Me Time!

[starlight1968sg]

ME time yesterday.

I went to library, IMM, JEM/Westgate. Despite being a Monday, these places are crowded.

ME time today.
Probably remain at home bec once am out, I will tend to buy this and buy that.

[lee_yl]

Good morning ladies, some bad news. Seems like the GR Boy’s owner didn’t register after we keyed in the microchip ID into the pets register, thus, it couldn’t be found. No news from SPCA and AVA either.


Perhaps this piece of news caused me to have disturbed sleep last night as I am now facing the real issue whether to adopt the dog or rehome it.

I had a bad dream, I dreamt that the dog passed on when DH went to wake him up for its morning walk. Does this mean that I subconsciously don’t want the dog? Gosh...

To cut a long story short, our family loves GR Boy (except MIL who is currently staying w us) but DH and I are not ready to let him roam around the house so he is kept at the balcony. To me, that is already animal cruelty because Singapore weather is super hot.

I am thinking of giving it to the uncle auntie staying nearby as auntie said GR Boy could stay in her garden so we will still get to see him everyday. :gloomy:
But GR Boy now waves its tail whenever he sees us approaching him. Though he is lazy to move around, whenever we release the leash, he would quickly stand up to follow us, I think he is traumatized by being abandoned. We pity him. Now tell me, how not to get upset.

Well, I should stop posting such depressing news here. ME TIME thread should be a happy thread.

:sad: :sad:

[Fried chicken]

lee_yl:

Good morning ladies, some bad news. Seems like the GR Boy’s owner didn’t register after we keyed in the microchip ID into the pets register, thus, it couldn’t be found. No news from SPCA and AVA either.


Perhaps this piece of news caused me to have disturbed sleep last night as I am now facing the real issue whether to adopt the dog or rehome it.

I had a bad dream, I dreamt that the dog passed on when DH went to wake him up for its morning walk. Does this mean that I subconsciously don’t want the dog? Gosh...

To cut a long story short, our family loves GR Boy (except MIL who is currently staying w us) but DH and I are not ready to let him roam around the house so he is kept at the balcony. To me, that is already animal cruelty because Singapore weather is super hot.

I am thinking of giving it to the uncle auntie staying nearby as auntie said GR Boy could stay in her garden so we will still get to see him everyday. :gloomy:
But GR Boy now waves its tail whenever he sees us approaching him. Though he is lazy to move around, whenever we release the leash, he would quickly stand up to follow us, I think he is traumatized by being abandoned. We pity him. Now tell me, how not to get upset.

Well, I should stop posting such depressing news here. ME TIME thread should be a happy thread.

:sad: :sad:

You should definitely do what's best for your family, but it sounds like he loves you already. It always amazes me how resilient animals are, and even after being abandoned by his previous family, he is still able to trust so quickly. With regards to the house, is it possible to partition off an area for him? For example, the laundry? When we got our puppies, we put a huge play pen in the middle of our lounge with toys and bedding and water etc and they stayed in there when we weren't home until we deemed them trustworthy enough to be let out to roam the house. But if that's not a viable option, then a small area inside where he is allowed might work, if you have one. If your balcony has shade, then it may be OK, just as long as he's not in direct hot sun for long periods and he has fresh water and a comfy place to rest.

[MrsKiasu]

That’s is alright lee yl. I think I will feel what you feeling now tio if I were in your shoes though I will doubt that will ever happen in the first place as I couldn’t bring myself near most of the animals…guess that is because we human and the dog have feelings…to take up an unexpected responsibility is not easy. I always imagine that taking care of a dog is more hard work than a child…just me la. How about putting down the worries of needing to care for GR boy till the end (I guess that the main worry)…you all enjoy each other company at the same time open up for adoption by other family that comes along the way…but till that day comes, the emotional attachment would be rather strong then…by then probably you can decide if you really want to keep GR boy…you will be more prepared. Meanwhile, GR boy is lucky to have a home. See if able to get some shade for him to rest under and away from the hot sun…need drink more water like human?

