How do I minimise the damage my SPOILT nephew has on my kids
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Hi,
I have a 5 year old nephew who has been spoilt badly and has turned out to be a very spoilt brat who is rude and loud. His parents have never taken him in hand and whenever I'm around, I'm the one who disciplines him. I have two DDs who plays with him whenever we go to PIL place. After we go home, I noticed my DD1 trying to imitate his loud and rude actions. My DD2 doesn't like his loud and rude behaviour and will avoid him as much as possible but she likes to copy DD1 so damage is still being done to my girls.
I try my best to avoid going to my PILs when he's there but I can't do that all the time. I reprimand my nephew all the time to the point where I think his parents think I hate him. I don't hate him just his actions and I can't blame him for it. His parents are the reason why he is like that.
As much as I can, i try to teach my girls the right behaviour. But whenever we meet up with him, i have to start certain lessons all over again. Btw, my DD1 is 2.5 years and my DD2 is 1.5 years so they are very impressionable.
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Here's the BAD news
The same thing will happen over and over again when your DDs go to Childcare \\ Kindergarten and Primary School. From time to time, kids will mimic each other's rowdy behaviour for fun.
To me, constant reminders & explanations what is desirable behaviour and what is not, are necessary. Perhaps that's how parents become so naggy.
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tankee:
True true. I'm constantly telling my son what his friend say is not right/not correct etc. Can die....I don't know why his best friend must be the resident Beng with a few older Brothers....can pengz.
The same thing will happen over and over again when your DDs go to Childcare \\ Kindergarten and Primary School. From time to time, kids will mimic each other's rowdy behaviour for fun.tankee:
Yup yup. theoretically if they know this is undesired behaviour, they may not want to exhibit such if they want pp to like them. I think for girls easier...for boys, like mine, they will imitate just to irritate the hell out of me.To me, constant reminders & explanations what is desirable behaviour and what is not, are necessary. Perhaps that's how parents become so naggy.
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tankee:
Perhaps that's how parents become so naggy.
Think you just described me . Got so many more years to go some more 
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Imagine my toddler gal has now learnt to spit on the floor from her friends. I have been telling her not to, it is bad and illegal to spit on the floor. Sometimes she listens sometimes she would do it just to irk me. Bad things are so easily picked up…I ever asked her why don’t you pick up the good traits from your friends instead of all the bad ones…She never answered me.
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My nephew was using ‘f*’ word with my boy when he was younger too…
I don’t scold him, I just repeat what he told my son loudly and take my boy away…
Avoid contact and nag nag nag away…bo bian
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meeyah:
Imagine my toddler gal has now learnt to spit on the floor from her friends. I have been telling her not to, it is bad and illegal to spit on the floor. Sometimes she listens sometimes she would do it just to irk me. Bad things are so easily picked up...I ever asked her why don't you pick up the good traits from your friends instead of all the bad ones....She never answered me.
When my DS repeated the spitting and rolling eye, he kena 'red ang pow' and has never done it again up to now.. in my presence that is.
It a slap, but not those that send one flying against wall hor...
Juz me $0.02
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auntieM:
Wow, I don't think I would ever dare to try that... Have not lay a finger on her yet. My gal is also very petty ji 4 chow 2.
When my DS repeated the spitting and rolling eye, he kena 'red ang pow' and has never done it again up to now.. in my presence that is.
It a slap, but not those that send one flying against wall hor...
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meeyah:
One of the rare few times I just have to.. He spit at granny and made face :x
Wow, I don't think I would ever dare to try that... Have not lay a finger on her yet. My gal is also very petty ji 4 chow 2.auntieM:
When my DS repeated the spitting and rolling eye, he kena 'red ang pow' and has never done it again up to now.. in my presence that is.
It a slap, but not those that send one flying against wall hor...
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Thanks all,
Haiyah... Must really accept the fact.
Both my family and my DH family say I very fierce one. All my naughty nieces or nephews have been :spank: by me. I'm very thick-skinned, not scared to shoot parents especially when they come over my house. But this nephew ah... :stupid: :stupid: :stupid: parents are more thick-skinned than me :frustrated. I :nunchuk: him infront of his parents and they didn't even bat an eye. Feel like :pokeeye: Relatives rarely invite their family to outings and all the other nieces and nephew avoid playing with him. Yes, he is that bad!
Okay, must accept fact that I am going to be a naggy mum. Repetition is the key to instilling good behaviour. I don't know what to expect when they go to CC this June.
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