Me Time!

[Estéema]

MyPillow:

MrsKiasu:

[quote=\"Estéema\"]Happy Valentines! Off to aValentines cruise later & to celebrate bday onboard. Hope to get more me time away fr the hustle & bustle & enjoy the diff programs on board.

:rahrah: so romantic :love:

I chked my msg havent got any wishes from dh...hmm..next time can buy whole durian liao :lol:

mrs ks, hahahah is it his likes or dislikes

esteema- then your ds goes to whose place while the both of u go love sailing[/quote]They’re independent alr. Leave them home. Must let go so they grow wings lor.

[janet88]

ChiefKiasu:

I've just passed 53 and already feel old. I don't know how you guys can feel middle aged beyond the 50s. Old means old lor... lol.

sweetie, men at 53 are not considered old...I would say men get old from 60s.
I will be 47 this year. metabolism has dropped.

[starlight1968sg]

janet88:

i'm stressed because i'm always watching out for time. daughter wants time out, but her workload is so heavy.

this could be a trigger for this dumb eczema, other than renovation going on at other units :rant:

Janet
How about giving your process a specific and agreed time withduration as her own time, and the rest will be \"work\" time?
During her own time, it will be your ME or rest time.

[janet88]

starlight1968sg:

Janet
How about giving your process a specific and agreed time withduration as her own time, and the rest will be \"work\" time?
During her own time, it will be your ME or rest time.

she is supposed to plan her own schedule...but with so much homework, she just doesn't have time to do so.
I want to give her ME TIME too, but there are subjects like math, POA and physics which she requires help from hubby...but he is busy with tuition until 9+ daily. it's only weekend noon onwards when he has time for her. son is busy with his workload and can't coach her.

[MrsKiasu]

MyPillow:

MrsKiasu:

That is what dh says too..that day we went to east coast to play sand then to bedok hawker to eat..dh says go wherever also never mind, got to have a break.

chill ,... i dun go crazy with my kids work ..my own outside work already drive me nuts - But at least i got PAID + bonus ..But i am a bit angry at times, or every other day with ds . my dh said i may get old easily, ... manage n adjust our expectations are key to quality ageing i have given kid resources, its time they manage themselves at upp sec , else how to go tertiary - we cant be there all the time to \"watch and hawk\" at them ... i still do nag to remind them - else they will behave like 没政府 - i dun allow this to happen

oh ya... i miss those days going ecp play sand n eat nearby parkway hawker or east coast hawker .... where di my time go now... like more busy as kids grow too (??)

I was getting myself all ready for dd this year in fact and suddenly I feel soo free in a way..feel not needed at all it seems..so now every day I find something to bake..bake in smaller batch can finish by next day so can bake again..learning to cook too..realised not been cooking much so like everything going to start again..suddenly feel that like never get so close to understand dd2..take this opportunity to sayang dd2..I m also gain more peace with myself..kinda up to dd/her fate etc la..I cant even get near her in studies unless chers call up then I know what happened and do my part to send the msg..

[laughingcat]

Estee, woah...your DH so romantic. Valentine on cruise. :love:


zac'mum, dun worry so much. It's only the beginning. You will get the hand of it soon. Yes can totally feel you on the mad rush after work. I used to cringe over the mad rush, the constant nagging of the boys doing homework. The constant checking of the work schedules, home schedules, school schedules and daily homework schedules. Stay strong. You will get there once you lay out the schedules.

[janet88]

laughingcat:

zac'mum, dun worry so much. It's only the beginning. You will get the hand of it soon. Yes can totally feel you on the mad rush after work. I used to cringe over the mad rush, the constant nagging of the boys doing homework. The constant checking of the work schedules, home schedules, school schedules and daily homework schedules. Stay strong. You will get there once you lay out the schedules.

when there is a schedule in place, it's easier. however, it may get a little tricky when exams are near because other than getting daily homework completed, you would need to see that the kids' revise as well.

[laughingcat]

Janet, have a heart to heart talk with your dd on the help she needed other than your DH on the school related. This might help to reduce the unnecessary "waiting time" or specify a weekly schedule between your DH and DD.


I feel that should give teenagers some time out otherwise watched over them too tightly will have repercussion.

[laughingcat]

janet88:

laughingcat:

zac'mum, dun worry so much. It's only the beginning. You will get the hand of it soon. Yes can totally feel you on the mad rush after work. I used to cringe over the mad rush, the constant nagging of the boys doing homework. The constant checking of the work schedules, home schedules, school schedules and daily homework schedules. Stay strong. You will get there once you lay out the schedules.

when there is a schedule in place, it's easier. however, it may get a little tricky when exams are near because other than getting daily homework completed, you would need to see that the kids' revise as well.

When nearing to exam time, tweak the weekly schedule again.

For us, the kiddos have been trained to stick to the home study schedules. So when nearing to the exam, we have another schedule on the revision portion.

[janet88]

laughingcat:

Janet, have a heart to heart talk with your dd on the help she needed other than your DH on the school related. This might help to reduce the unnecessary \"waiting time\" or specify a weekly schedule between your DH and DD.


I feel that should give teenagers some time out otherwise watched over them too tightly will have repercussion.

she definitely needs breathing space. we have discussed subject workload.
on weekdays, she would get homework done and for questions she can't handle, she will put them aside until hubby returns home. these 3 weeks, she is having graded tests (CA1). after this period, we will resume our Saturday evenings out.