Difficulties of having a intellectually gifted child
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EN:
But with good memory, the child will help to haunt opppss ... remind that his question went unanswered. Not sure about others, but mine will steadily remind, once in every few days. It's like having a manager chasing me for a project that stretch beyond the dealine. He's not aggressive in reminding but the constant gentle reminder can drive me nuts.
Yeeeah! Tell me about it!
You're SO right there, woman! -
[quote]Just to share...I know of an intellectually advanced kid who does not ask questions but research on many topics by reading massively, then download all the knowledge on the adults and educate them. Is this better?[/quote]
Of course this is better provided there are enough books at home. Otherwise, must wait until I bring to the library or allow him to browse pc under supervision. These days, the questions are less because some he manage to deduce or he is able to find books from school library. -
EN:
[quote]Just to share...I know of an intellectually advanced kid who does not ask questions but research on many topics by reading massively, then download all the knowledge on the adults and educate them. Is this better?
Of course this is better provided there are enough books at home. Otherwise, must wait until I bring to the library or allow him to browse pc under supervision. These days, the questions are less because some he manage to deduce or he is able to find books from school library.[/quote]So the solution is to provide the resources to such kids, then it will relieve you of the pain as you can see it working for you. Since these are advanced kids, you can ask him to hold his questions in a book by jotting it down first in picture or in words, once he gets to library or PC, he can get his answers. Sometimes instant gratification they need is because they want attention and if there is no way to give that kind of attention and you don't want to breed it, transfer it to the notebook first and say that you will review later...at least this still satisfies the attention he requires from you but offline mode.... -
ks2me:
Just to share...I know of an intellectually advanced kid who does not ask questions but research on many topics by reading massively, then download all the knowledge on the adults and educate them. Is this better?
Bingo!
My girl hardly asks us any scientific questions. She will read up & find out for herself. We have plenty of information books at home.
So on & off she will make a comment matter-of-factly while we blink blink 'huh? Oh, this is new info, I didn't know that' :oops: -
Hey thank you all for your contribution and suggestions.
My son is 5. I’m homeschooling my son full time. It is impossible to let him read up and find out for himself. Know why?
Because the info and details he requires are very extensive. The books for kids are out. As for the adult books…i’ll never know what he needs this time or the next time. I can’t be buying specialty books all the time. Plus there is no library at where I am residing now.
For example, I can’t be buying books that explains extensively on explaining the DNA determining offsprings of pure breed cats, mixed breed etc etc…like how a short haired mother & father of certain breeds produces litters of different offsprings…This is only ONE example…there is a different project every other week.
As for the use of internet to get these info…this is where I MUST and HAVE to come in. Even for an adult, it is not an easy task searching for the required info. Plus…he is only 5 … how to type so easily and search for relevant sites? I have to help him right? And also, he is just a young child…it is not right to leave him to search the internet on his own…
Right or not??? Anyone share the same experience as me??? -
ks2me, there’s no more pain for me now unlike one year ago. It’s was just the initial shock when I realize that he is different. I guess homeschooling mum is feeling the heat too. But when I start to understand, it’s easier to manage the expectation. Like the tons of drawings (I was nagging it was a waste of time), the creations (the clutters), the non-stop reading period (I didn’t realize that most young kids don’t sit to read for 3 hours straight) & the questions (it’s from observations of the surrounding) might not be easily derive from the internet or books unless he knows which topic it should derive from.
There’s no need for him to jot down his questions. He remembers things very well. He don’t mind waiting either but he will constantly reminds me. If I think 2 weeks is long enough for the subject to drop, I’ll be surprise, the gentle reminder comes up again while I’m about to enjoy my dinner.
Hi Shylyn, don’t think, I’m ignoring you. Just that I don’t think my kids are stubborn.
Hello again Tamarind. How’s life? I’m extremely busy with less than 5 hours of sleep daily. I’m hesitating to apply for HIL post. Is yours a good move? -
Hi EN
No worries..understandable if u did really ignore my question..can be so when u missed out or too busy to reply. nevertheless, thks for ur reply. Frm your reply, guess it's his character..keeping my fingers crossed that he will outgrow this. :roll:
btw..pardon me frm asking, why the initial pain when u realised ur boy was different? Shouldn't u b happy that he's an inquisitive and possess excellent memory? of cos..i might shared the same feelings as u if i were in ur shoes..
