In-law problems?

[Andaiz]

janet_lee88:

My mum said the same thing too...she said if kids are filial, no need to have Mothers' Day to show it. It's a daily thing, not annual event to be filial.

DesertWind, janet_lee88, our mothers seem to be cut from the same cloth leh! My mum said the same... :celebrate: but we celebrated with grill/steamboat at my place nonetheless! Simple but fun!

[hercules]

Mums r WOMEN and most women ‘say one thing and mean the other’.

[janet88]

With our own mothers, we can say ANYTHING…well, maybe sometimes they do get mad but will tell me lah. But with MIL, there is no way, I can have a heart-to-heart chat with her. Say anything wrong or even if not referring to her, sure DIE.

[Andaiz]

Haha, Hercules, this is something you'd need to understand - saying the truth to mother, :love: it's called sharing.....saying the truth to MIL, no matter how veiled? You liao oredi loh! :stupid: :stupid:

[janet88]

Andaiz:

Haha, Hercules, this is something you'd need to understand - saying the truth to mother, :love: it's called sharing.....saying the truth to MIL, no matter how veiled? You liao oredi loh! :stupid: :stupid:

You can have a heart-to-heart talk with mum anytime, but NOT with MIL. They are not the ones who can 讲心 with you...deep down they will laugh. Not only that, they will spread your misfortune with the rest of her relatives.

[auntieM]

janet_lee88:

Andaiz:

Haha, Hercules, this is something you'd need to understand - saying the truth to mother, :love: it's called sharing.....saying the truth to MIL, no matter how veiled? You liao oredi loh! :stupid: :stupid:

You can have a heart-to-heart talk with mum anytime, but NOT with MIL. They are not the ones who can 讲心 with you...deep down they will laugh. Not only that, they will spread your misfortune with the rest of her relatives.

So so true ladies.. ...
Just had a meal with my MIL yesterday, she so happy relating relatives' misfortune.. ...

[janet88]

In front of my SIL, she acts all demure bcos my SIL is eldest DIL and the fiercest. But with me, she can’t wait to swallow me. My mum tells me to tolerate her, since hardly see her. Really terrible and scheming.

[Andaiz]

janet_lee88:

In front of my SIL, she acts all demure bcos my SIL is eldest DIL and the fiercest. But with me, she can't wait to swallow me. My mum tells me to tolerate her, since hardly see her. Really terrible and scheming.

janet_lee88, I'm the older SIL but I've been brought up like you - respect elders, filial (I hope lah!). And taught well by mummy to tolerate etc....
My SIL shouts at her and show \"colours\" loh. :stupid: :stupid: so I've learnt to tolerate since I hardly see her. Just this weekend, she had a shouting match with my DH and he was really livid! When he recounted what they argued about, I was like :!:. It's very sad that she likes to spread rumours and report all the wrong stuff to others, causing division. I know now why my SIL made sure that my BIL left Church to her CHurch....sigh!

[janet88]

My SIL is the eldest DIL…very fierce and not the type you can afford to offend. To me, I just tolerate the old ones bcos I don’t want to suffer retribution for being mean to old folks. Just keep arms length and don’t think about them lah…besides I’m so busy with my 2 kids, how to care ?

[kuzco]

auntieM:

janet_lee88:

You can have a heart-to-heart talk with mum anytime, but NOT with MIL. They are not the ones who can 讲心 with you...deep down they will laugh. Not only that, they will spread your misfortune with the rest of her relatives.

So so true ladies.. ...
Just had a meal with my MIL yesterday, she so happy relating relatives' misfortune.. ...

If she's spreading other relatives' misfortunes to you, can you imagine what she is telling others about you?!? I have always felt uneasy when I hear such stories from MIL. That is why I am usually quiet towards her. Don't want her to blab to others about me. Well, she will probably be saying to others I'm such a gobblock, always keeping quiet.