Me Time!
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janet88:
ammonite:
To be honest, now that I have gone through motherhood, I would encourage my kids to start a family at a younger age. Start earlier (with family support) and you can enjoy the fruits of your labour sooner.
I would like my kids to be married young too...at least their kids are in their teens when they reach 50. marrying late and starting family later is going to be tough to adjust. energy level is just not there.
my kids will no longer be teens when I reach 50.
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MrsKiasu:
Having kids at older age has its pros too, imo. Say when we are old, our kids still relatively young. Having more time to ourselves before kids come along..we could have more dreams when we were younger, I guess. One thing I find quite true, we have to keep up with our kids, cannot 'collapse'
The only pro I can think of is having time to devote to making money or building up skill set and career before the kids come, such that after they arrive, you have greater leeway to create your own work life balance with some family support. -
vinegar:
I m in early 40s but started to worry of getting old....time passes so fast. Yes indeed..our children grow, we oso grow old. Recently keep thinking abt my teen yrs, the crazy stuff that i did..climbing over the wall to sneak into the school, sneaking into condo secretly fr night swim, backpacking in europe, pubbing..etc.. that time did not need to worry fr terrorist, did not need to worry that i might appear in youtube fr the outrageous thing tat i did.. When young, not worried so much...did not think much of consequences
Recently i think about my teen yrs too. but realised that i couldnt remember much. my life really only got interesting after meeting dh and having kids. because such a good girl, non risk taker (think too much of consequences) and always listen to my parents. sometimes, interesting thing really do happen when you break the rules once in a while. going out with dh-then-bf was those time when i chose to break the rule...
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ammonite:
That is a good \"pro\", I feel. Some financial security from savings (assuming the young people are prudent and save) is a good cushion, and having concrete skills, work experience and some maturity makes for a better parent too. It also makes it more possible for the mother to return to the workforce if she has taken time off and slowed down her career during the period when kids were young. If parents are too young and immature, it's also not a good thing, and some may feel trapped if they are thrust into parenthood sooner than they would like.MrsKiasu:
Having kids at older age has its pros too, imo. Say when we are old, our kids still relatively young. Having more time to ourselves before kids come along..we could have more dreams when we were younger, I guess. One thing I find quite true, we have to keep up with our kids, cannot 'collapse'
The only pro I can think of is having time to devote to making money or building up skill set and career before the kids come, such that after they arrive, you have greater leeway to create your own work life balance with some family support. -
Jedamum, you got me thinking. I think my life became more boring after I met DH. He likes pubbing while I like clubbing, so when we are together, we can only watch movies or go to the museums or gym or travel. Very clean living. :rotflmao:
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slmkhoo:
It is a good pro! The money is decent and paves a good path for the future.
That is a good \"pro\", I feel. Some financial security from savings (assuming the young people are prudent and save) is a good cushion, and having concrete skills, work experience and some maturity makes for a better parent too. It also makes it more possible for the mother to return to the workforce if she has taken time off and slowed down her career during the period when kids were young. If parents are too young and immature, it's also not a good thing, and some may feel trapped if they are thrust into parenthood sooner than they would like.ammonite:
The only pro I can think of is having time to devote to making money or building up skill set and career before the kids come, such that after they arrive, you have greater leeway to create your own work life balance with some family support. -
I think that when we have our kids young, our energy level is higher. I had my elder one in late twenties and younger one in mid thirties. I can feel the difference.
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ammonite:
lucky you.
my kids will no longer be teens when I reach 50.
my younger one will be 18...probably facing an empty nest. but the good thing is truly ME TIME. -
Cloud Cloud:
I think that when we have our kids young, our energy level is higher. I had my elder one in late twenties and younger one in mid thirties. I can feel the difference.
same here. :hi5:
had my son at 28...daughter at 32. it's mentally exhausting to handle younger one because she has a learning disability. -
I have my kids early and late 20s.
Late 20s and possibly early 30s is a good time. Older parents have more say (than grandparents) over their kids upbringing than younger parents as their own parents may think they too young to be effective parents. Also perhaps most older parents are less reliant on grandparents (grandparents too old, older parents more financially able to go single income etc) help than younger parents, so lesser conflict in kids upbringing. But con is, older parents need to care for young kids and possibly their aging parents - sandwiched.
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