Homeschooling mum
cant comment on ur situation..my boy is much too young to even know how to use a computer..though he very much like to use the mouse..& oh yes, managed to let him explore the Word prog earlier..
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EN:
... There's no need for him to jot down his questions. He remembers things very well. He don't mind waiting either but he will constantly reminds me. If I think 2 weeks is long enough for the subject to drop, I'll be surprise, the gentle reminder comes up again while I'm about to enjoy my dinner...
Sigh... EN, I think I'm the one that's driving my son nuts with MY incessant questions. Everytime he asks me a question, I would tell him the answer and then follow up with 10 other questions about what he could or should have asked as a consequence of that question. Can't help myself, it just eats me as to why people do not ask those questions by themselves. Eg. when he asked me if magnets can be cylindrical, I told him the answer, and then asked him if the poles would be at the edges or on the cylindrical surface, or if it is possible to have spherical magnets, and what would the metal filings show with the magnetic field of a spherical magnet. He would go like... oh... and then forget about researching my questions. That burns me up :x . Am I a bad father? -
ChiefKiasu:
:lol: Looks like Chief got the idea.
Sigh... EN, I think I'm the one that's driving my son nuts with MY incessant questions. Everytime he asks me a question, I would tell him the answer and then follow up with 10 other questions about what he could or should have asked as a consequence of that question. Can't help myself, it just eats me as to why people do not ask those questions by themselves. Eg. when he asked me if magnets can be cylindrical, I told him the answer, and then asked him if the poles would be at the edges or on the cylindrical surface, or if it is possible to have spherical magnets, and what would the metal filings show with the magnetic field of a spherical magnet. He would go like... oh... and then forget about researching my questions. That burns me up :x . Am I a bad father? -
buds:
This is also my number one rule when posting in forums. Except when I am provoked lah, then sometimes really cannot help it. My 忍功 (ability to tolerate) not deep enough, still must 练功.
Like they say, dun have anything good
to say... dun say anything. Hold thy tongueshylyn:
shylyn,I agree w u that 'gifted' is a 'dirty' word now..i guess we can only safety say that a child is intellectually/emotionally (or whatever aspect) advanced compared to his peers instead. I'm glad that we shared a common understanding that it is not a competition of whose kid is smarter/better than the other..forum is for sharing of ideas and experiences..at least in my context..not sure for others ^_^
If I say that my girl has a very beautiful face, or that my boy has a very lovely voice, I am sure that no one will criticize me. But if a mommy says that she thinks her child is intellectually gifted, then she is likely to be attacked.
Beauty, a lovely voice, and high intelligence are all gifts that a child is born with. Why is there a difference ? I don't understand those parents who make such a big deal about the word \"gifted\", which to me, simply means an exceptionally intelligent child.EN:
I agree. But with good memory, the child will help to haunt opppss ... remind that his question went unanswered. Not sure about others, but mine will steadily remind, once in every few days. It's like having a manager chasing me for a project that stretch beyond the dealine. He's not aggressive in reminding but the constant gentle reminder can drive me nuts.[/quote][quote]A gifted child also must know that mommy is very tired after a day's work and cannot do much to help
I call it nagging. My girl loves to nag. She can nag and nag non-stop for a very long time. Like your boy, she is also not aggressive. She knows how to use a cool, calm tone with just a little bit of sadness so that I feel sorry for her ! And she calls me at work to remind me ! Does your boy call you at work ?EN:
EN,Hello again Tamarind. How's life? I'm extremely busy with less than 5 hours of sleep daily. I'm hesitating to apply for HIL post. Is yours a good move?
Please take care. I know how tough it is to work and take care of family at the same time.
I definitely made a good move from my previous job to my current job. Teaching is the easy part, the syllabus is not difficult. The more difficult part is motivating students to study. There are lots of admin work, it is tedious, but not stressful. I would stay that I am much more relaxed mentally compared to my previous job, but physcially it is much more tiring because I need to stand and talk(very loudly) for many hours a day.
I think that my current job is very suitable for mommies who have children, I had a 15% pay cut, but I am already very thankful that I have this job.
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