Club SAHM

[kids_r_innocent]

auntieM:

I guess SAHM has more 'control' cause we are around most of the time except school hours.

I am quite strict with my DS, and heng his turnout so far alright.

Exactly... sometimes i feel we have more \"control\" and in a way, doesn't that leads to \"out of control\" sometimes coz the child maybe too used or take us for granted since we are always by their side (mummies are always the angel while daddy is the bad guy).

Wow... if u are strict with ur DS, dun u have times that there are differences in opinions? How do u resolve that peacefully if u insist that he has to follow ur way?

[sleepy]

minnie2004:

I think there are a lot of SAHMs around like you, highly educated and had a decent job before giving it up for the family. I have an old classmates who was the top in the class all thru secondary school, and later got an MBA from an Ivy League school. In the end, she also became an SAHM after quiting her management consultant job.


However, all is not wasted as according to some research, the mother's education level is the dominant factor in determining a child's achievement.

Hmm...may be interesting to conduct a poll on SAHMs qualifications :cheeky:

[kids_r_innocent]

sleepy:

kids_r_innocent:

Any experience that ur child is \"more sticky\" to u coz u are a SAHM than if u are a FTWM. :!:

Oh yes! dd2 & I are inseparable since her birth. I thoroughly enjoy the attention

How sticky is ur dd2 to u? As for mine, my dd2 (when she was younger) used to cry and throw her trantrum even when i need to take a shower or poo poo in the toilet. She would insist to follow me wherever i go. :x

[jedamum]

i became a sahm only after ds2 is born.

ds1 is more sticky to me than ds2; dh attribute it to that i was often not at home (during his waking hours) when ds1 was a toddler and hence the insecurities.

[kids_r_innocent]

jedamum:

i became a sahm only after ds2 is born.

ds1 is more sticky to me than ds2; dh attribute it to that i was often not at home (during his waking hours) when ds1 was a toddler and hence the insecurities.

Oh.... we are \"in the same boat\". I have also became a SAHM after my dd2 was born.

Tot girls are more sticky to mummy in comparison to boys? How sticky is ur ds1? How old is he now?

[auntieM]

kids_r_innocent

I make sure DS ,understands that some issues will have to be mummy's way.
Communication is important.
Of course other 'relac' issues will let DS have say.
So far no major clash.. ...maybe my 'strict' not up to standard

[sleepy]

kids_r_innocent:

How sticky is ur dd2 to u? As for mine, my dd2 (when she was younger) used to cry and throw her trantrum even when i need to take a shower or poo poo in the toilet. She would insist to follow me wherever i go. :x

Have been a SAHM before I gave birth dd2. So I've been taking care of her since day 1

I carried her throughout her waking moment from baby till she became too heavy for me. When she was toddler, we went on a holiday without her & she 绝食 at my mom's house because she missed me too much. She still follows me everywhere around the house everyday. We spend a good amount of time hugging in between homework. When she's tired or in her tantrum mood, she will say 'I want mommy I want mommy' and doesn't want anyone else to pacify her.

[jedamum]

kids_r_innocent:

Tot girls are more sticky to mummy in comparison to boys? How sticky is ur ds1? How old is he now?

he is P2.
he needs me to accompany him until he fall asleep; when he wakes up at night, it upsets him if i am not around. or in the middle of the night when he wakes up, he will crawl over to my side and sleep at the other end of my pillow.
when we go out, he holds my hand even though the place is not crowded.
he likes me to sayang him. he said that he missed me in school.
guess he missed out on all those earlier and now is pay back time for me.
i also blame it on our living conditions cos we are still co-sleeping due to insufficient bedrooms; things are certainly going to change when he gets his own room when we move out from our ILs place 3rd Qtr of this yr.

[jedamum]

sleepy:

When she's tired or in her tantrum mood, she will say 'I want mommy I want mommy' and doesn't want anyone else to pacify her.

woohoo...my ds1 does that too.
but i try not to get too cuddly at his age now cos he is after all a boy....

[sleepy]

jedamum:

he likes me to sayang him. he said that he missed me in school.
guess he missed out on all those earlier and now is pay back time for me.

Sounds like my dd1

Sometimes I felt like being stalked. The moment I step away from dd1's side, she will scream 'mommy!'

At least my dd2 is sticky in an adorable way. She can still do homework independently in her room while I'm hanging clothes in the kitchen. My dd1 cannot function if I'm out of her sight. Perhaps immensely jealous of the close bond I shared with dd2

How do you deal with siblings rivalry?