2018 PSLE Discussions & Strategies (Born in 2006)
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laughingcat:
来来。。。。I am first in line righhhhtttt...lee_yl:
[quote=\"Estéema\"]lee_yl
Watch it! Before a crowd lined to get 4 numbers fr DH. You collect queue pymt. You want a helper to record yr takes?
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I'm sure DH of lee_yl will hv long queues & enuf to share with you laughingcat! :rotflmao: -
Estéema:
Any chance get fr seniors or enquire fr school for booklist?[/quote]We randomly picked some textbooks and sec 1 assessment books from Popular the other day. But not sure if we bought the correct stuff as we didn’t have the booklist.
I don’t have the sec 1 booklist yet, so i’m not sure what to get...lee_yl:
[quote=\"janet88\"]
have you thought of getting some of the books from popular? whatever is not available get from school.
we haven't bought textbooks for daughter yet...the past few weeks have been hectic and bookshop was opened only on certain days in november.
Anyway, we still have make a trip back on 22nd Dec.
OT: Do you know if for HMT in sec 1, does the kid need to stay back after school or it is covered during school hours? -
yl,
looks like you have to wait till orientation day to get books.
in the meantime, your #2 is going to be sitting for psle next year…switch the focus to her.
let #1 enjoy herself, she truly deserves a good holiday. -
janet88:
Trying... But...yl,
looks like you have to wait till orientation day to get books.
in the meantime, your #2 is going to be sitting for psle next year...switch the focus to her.
let #1 enjoy herself, she truly deserves a good holiday.
Ok, ok, noted.
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lee_yl:
Trying... But...janet88:
yl,
looks like you have to wait till orientation day to get books.
in the meantime, your #2 is going to be sitting for psle next year...switch the focus to her.
let #1 enjoy herself, she truly deserves a good holiday. Ok, ok, noted.
Janet,
Think lee_yl is trying to xiam as long as possible. :evil: -
Esteema
You are so disciplined with your DS no wonder he’s got such good results…
Your revision schedule is awesome! -
Estéema:
yl is stressing herself.
Janet,
Think lee_yl is trying to xiam as long as possible. :evil: -
imp75, 谢谢!
A lot depends on how cooperative our child is and that's where I believe is not easy for most parents. DS is a creative spirit and tough to get him to do stuff that are \"boring\" to him. Thankfully, he's got a competitive spirit and that helps coz I used that occasionally to spur him on.
Was just chatting with a KSP mum yday on her struggles and how to handle her child and realised it's not easy to advised. Getting that good results require so much more than hitting the books, following schedule, having best books, etc. It takes relationship building over the years and for the child to learn year by year the need to balance their time with work, play and rests.
I often find the greatest challenge for parents of today is the gadgets & screen contact time. How to manage that desire w/o pushing the child away fr you.
When our kids are very young, they're learning & absorbing everything ard them. When they start walking and made achievements, they'll want to try what the other kid was doing climbing up and hanging on the monkey bar. Most parents do watch closely but some might hv missed that moment when child wants to try jump off like the other child, coz we were chatting with other parents. I guess I'm the sort that watches so ever closely, evaluating every step of the way if it's time for me to intervene & why I shld or not. So, shld I let DC play screen games? I chose not to, but only 15 min on weekends. Confiscate when hmwk not done, or disobedience. They learn quickly to obey authorities. I gave in (only a little) not coz I wanna pamper but I know many kids ard him and it's hard to fend off these temptations. Also, he don't feel deprived. I succeeded not bcoz I'm skillful but coz I started when he was very young and easier to persuade.
Ano struggle parents hv today is with providing the child. As a society, we've become so much more affluent and parents desire the best for our kids. Problem is what to give and how to help our kids manage that plentiful of gifts and resources! Some parents give w/o rules or boundaries and I was faced with a parent who gave everything without holding back, and now have child who indulged in games and refuse to study or do any work. In fact, this parent admitted the child climbed over her.
I shared with her how I delayed giving him too much screen time & negotiate terms of use. Learnt this thing called \"Delayed Gratification\" during my training days fr a Guru in late 80s!
My personal take is, it's not the ends that matters (of course as parents we celebrate with our child for his achievements), but it's the process of learning self-discipline, self-management, managing desires, managing time, etc.
I often imagine if my child behave in a certain manner today, what wld it translate to when he become an adult. Do I want a bossy fella? No, I don't like that kinda colleagues or superior - I'll quit! Do I want my staff or colleagues to procrastinate and not deliver? No, we'll feel frustrated not having a team member doing their part.
To hv a child with good discipline don't happen overnite. We need to nurture but nurturing is not giving indiscriminately. As parents, we need to maintain that authority figure. That's tricky too. DH and I learnt over the years too as a parent. DH used to just give when kids asks. I had to hv nite chats that DH shld asks more qns why kids need this/that and how they're going use it, etc. Take a recent example : DC wants a movie. DH gave :moneyflies: w/o thot. I then asks if DC wld like to invite his frds along and bingo. We had 3 kids enjoying an afternn out. I explain it's always good to take the chance to build relationships and moments shared will multiply enjoyment.
Every year, I target one trip out as a family to 1st world country and one trip to a 3rd world country. Our kids had been on mission trips with us since age 4. They learn to share. Our 1st we hit the supermkt to get tins of milk-powder, rice, oil, etc. DC pulled me out & push the trolley away, saying \"mummy, don't go crazy shopping\"!
I had to hold that little hand and instruct him to help, bcoz many kids w/o daddy/mummy waiting for these. On one trip, midst of doing craft with the orphans, DC needed the toilet. We passed thro the orphans room, he asks \"what place is this?\". I told him it's their dorm where they sleep. Innocent kids said \"no, it doesn't hv any bolster or pillow\". I said bcoz they don't hv parents to buy them, so they sleep on empty beds and mats, whilst my dear child always asking for this/that soft-toys filling up 60% of bed. It's exposure and lesson that impacts them the diff of haves and have nots. Immediately thereafter, DC chose only 2 plushies and never asked for new ones since.
So, it's really a learning journey. Help our child to manage themselves well vis-a-vis ppl around and the wider world. They don't live alone, much less live alone with their favourite gadgets. It's so lonely right?
Don't mind my long sharing. Just jotting down abit of memoir before dementia. -
Loved your sharing Esteema. It is so true. We have so much to learn from you. My ds has no hp, told him will only get one after psle next year, delayed gratification is such a wonder, the child learns and will appreciate the thing more when they finally get it. Recently he has been asking for Ps/Xbox and told us that he will have discipline. I am in a dilemma as I know that he has the discipline and being a sahm I can always control but very worried about the distraction. . ANY advices?
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Esteema, thank you for sharing :thankyou:
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