[janet88]

hi yl,

it looks like the dog has fallen in love with your family after saving him.
I understand why you are in a dilemma now. if you put him outside, it will be very hot but having him in the house will make the floor sticky. your MIL doesn’t stay with you all the time, so it’s really nothing to do with her…besides your hubby has fallen in love with the dog too. if you adopt the dog, he will solve the problem with his mum. maybe she will go to your place lesser.

[Funz]

lee_yl:

Good morning ladies, some bad news. Seems like the GR Boy’s owner didn’t register after we keyed in the microchip ID into the pets register, thus, it couldn’t be found. No news from SPCA and AVA either.


Perhaps this piece of news caused me to have disturbed sleep last night as I am now facing the real issue whether to adopt the dog or rehome it.

I had a bad dream, I dreamt that the dog passed on when DH went to wake him up for its morning walk. Does this mean that I subconsciously don’t want the dog? Gosh... Did you feel relieved or sad in your dream? Could be that you are afraid of losing him cos your logical self keeps saying rehome him but your emotional self is already vested.

To cut a long story short, our family loves GR Boy (except MIL who is currently staying w us) but DH and I are not ready to let him roam around the house so he is kept at the balcony. To me, that is already animal cruelty because Singapore weather is super hot. If you do decide to keep him, your MIL will definitely fall 'victim' to his charm. If your balcony is shaded, should be no issues. You balcony definitely beats him being out on the streets

I am thinking of giving it to the uncle auntie staying nearby as auntie said GR Boy could stay in her garden so we will still get to see him everyday. :gloomy: Seems to me your emo self is ahead in this tug of war. Else you would have jumped at this good opportunity to give him a good home.
But GR Boy now waves its tail whenever he sees us approaching him. Though he is lazy to move around, whenever we release the leash, he would quickly stand up to follow us, I think he is traumatized by being abandoned. We pity him. Now tell me, how not to get upset.

Well, I should stop posting such depressing news here. ME TIME thread should be a happy thread.

:sad: :sad:

Don't be sad. Be proud of yourself, your husband and you kids. Like I said. It takes a lot of courage and compassion to bring home a large stray. Honestly speaking even though I have a GR and love him to bits, I will hesitate to bring in a stray. Whatever your decision, you did something wonderful. If you decide to rehome him, you gave him the chance to find a loving home and for that family to experience the joy and love that he can give. If you decide to keep him, I am sure he will bring so much love and joy for your whole family.

[ammonite]

Lee, don’t stop posting. We are vested in your journey with Golden Boy too.

Whatever you decide, you have already given him a precious second chance.

[ngl2010]

Lee, my mom didn't like it when my niece brought home a dog. Now my brother's family has 2 dogs and sometimes I feel that my mom loves her favourite dog more than she loves me! I don't like dogs too but I also had fallen in love with one of my niece's dogs. I think your MIL will fall in love with GR boy too


I saw your balcony is big. I have seen a ground floor home that re-positioned their balcony door to make their balcony bigger for their dog. I think GR boy will be happy living in your balcony since it is already big.

[janet88]

if keeping doggie adds to your stress, then you have a neighbour who is willing to take him in and your family can still see him.

but if you are mentally willing to keep him, your hubby and kids will be very happy…especially the dog who can sense the love given. it’s a decision only you can make because at the end of the day, the person looking after him will be yourself.

[Funz]

ngl2010:

Lee, my mom didn't like it when my niece brought home a dog. Now my brother's family has 2 dogs and sometimes I feel that my mom loves her favourite dog more than she loves me! I don't like dogs too but I also had fallen in love with one of my niece's dogs. I think your MIL will fall in love with GR boy too


I saw your balcony is big. I have seen a ground floor home that re-positioned their balcony door to make their balcony bigger for their dog. I think GR boy will be happy living in your balcony since it is already big.

My mum was furious when I brought back our 1st puppy. But in the end she was the one bringing it out to show it off to everyone and cooking fresh food for it. 1 drumstick will always be missing from the chicken because it is saved for the dog.

My aunt also was upset when her new DIL came with a dog. Before long she is talking non-stop about how smart the dog is and how loving the dog is more rewarding than all the effort she put in her son and grandchildren.