baby is born...but will be worse when baby is more grown up and start to see jiejie getting jealous of her getting mommy's attention..she will learn to want it too story will continue and continue 
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handling sibling rivalry is challenging. when i was expecting #2, my son was just 4. he was very young and didn’t feel any sense of rivalry because he is very close to my parents. during that 1 month confinement, it happened to be his year end holiday (november). we hired a maid then and parents brought him out almost everyday. so he enjoyed the extra attention showered on him. as he grew older, it was necessary to remind him he is now gor gor but he is still very much loved. daughter is a handful, so i had to be strict with her as she tends to bully her sibling. she is close to gor gor because i am strict and won’t put up with her nonsense.
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Super tired yet a long day ahead
ME time this wkend -
MrsKiasu:
i just googled for LDL...can get info on which are the good food and the ones to avoid. I need to use butter substitute to avoid the trans fat..for a moment thought can give myself more freedom on food to eat..looks like still better to control..wont be excessive but think good to keep reminding ourselves.
I already looked, but I'm already eating most of the things recommended! -
janet88:
handling sibling rivalry is challenging. when i was expecting #2, my son was just 4. he was very young and didn't feel any sense of rivalry because he is very close to my parents. during that 1 month confinement, it happened to be his year end holiday (november). we hired a maid then and parents brought him out almost everyday. so he enjoyed the extra attention showered on him. as he grew older, it was necessary to remind him he is now gor gor but he is still very much loved. daughter is a handful, so i had to be strict with her as she tends to bully her sibling. she is close to gor gor because i am strict and won't put up with her nonsense.
one teacher ever raised a concern of dd1 when suggesting meimei take an exam.. i told her that is ok actually. whenever can, i will tell dd1 that we should feel proud of each other..not getting envy, jealous etc. so far, dd1 is quite accepting on this, dd1 will acknowledge that dd2 is not bad (is better than her..shh..coz my dd1 always start things much later than the rest in general
..it is the sharing of mommy part is a bit tricky.
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for me, the tricky part is having a daughter who is a handful. she tends to bully her older sibling and daddy. well, daddy allows her to bully him...so that's his problem
i am closer to my son because he is older and we communicate a lot since he was young. -
slmkhoo:
probably gene or own body functions play a part too.. i went to look at our latest report done less than half year ago. dh ldl/total cholesterol also not good. mine within range and i eat fats since very young.touchwood.MrsKiasu:
i just googled for LDL...can get info on which are the good food and the ones to avoid. I need to use butter substitute to avoid the trans fat..for a moment thought can give myself more freedom on food to eat..looks like still better to control..wont be excessive but think good to keep reminding ourselves.
I already looked, but I'm already eating most of the things recommended!
from the quick reading last night..reducing weight may help too. your bmi ok? -
janet88:
for me, the tricky part is having a daughter who is a handful. she tends to bully her older sibling and daddy. well, daddy allows her to bully him...so that's his problem
i am closer to my son because he is older and we communicate a lot since he was young.
dd1 is bigger in size than dd1 naturally and abit 'chorlor' when they play 'hitting' each other. when I hear one of them complaining coz too much force used..usually dd1 la. we will scold/teach her..yup we used the word bully also when reprimanding..whether real bully or not, i cannot stand bullying..so they know me. -
MrsKiasu:
son is also chor lor when playing with her. but daughter is no better. behind my back, she will be up to some monkey business. when son makes noise, i know she has to be the culprit. i have always been stricter with the younger one. for my boy, i cut him some slack but when he watches too much youtube and sleeps late, i will step in.
dd1 is bigger in size than dd1 naturally and abit 'chorlor' when they play 'hitting' each other. when I hear one of them complaining coz too much force used..usually dd1 la. we will scold/teach her..yup we used the word bully also when reprimanding..whether real bully or not, i cannot stand bullying..so they know me.
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