All about Cancer

[ngl2010]

I have a relative who passed away from brain cancer at age 31. When the cancer progressed, she became disabled and blind. This is on top of the extreme pain in her head. I think it is better for her to pass away than to endure all the pains. But the one thing that I was (and still am) angry is that her husband remarried 4 months after her demise. Can’t even wait until a year later! :mad:

[hercules]

ngl2010:

But the one thing that I was (and still am) angry is that her husband remarried 4 months after her demise. Can’t even wait until a year later! :mad:

I have two close friends (one male and one female) re-married within 12 months after their respective spouse passed on around 40 yo (both also cancer). Both families each has kids aged from 6 years - 12 years.

My both friends inherited millions of insurance dollars and other assets, remarried, shifted to bigger houses, and lived happily ever after so far (both have new borns within a year after re-married).

I am looking at the re-marriages from a more positive light (esp when compared to those who go into depression for a long long time after they lose their spouses / children (I have another friend who never seems to get over losing her husband in a traffic accident when her kids were young and her kids don't seem to be able to grow more 'naturally' as they have to continuously pay attention to their mum's swinging moods, constantly worry about whether their mum will suicide etc. One of her sons grow to be a super 宅男 with very good academic results but minimal social time coz he wants to 'jaga' his mum according to his other siblings.)

Life's lemons - depending on what one wants to make with those lemons.

[MrsKiasu]

Dont think I will want the living spouse to live in depression but to remarry within 4 mths or even within 1 year, isn't that too hurry :sad:

[starlight1968sg]

ngl2010:

I have a relative who passed away from brain cancer at age 31. When the cancer progressed, she became disabled and blind. This is on top of the extreme pain in her head. I think it is better for her to pass away than to endure all the pains. But the one thing that I was (and still am) angry is that her husband remarried 4 months after her demise. Can’t even wait until a year later! :mad:

What is the purpose of life?

[MrsKiasu]

The more we got to feel thankful, having the opportunity to see the sunrise…

[ngl2010]

I encourage DH to remarry if I pass away earlier than him. I have even told DS to support his father to remarry if I die first. But I have a condition. DH can only remarry after I pass away at least 1 year. I feel if he remarries within 1 year, it means he doesn’t love me enough and/or I am insignificant to him and/or he does not respect me enough to even wait for 1 year (I am not even asking him to wait for too long. Isn’t 1 year reasonable?) and/or he can’t wait to get rid of me. An unembalmed adult normally takes eight to twelve years to decompose to a skeleton. I am only asking for 1 year. Is it too much to wait for 1 year?


Anyway, each person has its own opinion and value. To each his own.

[ChiefKiasu]

hercules:

I have a close friend also gonna die of cancer. He is close to 60 yo, single, and used to be a successful person in the arts and fashion scene...


Now his 80+ old aged parents are supporting and caring for him....

Doc said he has about 6 months to live (and now 3 months had passed)...

Not much fear in him actually except his regret of not having bought the pte shield...

Well, that's life with many curve balls...

A very sad story. I can imagine how devastated his parents would be. When life is on a counter it changes a person's perspective. I had an auntie who had terminal stomach cancer who decided to stay home to meet her end. I was shocked by how thin she was but was comforted by her seeming acceptance of her fate.

[ChiefKiasu]

starlight1968sg:

What is the purpose of life?

You never study enough lor.

[MrsKiasu]

ngl2010:

I encourage DH to remarry if I pass away earlier than him. I have even told DS to support his father to remarry if I die first. But I have a condition. DH can only remarry after I pass away at least 1 year. I feel if he remarries within 1 year, it means he doesn't love me enough and/or I am insignificant to him and/or he does not respect me enough to even wait for 1 year (I am not even asking him to wait for too long. Isn't 1 year reasonable?) and/or he can't wait to get rid of me. An unembalmed adult normally takes eight to twelve years to decompose to a skeleton. I am only asking for 1 year. Is it too much to wait for 1 year?


Anyway, each person has its own opinion and value. To each his own.

never really gave it a thought..if to think it now..I hope dh can just have a woman outside when the kids still young..I dont want my kids to need to 'accept' another situation :sad:

[sharonkhoo]

ngl2010:

I encourage DH to remarry if I pass away earlier than him. I have even told DS to support his father to remarry if I die first. But I have a condition. DH can only remarry after I pass away at least 1 year. I feel if he remarries within 1 year, it means he doesn't love me enough and/or I am insignificant to him and/or he does not respect me enough to even wait for 1 year (I am not even asking him to wait for too long. Isn't 1 year reasonable?) and/or he can't wait to get rid of me. An unembalmed adult normally takes eight to twelve years to decompose to a skeleton. I am only asking for 1 year. Is it too much to wait for 1 year?


Anyway, each person has its own opinion and value. To each his own.

I don't really expect any particular time period. I also encourage my husband to remarry if he finds someone else he wants to marry if I go first. Another way to look at a quick remarriage is that he must have appreciated married life so much that he wants that again, so I must have done something right.