Me Time!
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slmkhoo:
Agree with slmkhoo. I have one with a larger than normal appetite for risk and adventure. I have to temper it and allow her to explore and satiate that appetite somewhat, when she is still young, in a controlled environment. If I do not allow just because I don't have her sense of adventure or appetite for risk, when she is older and more independent, she will seek these thrills on her own without my knowledge and may not take the necessary precautions.janet88:
yes, the cave is a dangerous place...not a playground. even if the boys had gone in a few times, it doesn't mean they will be safe which is proven in this incident. so I hope those people who said Singaporean kids have no sense of adventure take back their words.
I suppose you mean that we should encourage our kids to choose only safe activities and not take part in anything risky? But if so, then won't that make our society as a whole much weaker? And if those who are adventurous are not allowed to explore and work on their skills, then when accidents like this incident happen, there will be no-one to rescue those in trouble. These divers and cavers must have taken part in lots of adventurous activities and general exploring in their early years even before they did their actual training. We can't avoid all risks although it will vary from person to person depending on ability and risk appetite.
Speaking from experience lah. I went bungee jumping, sky diving, tried scuba diving, etc, the moment I had that freedom. All without my parents' knowledge. No caving though since I don't like small enclosed places. Growing up, I was not even allowed to learn to swim nor cycle. I learned to swim on my own at 17/18yrs old, through friends, not even proper swimming lessons. Trying to learn to cycle resulted in a busted ankle, because I was never taught to check the condition of the bike before getting on, still don't know how to cycle now. -
What is a calculated risk?
Many did jetboat ride, bungy jumps, sky diving etc and still alive.
Many are killed while crossing the road. -
Stepping into a lift these days can also result in injuries. Been hearing reports of lifts suddenly dropping a few levels. Good thing I live on the 1st level and my offices are mostly on the ground floor. :razz:
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really great news that all are safe! I am never the adventurous type so on certain things I need to tame dd1. dd2 is quite the worrisome type.
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It was reported in NZ that the coach may face charges!
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I did cliff skydiving and rafting (and I can’t swim!). Regretted that I never did bungee jumping when all my bones were still in prime condition. I got injured when skiing despite weekly practice. Will I ski again? I’d do it again in a heartbeat!
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kids learnt to swim in school and hubby taught them to ride a bicycle.
risk appetite depends on individual. -
I won't put sky diving and bungee jumping in the same category. One requires skill, the other just .. well, gravity and someone else's ability to measure.
Everyone has their own element. It was interesting to note that one of the cave divers said the last thing you want is adrenaline while doing it. Cave divers have to remain very calm, it is not for thrill seekers in the traditional sense. -
Now that my kids are bigger, my husband and I took turns to take one day (weekend) off per month so that we can have our time off. We do need a break sometimes.
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all’s well ends well. Lotsa teachable moments from this saga for our kids.
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